Hi, Sleepless.

That is great news.

Consider asking your lawyer to request an explanation of the custodial parent should your wife return.

I think this is important that you not let it go unchallenged.

I think your wife will be fired soon. That means she will be back, and have custody of your son.

Don't let this issue slip by.

Brit's/Brat, what are your thoughts on this?

God bless,
Gimble

We discussed it. It's not defined. Both lawyers decided a return to court was necessary if she returned to define that plan.


I tend to agree. As an alternative, I would consider WW and lawyer filing a motion to relinquish the right on return or march her back into court again.



I don't think so. As the parenting evaluator noted she is very organized and task oriented, which makes her succeed in the business environment, however.......

Having said that, I still think we'll set somehting up, if she doesnt' relinguish custody.

Hi, Sleepless.

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I do.

A word to the wise.

1) Never underestimate the power of prayer.

2) Never underestimate the ability of a wayward spouse to screw their life and business up.


God bless,
Gimble

I don't. Especially after this.


That I'm not so good at. I'm perpetually impressed by this capacity. I'm learning not to be surprised anymore. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

The school called today and said DS8 is off the waiting list and in the class. That was a non-event!

DS8 and WW returned to the Northwest today. Sounds like they're having some fun. Maybe DS8 is working a Plan A here. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> This weekend they head to SanDiego to visit a former Embassy Marine Guard and super young man.

Next week is Disneyland.

I'll review with my lawyer next week the request for revision to the Commisioner's ruling giving WW custody if she returns. I may just ask WW to sign an affidavit relinquishing her right to custody and file it with the court, or face the prospect of spending more money in court defending my revision request.

If she is fired, that would void her contract through 4/2006 and get her moved back to the States in October or November.

I went out last night to listen to Jazz with friends. Great time. WW called on DS8's cel phone to explain he had fallen asleep, and could she schedule a visit in September. I told her to firm up the dates and get back with me, but it would need to be a week after DS8's 9th birthday, because we have plans. Sounds like DS8 has also used up all of his credit ($10) on the phone. Ahh well.

The school took DS8 off the waiting list yesterday. So he's in!

One less thing. Today is house maintenance and car maintenance in the sunny Northwest!

WW and DS8 are visiting S18 in California. DS8 sounds like he's having a good time, but still ends his calls with "I love you dad! See you later." WW is making sure I get regular reports so I know where she is. It's nice to know she's worried about staying in touch.

I also called a few friends down there to let them know that WW and DS8 are in the neighborhood, and should be on the lookout for them.

DS8 is going to Disneyland on Wednesday. S18 lost both his tennis matches, but was talking to me about stuff!
<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Today my cel phone rang while I was at work. She's visiting our son at our house (We bought it when we got married.) in California.

WW: How do you take the valve apart under the sink?

Me: It just slips off.

WW: Well it won't come off, it just slides around. Do I have to cut it off?

Me: If it won't slide off, you might have to.

WW: Is that special tool you need down here, or do I need to buy one?

Me: Just use a hacksaw and smooth the edges.

WW: How much pipe needs to be left for the valve to slide on??.....

She is going to be cursing up a storm trying to do this. She used to just say, I need this done, I need that done. She loved making lists for me to accomplish. She used to appreciate how handy I was, but somehow she stopped respecting what I actually did for her.

I hope she starts appreciating that it's not always that easy!

WW with the drowned cat look....... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Came home tonight to find temporary "No Parking" signs set up down the block with my WW's 1967 MGB parked right next to one. She wanted it out there to have to drive last week, and she took the keys, but it was still there. I called to find out if she had the keys with her in CA. Of course she did! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

WW: You said it would be OK to leave it there. (I don't remember saying that, but OK.

Me: Well the city changed their mind and have decided to pave right where you're parked.

DS8 has the keys in his suitcase.......You think this is my fault don't you.

Me: (Thinking how to move the car without keys) What? What are you talking about??

WW: This is my fault isn't it?? You just don't want to say it, but you're thinking it.

