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now that is not true commited. I am just uncomfortable in making the call at work, as I do not want it to get out. I did not say I was not going to call. I apologize that you feel that way.
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3 beautiful sons,and 1 beautiful daughter!
Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me....
I guess it is shame on me.
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Why are you apologizing to her for her comment? K, you have got to stop doing that. You've got mail.
me31
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H left Aug11'04
found out about OW aug14'04
H came home Dec28
1st recovery started in Feb 05
Apr. 8 continued contact discovered ow and i confront Wh, H chooses marriage
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KMEJ,
You owe no apology for committed's feelings....you didn't cause those feelings and you can't fix those feelings. Stay focused on yourself right now.....stay focused on your feelings....stay focused on taking action while your feelings are intense.
You're doing well walking through this KMEJ....keep walking....we're here with you.
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That's right. No pressure K. How are you?
me31
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DD H's ONS june'04
H left Aug11'04
found out about OW aug14'04
H came home Dec28
1st recovery started in Feb 05
Apr. 8 continued contact discovered ow and i confront Wh, H chooses marriage
Am I a fool?
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KMEJ, I'm new around here but I can still show a sister some support -- I'm here for you too. I admire the bravery and strength you have today.
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honestly I am scared to go home, scared not too, scared to call, scared not too. I work at my other job tonight so I will not be home until 11pm, besides a few minutes to run home, hug my kids, and leave again. I am thinking it might be better not to go home because then I will not see my kids cry when I leave, but then I would miss them terrible.
KMEJ
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It sounds like THIS is the day for you to make your first call. Missing your kids while you are at work must not be something new. Make your call, go to your job, and know that you are taking very good care of yourself and your kids by doing those two things. You'll see your kids again tomorrow, and you'll be a stronger, more loving mom and woman when you wake up tomorrow.
You're doing well walking through this while your feelings and your fear is intense.....keep walking KMEJ....we're here with you.
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H just called to tell me I forgot my stuff for my other job so I have to run home. he is in a good mood today because he is having the guys over for a poker game tonight, and because he knows he messed up- just another turn in the cycle. I am tired of the cycle.
KMEJ
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I know you're tired of the cycle. That's why today is the day for your first call.
You will be a stronger, more loving mom and woman after you make the call.
Keep walking through this KMEJ....you're still doing well....keep walking.....we're here with you.
Which phone have you decided to use?
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KMEJ - After you make your call, is there a friend or coworker that who be with you when you go home? Just to have another person around there with you? The person doesn't have to know anything -- they're just a work mate or pal keeping you company...
Sally
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today is just run in and run out. I am going now as I have to be at my other job in 45 minutes. I will check in later tonight. Take care of you.
KMEJ
3 beautiful sons,and 1 beautiful daughter!
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Can you be late to your other job?
Can you make the call from your other job?
Only you can start breaking the cycle. Your first phone call will do that.
What phone are you going to use for the call?
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my cell, and I am going to call on my way, I will let you know later when I get off. Good evening all
KMEJ
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KMEJ,
Would you be more comfortable if an experienced advocate called you and made it so you could answer questions with a yes or no ??
That method is something advocates do and it will protect your privacy at the workplace.
Would you consider this if you are nervous to call?
Sally
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I think K has left work to go to her other job.
Last edited by shelly_3; 05/04/05 03:09 PM.
me31
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DD H's ONS june'04
H left Aug11'04
found out about OW aug14'04
H came home Dec28
1st recovery started in Feb 05
Apr. 8 continued contact discovered ow and i confront Wh, H chooses marriage
Am I a fool?
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{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{KMEJ)))))))))))))
Words have the power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind, they can change our world.
~~Buddha
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my cell, and I am going to call on my way, I will let you know later when I get off. Good evening all <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Good for you! See you are strong! I knew it all along! (ok now I'm bragging) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Anything we can do to help please let us know! Cheers, Miker
I was the BS - 36
She was the WS - 36, PA with MM
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Oh duh, I just seen the other posts. Oh and BTW K, if you dont have free long distance like I do, just send me a text or an email and ill call you. Hugs.
me31
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DD H's ONS june'04
H left Aug11'04
found out about OW aug14'04
H came home Dec28
1st recovery started in Feb 05
Apr. 8 continued contact discovered ow and i confront Wh, H chooses marriage
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I'm looking forward to hearing from you and about the call.
I'll keep checking this thread throughout the evening.
You're doing very very well walking through this......keep walking....we're here with you.
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I just talked to K, she made the call. She sounds good. Im going out now, ill be back later.
me31
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DD H's ONS june'04
H left Aug11'04
found out about OW aug14'04
H came home Dec28
1st recovery started in Feb 05
Apr. 8 continued contact discovered ow and i confront Wh, H chooses marriage
Am I a fool?
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