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Voila! Neak's Fingers have returned.




Actually I don't know anything more than anybody else at this point. However, I did spend the evening helping babysit the 6-delinquent Troll Troup at NeakSis' house 2 miles from where Neak lives, and there were no explosions, fires, gunshots, or sirens that we heard during that time (and NeakSis lives right across the street from the fire station), so we are optomistic...we think.

I've been up for 30 hrs. with one measly nap about noon today, so I'm giving up waiting for a post. We can all read it in the morning, and if there's no post I'll go over and see just who and what hit the fan. On Neak's behalf, thank you for your interest and your prayers. She is a dangerous and powerful woman today. Lucky for WH, she's nice, too, or he'd be spending a lot more time looking over his shoulder to see what was behind him, even more than his paranoia already makes him do.

Curiously awaiting tomorrow--

t&l

I think Neak needs an new job. She's not a good head of IT anymore, since she actually knows something about it and was able to tell me how to move info from one thread to another so well that I, of all people,was able to successfully follow her instructions. A true miracle.

Quote: Voila! Neak's Fingers have returned. I think she's turning me into a boomerang! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Neak is busy getting ready for a confrontation with OW this morning. She didn't tell me if the pushup bra was also involved, but I suspect it will be. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> WH/FWH/WH/FWH (this boy needs some new letters in his alphabet!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />) arrived home last night in a very subdued frame of mind. When he stepped out of the car, the first thing he did was hand Neak his secret second cell phone, which OW had bought for him, and on which they were talking regularly so as not to leave "tracks."

This was the beginning of a 4-hr. marathon of him trying to convince her not to summarily kick him out on his shell-pink, um, EAR, during which he voluntarily disgorged a wide variety of previously-undiscovered nefarious activities. I asked why, if he was coughing it all up on his own, it took 4 hrs. to come to a conclusion, and she said it was because she responded like a rock to all his pleas...but in a KIND way. I'm sort of visualizing a velvet-covered boulder, smoothly soft, but uncomfortably unyielding. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> She wants to tell you details herself later today, when she gets back, so I'm not going to run the risk of blabbing something she wanted to unveil on her own. Depending on how this goes this morning, I'm either going to get her back chopped up in little pieces (Is OW a violent psychobabe? I guess we'll find out!), or as something resembling a glowing angelic being with a flaming sword, and the little pieces will be going to somebody [i]else's house! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> I don't think I can't say this, since it's bound to come up anyway, but this time she's putting a lot of the responsibility for devising a NC plan on Mr. Perpetrator (subject to Queenly revision and monitoring, of course). Let's just say that last time there was an unequal amount of effort put into recovery by the two of them (Is there a more polite way to say the lazy twit was letting her do everything while he sat back with his serving of cake and chowed down? I thought I did that rather well!), and this time she's not going to be carrying the whole load. Or even most of it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

At any rate, she's certainly convinced him she means business and that there will be no more screwing around, either metaphorically or literally. What he does with this knowledge now becomes his responsibility, and everybody's just going to have to wait to see how it turns out. He may find that he doesn't LIKE being married to a powerful woman, but at least at this moment it's what he thinks he wants.

To Be Continued..............................

t&l

P.S. Now that I know how to cut and paste, I'll move this over to Idiotville all by my lonesome. Unless it doesn't show up there, in which case you'll know I forgot how to do it between last night and this morning and need somebody intelligent to fix it for Neak. [i][/i]

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Good job, t&l! I am so impressed with your daughter and can assume safely that she was taught well by her mum.



It's about time that familial stubborness was useful for something! Her newly-discovered power is kinda like having had a gemstone in the rough for your whole life, but never taking it out and having it shaped and polished, to reveal its true worth. Then you take it in and have it spiffed up, and when you get it back, it's like, "Wow! What a treasure I had all along and didn't know it. I think I'll wear it forever." With her, the niceness didn't go away, but I think/hope the compliance and unhealthy submissiveness are gone for good. And that's fine. A wife who is too submissive is bad for herself, and definitely bad for her husband.

