Agree 'bout you needing to have legal counselors consulted B4 making or taking any statements.

Be cautious.....move forward but move wisely. Watch out for the la hoi ya, hoi ya (probably misspelled). Did I ever tell you that story? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

L.

OUCH! An easy mark? That's hitting a little below the belt there mister <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

I'm not surprised she did something, just surprised at her ingenuity. I really couldn't have done anything to prevent it. As a matter of fact, I didn't have the ammunition to do much more until she pulled this stunt. The parenting plan will be revised shortly, after I'm cleared of spousal rape. That's disgusting. If I can get the prosecutor to do it, I'll see if I can't get them to pursue charges against her for making a false charge.

In the mean time, she doesn't get to see DS9 anymore. I think the restraining order is possible now. Before I had no cause. Now, I do.

You mean La Jolla (hoy ya) like the city in Southern California? I like a good story. Do you have a link. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Oh yeah. And another expensive one too! Geez! WW holds me responsible for her time in jail. I think she wants me to spend some time there too. Not gonna happen.

The Criminal Defense lawyer was recommended by my attorney and a family friend. His resume reads like a who's who. And, he was a Asst DA for the city for 8 years. Seems to be well respected in the city too. GOOD!

This is where I ask him to help me turn the tables. If I'm successful, I'm going to miss the child support. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

I think I'm covered with the lawyer. Why do I feel like I'm sending a lot of lawyers kids through college??? Would anyone be angry if I passed the hat? DS9 needs some cub scout gear.

Spousal Rape is the answer.

Of course I'm the one that tried to encourage to go after the monster that raped her as a 7 year old. I tried to explain he might still be out there doing it. She didn't take any action. I guess it's pretty tough when your own mother refuses to believe you when both you and yours sister tell her about it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

Appointment with Criminal Defense Attorney in the morning. He believes I may not even have to speak with the detective. The charges are baseless and without proof. That would certainly be cheaper <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

The attorney actually told me. If you talk to the detective before we talk, either I will refuse to represent you, or I'll charge you double.

Paints a pretty clear picture.

You know....one thing this website did for me in terms of growth, was that I learned that there is no difference between men and women when it comes to just how low a WS will sink. I also learned that there are so many good dads out there, right next to the good moms.

It's been years since I've rolled my eyes and felt the urge to talk about "men". Sleepless ~ thank goodness your son has you in his life.

Thanks BR. We're not all the same. As I used to tell WW. I don't associate with those guys.

For any legal beagles out there. The guy I'm seeing today has an AV rating in the legal profession. I hope that's good. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

State of mind is still good. Just annoyed.

It figures ... she is becoming desperate ... and instead of actually elevating herself to meet the task of good divorced parenting ... she is attacking YOU.

I ~almost~ feel sorry for her ... but don't worry ... it's not even conceivable that I'd actually feel sorry for her.

My advice?

Go for the throat.... legally speaking.

Anyone willing to file false charges against the wronged spouse is fair game in my book. She's going after your child's father ... that's how I look at it.

Doesn't it seem that some people given a choice of 2 paths ... seem to consistently choose the more difficult least honest path because it promises instant gratification?

Hi, Sleepless.

Sorry to 'ouch' you.

I sure hope that the restraining order will go through. The trumped up charges should help. Your wife is playing with the legal system. I am no lawyer, but I do have several legal friends and they all tell me that judges take a dim view of the stuff your wife is doing.

Hang tough. You are welcome too email me if you need a guy to talk to.

God bless,
Gimble

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> "Sorry to ouch you."

I think I'll survive. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> My life would be boring if that were my biggest concern.

The Criminal attorney was a very cordial, friendly man who layed out two paths forward. After reading just the parenting evaluators assessment, he was pretty sure the alleged event never happened. If it had, why didn't it come up during the parenting evaluation? I love it when logic takes hold. We agreed that directing the detective to the court files and stating I have not done anything wrong should make everything go away.

The lawyer called the police detective and left him a message clearly stating that there was a court file several inches thick with absolutely no reference to the alleged actions.

The divorce lawyer and I are obtaining a copy of the police report and sending it to the parenting evaluator. After that we'll institute further legal actions.

The good news is that this may cost less than $500!

??? SHALL WE pass the hat around ???

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Isn't is just amazing when you use the word "just" AND "$500" TOGETHER ???

~especially~ when paying for something that did not happen !!!! LOL

GREAT. You had to bring THAT up! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Hi, Sleepless.

You did good!!

I am very proud of the way you have handled yourself through all this.

I like gutsy people.

God bless,
Gimble

Thanks Gimble. I like you too. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

I had to console DS9 tonight. He began crying after getting off the phone with STBXW.. wishing we were a family. Wishing S18 was here and mom still loved daddy. I finally got him to sleep. I'm glad I have a counselor lined up on Thursdays. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

You're a good Dad Sleepless and you are teaching your sons to be good men. Its a tough job and you are doing well. Keep it up! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

And because sometimes sleepless its forgotten in all the drama and stress..


A big sisterly hug for you [[[[[SLEEPLESS]]]]]

praying you will have some peace soon in all this mess.

AW

now back to dirty nappies, feeding and the joys of parenthood..lol

Thanks guys! WW got the message that not to visit DS9 until Christmas based on "recent events here in Seattle." She called DS9 last night and told him, "Daddy doesn't want me to see you until Christmas." Oh, OK, he replied.

I took him up to bed for a long explanation that mommy is doing some scary things, and I want to make sure she's feeling better before she spends time with you again. I left out the specifics, but mentioned she might be lying to the police. I can only assume she said something to the police.

DS9: Well dad, I want to do something to help mom feel better.

Me: I think that sounds good DS9. I wasn't able to do it. Let's ask the counselor on Thursday the best way for you to do that.

I did check with my criminal lawyer today ( I feel like John Gotti!), and he said that the worst case scenario is they might arrest me <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />, but that's unlikely. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

I've got the attorney's card in my wallet just in case. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Are we having fun yet?!!

Thanks for the hug AW.

Hi, Sleepless.

The problem with arresting you (unless you 'rollover' for some insane reason), is that the DA's office has to have some semblance of a provable case against you. Basing anything on the word of your wife would not be a wise thing for even a junior. Also, there is civil redress for false criminal prosecution. That could make you wealthy.

You do know that you can go ahead and sue your wife for filing false charges just as soon as the case is dropped. Have you spoken to your lawyer about such things? There are also criminal ramifications for such actions by your wife

I could be wrong since I am NOT a lawyer, but that is the general playbook in my area.

The absolute smartest thing you can do, is to get divorced ASAP.

God bless,
Gimble