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I'm quite aware of how dangerous it is and how betrayed I feel. The problem is a lot of people don't see it that way, my wife being one of them.
-Mark
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My wife sees nothing wrong with her EA and sites years of feeling not in love as her reason for wanting to leave. I'll keep trying, but its hard. Monday one of her freinds is coming to visit. I'm afraid of pro-divorce talk. Now is not a good time to bring up anything with her, nt even marriage counseling. What is stopping her from leaving then? Why all the talk and no action, Mark?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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All talk no action?
Thats what I keep asking myself. Her reason is she has no place to go (for free) - true. No income - she quit her head nurse position. SHe hasn't even hinted at me to leave.
She's scared she's making a mistake if you ask me. Lets face it divorce is a big step.
Then I wonder if she's being sinister or something. Get through school get her masters a new job and split. That would be around June 2006. But I don't really think she's that ruthless.
Today so far she's been fairly ok. Normal tone to her voice the little we spoke. We'll be going out to eat later (as family - nothing new there).
Another point for GAL - she thinks I'm boring - I tend to agree. But I can't joke around with her because she just rolls her eyes if I try.
-Mark
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We took our D12 to therapy this morning. the session lasted about 2 hours. Looks like we are going to have to follow up with family therapy. Wife isn't to keen to that, but will do it for D12.
For about 1/2 hour wife and I were interviewed about things. One part was our marriage. My wife jumped all over my alcoholism of days gone by. I mentioned her male friend and secretcy surrounding their communication. I also mentioned all the emotional abuse she gave me since Christmas how being 'not quite happy' turned ino an angry rage after talking to OMW.
My wife also mentioned she didn't know what to do with our relationship, she doesn't know. This was the first time we ever had to speak about our thing in front of someone else (in charge).
Therapist says 'this family has a lot to work on in communication'.
-Mark
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