IMHF(emale)O.

As long as she always put him first, before anything she thought she wanted for herself, there was never any reason for him to put HER first...so it just ended up that they both put him first. And look how THAT turned out! There is a chance to rebuild a new, and healthy (this time) relationship. I'd keep my fingers crossed, but they're my magic "checking fingers" and I need to use them at work. I know. I've got a weak bladder. I'll cross my legs instead.

Good luck to them, and to all of you.

t&l signing out

Neak has created a monster. I can COPY. I can PASTE. I can do it overandoverandoverandover again, too. Whee!!!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

{{{{{{{{{{{MBers}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} and many thanks from the Scary Woman herself. There was no confrontation this morning with OW; my presence was merely precautionary in case she showed up unannounced.

There's so much to tell, and not much time to tell it in, so I'll try to give a very brief overview for now. Yes, the cell phone was a very important step towards honesty, along with all the other things he told me. Perhaps I will turn out to have been prematurely optimistic, but a light of sorts seems to have dawned, allowing him to see a great deal of manipulation cunningly performed by OW. She has been systematically poisoning his mind against me and trying to lead him into every greater betrayals, all the while sweetly claiming to be his friend and love him, yadda yadda.

She did it so carefully he didn't catch on until he looked back over everything at once. But she kind of over-reached herself, trying to make me out to be such a horrible woman that he eventually began to question the lack of evidence of some of her accusations.

I have the Telephone of Evil in my pocket right now, and will keep it there until we finish up the NC letter tonight and mail it all back to her at once. From everything he's told me, she is likely to try very hard to leap over the boundaries, and I am braced for an onslaught of venom if it comes to that. In fact, when he first broke NC this last time (May 25), it was because she went to the place where the A started, knowing he was on duty, and left a note on his windshield begging him to call her. "I can heal so much better if I can only hear your voice and know that you're ok..." And off it went again.

One of her most diabolical plans was to have someone else call up our company and hire AJ's services on a traveling assignment, pay the regular wage and everything, and join him for a fun-filled trip to Hawaii. She wanted to loan the company $30,000 so he would be under her thumb for practically forever. She tried to get him to talk me into letting her assist me with some of the office stuff, just to be "helpful". (I pointed out to him that she thought that would be a win-win sitch for her - if I said yes she gained a more integral part in the company and in our lives, and if I said no I looked like a wicked witch-woman out to get poor, poor OW who was just trying to help. Need I say I chose the WWW role?)

So much garbage. She said she had heard that M*** & I were a 'hot item', she said I was getting birth control pills so I could go mess around on him, she said I was funneling $ out of the company for my own use, and if he would only let her check over the records she would be able to find everything out, I could go on a lot longer but you get the idea.

We are just about at the 6 month mark where so many A's disintegrate anyway. FWH (I can call him that again, can't I? At least for now?) fully realizes that I am serious when I tell him I will not go through this again. He knows he is only an ant's toenail from banishment, and so far seems to be taking that very seriously. Naturally I will continue to watch closely, while sitting back and watching him labor.

Oh, one thing that was pretty funny, today he kind of looked sideways at me and asked, "Do you notice how you seem to find out all this stuff very quickly?" I just had to laugh, and told him God keeps on tattling on him. The timing is so impeccable that he can see Another hand at work.

I am so strong right now I even scare myself a little bit. I highly recommend power for everybody. I can tell that, whatever ends up happening in my marriage, I am well on my way to personal recovery at last. I HAVE BECOME THE LIGHTHOUSE!!!!!! Well, I'm trying really hard anyway.

Neak:

You are focusing a lot on the OW.

What about your H? This is about him. Is he focusing his discussion on her as well or is he talking about his betrayal of you and expressing his remorse about what he has done to you? He did not have to go along with her schemes...

He may have done the same thing with her, NEAK, blaming the reconciliation on you.

It's hard to imagine or believe what a cake-eater will do. I'm wanting to hear about him taking more personal responsibility in this.

