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Ron
Have you spent any time examining what you know of affairs and wondered why the F*** any sane human would engage in somethingthat only EVER leads to heartbreak, pain, regret, self loathing and potentially illness and death ?
I mean do any WS actually BELIEVE the 'pleasure' they get from affairs is REAL ?
I am beginning to think infidelity is in some cases a temporary mental aberration.
I mean your W actually paid with her life : can ANY SF and sneaky, lying EN fulfllment be worth dying for ?
* sigh *
And to think the media calls them 'love affairs'. * shakes head *
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Ron
Have you spent any time examining what you know of affairs and wondered why the F*** any sane human would engage in somethingthat only EVER leads to heartbreak, pain, regret, self loathing and potentially illness and death ?
* sigh * Bob, I've had 11 months to ponder and "examine". I have drawn but one conclusion...HUMAN FRAILTY. We're all just human. Sometimes, even good people do stupid things. My wife had a saying she always used after having to "correct" one of our grand-children... I LOVE YOU, NO MATTER WHAT. So it is, and so it shall be...
Me, 58
Her, 52 (called away 4/5/2005)
Married 32+
d-day (this time) 6/13/04
children - grown
The highest courage is to dare to be yourself in the face of adversity. Choosing right over wrong, ethic over convenience, and truth over popularity...these are choices that measure your life.
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You're probably right Ron.
You raise another philosophical debate right there too " I love you no matter what".
Peace br'a.
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Ron -
Thanks for sharing your story here. The only answer is human frailty. There is no intent to hurt anyone.
It is very sad how families pay the price. I feel extremely bad for your oldest daughter. She will have a hard time working through the grief.
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Ron,
Please let your older daughter 'J' know that forgiveness is never a gift to the person who wronged us but a gift we give to ourselves.
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