Me: <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Uhhh NO. Take care of your items, I just need to figure out how to move it.

What is THAT all aout? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />
<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Ah well. WW is back to her defiant self. She's coming back in three weeks to visit. She asked if I could decide on my own or if I would have to call the parenting evaluator on her. I told her it would be fine as long as she took DS8 to his Sylvan classes and any other events. WW scoffed and said she didn't think the instruction was helping his reading at all. "I haven't noticed any improvement. I think that's just a waste of money!" I said his test scores have come way up especially in comprehension, but she was unimpressed. Not her problem anymore.

DS8, his brother and WW all went to Disneyland on Wednesday. Sounds like WW did a good job sticking to the "have fun and don't make DS8 worry about stressed out mom" plan. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

He's coming home on an airplane this evening at 7:30. We can come home and relax a little and maybe do a little deprogramming. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> It's been two weeks. It will be nice to have him home. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

WW's lawyer sent a 50 page stack of documents for me to respond to. Good GRIEF what goofy questions you lawyers (Brit's Brat) think up! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Paraphrased,
"Prior to marriage, did you act as a married couple." You mean like on stage??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

"Name some people who saw you acting as a married couple."" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/ooo.gif" alt="" /> ??????

Interesting question, I would think many of these questions you could strike up to matter of opinion, or depends on definition...is there a more legal term to explain that the question depends on the interpretation of the words?

Hi, Sleepless.

I am no lawyer, but the questions are very broad. I should think that your lawyer should be able to return the documents and request that the questions either be withdrawn, or be much more specific.

In any case, it goes without question that you should NOT respond in any way outside of direct instruction from your lawyer.

Also, you might want to reconsider granting your wife any visitation not sanctioned by the evaluator. Talk with your lawyer.

God bless,
Gimble

QUOTE Good GRIEF what goofy questions you lawyers (Brit's Brat) think up! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> UNQUOTE

Sleepless, be careful thinking that lawyers ask goofy questions. There is ALWAYS an underlying legal reason why such questions are asked. For example, the two questions which you paraphrased have to do with common law marriage. I don't know your legal situation but if the lawyer can prove that you had a common law marriage prior to you being married by normal legal means (ie registry office, church, etc) he may make a case for more alimony, more assets, etc, in favor of your wife. Have your answers checked by your lawyers.

SIS,

Remind me, again, how old were you when you and WW met? How old was she? Also, SIS, e-mail me the EXACT questions you were asked in this regard. **edit**

Could be the questions are totally irrelevant or they could have some strategy and that is why they are asking. (Remember, we're dealing with a lawyer who dresses up her dogs)....

Regards,

BB

SIS -- you are sure dealing with a whole lot of things here!!! I don't know if I can hold it as well as you have been doing. Don't have wise advice.. as I don't have kids. Since I see you posting on Pebb's thread as much as I do, I thought I'd just offer moral support!

~A

I'm going to use the visitation to leverage WW's rights. I would like her to rescind her right to have custody to DS8 if she returns and I want her to return DS8 home by December 30 after Christmas break to get used to the time change for school.

Good thought.

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Ashley88.... I LOVE moral support. You just take one issue at a time. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Hey BB. I thought I would get your attention. I'll send you exact text tomorrow. I've answered disclosure questions before, but these are odd.

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Now this shows that u r a caring parent. Trying to appease a WS does not take priority to the welfare of your children.

Don't ever lose the gift for having a sound mind. The WS sure try to pull us into the fog. Glad to know you are waaay smarter than her. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Hugz,
L.

Don't we all love moral support <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

The drama with Your WW is quite some thing to handle!

Maybe I shld be alittle glad that my WS is the non-engaging, silent, disappearing MIA type. I have not spoken / seen him in a month and a half. So no drama *AT ALL*. Just a loud silence.

I've seen some of the exchanges that you posted re: your very angry 18 yo son. Has he seen both sides / truth of the story now?

~A

THanks O! I've got my engineering logic going <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />