I just wanted to thank all of you for your supportive and encouraging words over the letter. I got enough poor, sweet baby even for me. Thankyouthankyouthankyou.

Now if any of you want to keep today's visit in your prayers I would be grateful. Confrontation is not my style and I am rather nervous about the whole thing. I want to make sure that whatever direction I go with visits/contact is the right one.

neaksis

if you get emotional - angry etc - make the decision after you have cooled down. How you put up with that rubbish is beyond me.
But I'll pray that it goes well.

Good luck <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I won't be driving to CA, unless maybe a disaster wipes out people's homes. Let's hope that doesn't happen! The stuff on our coast is heartbreaking enough!

I had a run-in with a toll-booth guy in Indiana who was giving me H*!! about going through the wrong booth. I finally told him, "Well, look, I'm not a damn Yankee and where I come from, folks don't have to pay money everytime they go out driving. Now, get out of my way, and you can kiss my grits!" I think Mel would have been sooooo proud of me! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> LOL!



I want to open a discount store...with higher-end name brand clothing that I can sell at half-price or less. I will also sell other items at steep discounts. DD and I opened a $1 store 2 years ago. It's different from Dollar Tree type stores, in that we sell things that aren't made specifically to sell for $1. We have a lot of name-brand items...factory over-runs and overstocks, as well as some store returns (not customer returns, which is different). We sell stuff like $7-$10 famous name (that begin with REV or ALM) cosmetics for $1, just to give you an example.

My H wanted no part of the $1...said we couldn't make money selling stuff for $1. Soooo....to finance the $1 store, we had a huge garage sale. H laughed at me when I told him that I was going to finance it from garage sale proceeds, but he's not laughing now! Last laugh is on me! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Anyway, we often get stuff (small appliances, etc.) in our loads that I'd have to be really stupid to sell for $1, so I sell those items on Ebay. When we get our new store open, I will be selling some of those items in the new store.

I think the new business will go over really well. I had some stuff the other day, so I set up a table outside the future new store. Within an hour, I had sold enough to have $130 profit. I wanna be a Discount Queen! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> LOL!

Neaksis shouldn't work herself up too much over what goes down with BioDad. She should just keep in mind that she is doing what is best for her kids...even if it means eliminating their family from their lives. Explaining things to the kids can be the dicey part.

With our D's son, we've simply explained that his dad is not in his life because he makes such bad choices for his own life and that none of it is DGS's fault. Because the other grandparents have aided and abetted their son in evading child support obligations, DD has let them know that they need not make any more of their 3X per year phone calls to "check on" DGS. Need I say that these grandparents live only 25 miles away and in the past 11 years have made practically no effort to see DGS? DGS told DD, "I will always love my dad, but I don't much like him, and I HATE drugs!" Smart kid!

AW...I will tell H how you cook eggplant. I only cook enough nowadays just to see if I remember HOW to cook! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

Is Mikey supposed to entertain himself while you work? Or do they have on-site day care?


That's a lot of people to entertain with your breasts! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />


Too late! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

t&l

I'm not much into "serious" litereature. Oh, all right, who am I kidding? I avoid "serious" literature like the plague. If I'm going to take the time to watch something, or to read a book, somebody had jolly well better be making me LAUGH! If I want drama, I'll balance my checkbook or pay bills.


Not me. I've spent much of my life stomping blithely through the tulips, only to be <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> and <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> and <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> and <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> every time one of those harmless-looking little blossoms reared up and bit me in the butt! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> I'm sure you saved yourself an enormous amount of trouble by learning about the ripple phenomena early. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

t&l

And that takes a lot, let me tell you! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> Neaksis, the affection sponge.

t&l

He IS a smart kid. Biodad's oldest son, DS#1, is 11. He hasn't articulated it quite so eloquently, but his sentiments run pretty much along the same lines. He did say once, "My dad is a sissy, isn't he?" when Biodad was proving himself without sufficient scrotal contents to stand up to Gargamel Granny. Couldn't have put it better myself. A big, hulking, ex-felon, tattooed sissy. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

t&l

Neak, I hope that's YOU reading a post in flat mode, and not AJ! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> Neaksis is over here panting to get up on the roof and finish the job. I'm afraid she's going to go up there by herself and start wielding the nail gun unsupervised!!