Sorry, all done ranting about OW. Yes, this is about H, who is taking responsibility at least right now for his betrayal, etc., and only focusing on OW enough to develop a distaste for her & her methods. We are pretty well done discussing her, except for the actual writing of the new, brief NC letter, & then it's all about us. Sorry if I got a little carried away.

Oh goodie - no more talk about OW. Have you asked him how he is going to prevent contact with her, if she continues to contact him after NC letter?

The NC letter should say:

Dear OW - I realize that I love my wife and want to stay with her forever. Please don't contact me for any reason.

You bet your sweet socks I asked him. And after he had come up with a number of ideas, all very good, I presented him with my list of requirements that I feel will fill in any gaps. It includes, but is not limited to, blockades on the phone, email, and quitting the job where she found him to leave the note. It's a very comprehensive list from NC/MC clear on down to "don't even ask me what the status is on the money - I will just tell you when it's all paid off". He agreed to it all, and I said I would wait and see if he did it.

Not just blockades, Neak. Telephone numbers and E-Mail Addresses have to be changed. They are so addicted. Also the note needs to read. I will not contact you ever again in this lifetime. Do not contact me.

Oh where is that post about how the WS should act?

He is going to completely switch phones, not just switch numbers. Good point with the NC letter specifying NC both ways. I made very clear to him that if he wanted to start demonstrating his commitment he was going to do this work himself. In my old incarnation I would simply have received permission to make the changes and then have made all the phone calls and arrangements for him. Now, clad in my Red Cape of Power, I sit on my queenly throne with regal dignity and watch to see if my heretofore disloyal subject demonstrates fidelity, or condemns himself to summary execution.

I see some t&l in you, LOL Good for you Neak!! Proud of you.

The penitent subject phones the MC himself and sets up an appointment for this evening. The Queen smiles and nods approvingly, well aware that she had already reserved the spot with the MC the day before to make sure it would be available. The Queen is nothing if not thorough.

Thank you FF, although I hope you only see a hint of t&l. This is only because the world only has room for one t&l and I don't want to crowd her, lol.

Get off the computer this instant, young lady. You are supposed to be getting ready for your trip!!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> ***Moment of thoughtful silence***Although if you miss your plane, I won't have to babysit all weekend, will I? Hm-m-m-m-m... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Don't let her fool you about there being only a little of me in her. Between Neak and NeakSis, I'm beginning to worry that so much of me is showing up in the two of them that pretty soon there won't be any of ME left. And with my luck, the fat will be the last to go! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

t&l

P.S. Hey, Neak, I'm going to take a shower now. Really. This time I mean it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Quote: Well hopefully she impressed him. She seems able to hold her own.

A lot of that is thanks to MB. Not that she didn't already have it in her, but the people here, by their encouragement, advice, and support, gave her the confidence to bring everything out in the open. They bucked her up when she was down. They smacked her around when she was foggy. They came up with ideas and strategies even her fervid imagination hadn't discovered yet. And in the process, they helped to provide her the opportunity and the means with which to attempt the restoration of her marriage.

Right now Neak and FWH are in St. Louis, MO. They'll be there for the next 5 days; she took along the laptop, so I know she intends to update everybody. Whether or not she actually finds time to do it is up for grabs. Hm-m-m-m-m. Perhaps not the best description of the activity schedule of a couple halfway across the country attempting a 2nd honeymoon. Let me rephrase that. She's going to be having 3-4 book signings over several days, for her book that was published in Feb. of this year. Tomorrow is her 33rd birthday and 9th wedding annniversary. I can't promise that every single moment not spent signing books is going to be profitably spent logged onto Idiotville! It is entirely possible that some of it might be, um, wasted.

I've been up for 40 hrs. now. Even for me, that's ridiculous, so I'm cancelling myself and going to bed. Neak will be back, with a story of some sort, soon.

But not soon enough for me! While she's off gallivanting and schmoozing, I have Mr. Computer, Princess Peony, and the Whirling Dervish. What do YOU have planned for the weekend? I'm not planning anything. It's Thursday night and MY weekend's already shot.

t&l