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That is a great question. I have read all the posts on this, and to tell you the truth I have not only taken the rings off but have started going tanning for the first time in my life to remove the signs of them being there!! After 17 years of wearing them, I feel naked without them. I do feel that WE made a commitment and the rings stood for that commitment together. With him being the WS, I did not feel that the commitment was valid, that the marriage was nullified from the moment he slept with her. I feel betrayed that he still wears them because they meant nothing to him when he was seeing her. Yet he refuses to take them off. I took mine off on D-Day and have not put them back on. It does cause alot of pain and questions from friends and family that do not know about this. But I just dont answer.
I am now seeing the other side of the picture and feel a little childish about it. I did honor my vows, I was faithful, honest and true to God and my marriage. I do deserve to wear them but I do not feel that he does.
D-day 5-18-05
35 BS (me)
52 WH
17 DS
15 DD
14 DDs twins
Currently in R.
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference" The Serenity Prayer
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Hi angi,
This topic has come up many times before.I am with Chris on this: I still wear my Wedding ring(not my diamond engagement or eternity bands though) and I will until I am officially divorced.I am still committed to my marriage even though there isn't much left of it now.My WH took his off long ago and I will not be like him!
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BW(me)40
DDay 10/11/03
Divorcing
'The Reformer'- enneagram type 1
~Let Higher Minds Prevail~
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~Life isn't complicated,we make it that way~
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