Building Marriages That Last A Lifetime
| Tax-deductible Donation | Site Tour | Meet Dr. Harley | Basic Concepts | Q&A Columns | Articles | Guidance Forum

Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum

This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at mbrestored@gmail.com
Forums Calendar Active Threads
Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
Page 2 of 2 1 2
Re: OK I found some proof.....
mylife25 #1362348 04/27/05 06:11 PM
Joined: Sep 2001
Posts: 5,733
Northern California
R
redhat Offline
Member
redhat
Member
R Offline
Joined: Sep 2001
Posts: 5,733
Northern California
It takes PTC ... Patience, Time and Consistent. Keep reminding yourself to focus on you and make him focus on you too <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />. Don't get discourage, keep trying and keep a journal so that you could see what work and what doesn't.

-rh-

Give your absolute best such that you could look back 10 years from now w/ no regret.

Happily Married to Lady Elina - 04/29/06
Re: OK I found some proof.....
redhat #1362349 04/27/05 06:42 PM
Joined: Jun 2004
Posts: 343
M
mylife25
Offline
Member
mylife25
Member
M Offline
Joined: Jun 2004
Posts: 343
see the thing is my commonsense tells me all that but i still have some irrational voice in my head that drives me nuts!!! like tonight H said he had to bring home one of his employees who was on his way home b/c he had no ride. i just said ok to him but the wheels in my head are a turning...
Re: OK I found some proof.....
mylife25 #1362350 04/27/05 06:52 PM
Joined: Sep 2001
Posts: 5,733
Northern California
R
redhat Offline
Member
redhat
Member
R Offline
Joined: Sep 2001
Posts: 5,733
Northern California
Don't think lady, just do it <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> . How about this I would give you 3 things to do this weekend and see the result. 1. You to get a hair make over, I mean really major make over and get your nail done too at the same time. Color your foot nails. 2. You to go to VC to get the sexiest undie and night loungerie plus get also a nice dress for yourself. 3. Saturday night, dress up and w/o a word, go to your sis/bro house for an hour or two. If he asks you tell him you go to your sis/bro house. When you come back, go to bed w/ your sexy undie but complaint that you have a headache.

Could you try that ? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

-rh-

Give your absolute best such that you could look back 10 years from now w/ no regret.

Happily Married to Lady Elina - 04/29/06
trying to prefect or at least do a plan A
redhat #1362351 04/27/05 09:02 PM
Joined: Jun 2004
Posts: 343
M
mylife25
Offline
Member
mylife25
Member
M Offline
Joined: Jun 2004
Posts: 343
Ok i need some advice. normall when he leaves he calsl me when he gets into the car. tongiht hes "taking hom a friend from work , who lives on the way home" Well he called me to say hes leaving and he didnt call from his cell. he caleld from work. now i know how long it takes to get home and this guy "lives" on the way home so he sould only be about 10 min late or so. i want so bad to call his cell . i guess to checkup but i feel like he wouldnt answer, he'd be mad or he has it turned off.. so i'm trying not to
Re: trying to prefect or at least do a plan A
mylife25 #1362352 04/28/05 12:13 AM
Joined: Sep 2001
Posts: 5,733
Northern California
R
redhat Offline
Member
redhat
Member
R Offline
Joined: Sep 2001
Posts: 5,733
Northern California
Again, you are focusing on his behavior. You need to shift your focus on you. WS/OP will makes mistake, just be patience.

What good does it do calling him ?.

-rh-

Give your absolute best such that you could look back 10 years from now w/ no regret.

Happily Married to Lady Elina - 04/29/06
Page 2 of 2 1 2

Moderated by  Fordude 

Link Copied to Clipboard
Forum Search
Who's Online Now
1 members (11october11), 357 guests, and 485 robots.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Newest Members
Babuu, thomas-dean, Mukesh Ram, duocbinhdong, RonBrown
72,055 Registered Users
Latest Posts
Can I become attracted to anyone?
by clara jane - 08/27/25 02:42 AM
Annulment reconsideration help
by RonBrown - 08/21/25 11:27 PM
Three Times A Charm
by leorasy - 08/20/25 12:00 AM
Forum Statistics
Forums67
Topics133,625
Posts2,323,528
Members72,055
Most Online8,273
Aug 17th, 2025
Forum Rules · Mark All Read Contact Us · Forum Help · Marriage Builders
Building Marriages That Last A Lifetime
Feedback | Terms and Conditions | Privacy Policy | Contact Us | Site Map | Account
Copyright © 2025, Marriage Builders, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Site Navigation
Powered by UBB.threads™ PHP Forum Software 8.0.0