Oh, goody, here he is. Cancel above. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

t&l

Then she shouldn't have been in such a hurry to leave without him, should she?

OMG

1.30am, Mikey is WIDE awake, I have to work at 7.00am ...I want to know WHO said it was a good idea to keep a career??????????

BLOODY MEN!!

Aussie and his ideas of equality!!

I WANT to be a kept woman!!!

I would say Aussie has already turned you into a kept woman...

Kept awake at night.
Kept in suspense.
Kept changing diapers.
Kept churning out the milk.
And kept in a state of perpetual frustration by those explicit SMS messages he does not scruple to have the censors read.

You're a kept woman, all right.

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

MOM CALL US ASAP <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

AJ,

Did somebody fall off the roof?

No such excitement, thankfully, although HP did take a picture of Neaksis, wearing dirty coveralls and perched on the peak of the roof, rope around her waist for security, placing tar paper over the wood. I want to get a copy made up and put it around where Charred and Broiled can see it, since he was very much opposed to either of the girls getting up on the roof...until it became obvious that if the work was going to get done, it was either him or them! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

My dad is the oldest surviving child of his parents. There is one more uncle and 2 aunts. The 4 of them range in age from 72 to 90. They all spent the weekend together since one aunt and her husband were passing through the area where the other 3 live. Early Saturday morning my dad got up to the bathroom and apparently fainted. He fell backwards into the tub, and banged his head and shoulder. My youngest aunt's husband heard the crash, jumped up to see what had happened, tripped over his suitcase, and also fell and scraped himself. He had to pee really bad, and (of course) the bathroom door was closed, so he had to go outside and relieve himself in my biological uncle's back yard. Neak said she sensed a certain feeling of indignation on UB's part when he was relaying the story. One of my aunts also fell this weekend, too. And none of them drink, either! Just what kind of party were they having anyway? Apparently a lot of "London Bridge"... It wouldn't be funny if anybody had really gotten hurt, but since nobody did, just the idea of all that crashing around sounds sort of Keystone Kops-ish to me. And comical. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> So much anarchy and chaos for a group of such dignified oldsters. I guess it's a good thing I'm taking him to Hawaii, since I'm coming to the conclusion that if this isn't the last trip, there sure won't be too many more afterwards.

Well, now that I've cheered everybody up...including me! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

t&l

So

wheres the pic then?????

Like to see women do 'mens' work ....nice to see work done right the first time,.


<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

ROTFLMAO

oh so true so true

I'm so <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> when I go into the DOD office here to put in a form ..... I keep wondering if the person helping me has seen any of those 'AHEM' sms messages.

I imagine them looking at our file and reading them out over morning tea!!!
"Oh look what 6179382 sent thro security THIS time!!"


<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

Lol, there are probably a few favorites they always look for. Sounds like Aussie is one of them. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

One thing I am very happy about.

There are no emergancies here right now. We all have things that need work, but no fight/flight.

Smile everyone, I hear it's good for your face. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Neak,
I hear the sadness in your post on Pep's se$ thread.
I think one of the reasons God hates Adultry so much is that there is no restitution. Like with murder, you can't restore what you took away.

We continue to pray for you two, that God might restore what AJ cannot.

I would really like to know how the meeting went yesterday, if it did happen. I am still hoping that those people are put out of your lives, and the children's lives. Those children need good examples, and love, and help. Not lies, and bad examples, and hate.

God be with you.

SS

Neaksis/T&L -

I really know what you are going through. My step children have 2 sisters, and 2 brothers (out of 6 kids. mom has 5 dads).

Mom is a drug addict and has been for 20 years. My WH raised his 2 kids by himself. But of course, we have had close contact with the other 4 kids since they were born.
Both the girls have been sexually molested, and one of the boys. We had a constant fight trying to protect them, but the girls lie to protect their mom. Also my WH just wanted to hope things got better.

I went to court 3 years ago as one bio-dad stepped up and wanted custody of his 2 year old son. It had to be the Lord moving me. The night before, my WH told me that there was a court date, but it had nothing to do with custody.

That morning, I went to work, but got a sudden feeling that I needed to go to the court house. I left work, and went. Mind you, I didn't know the name of the bio-dad, his lawyer, or the time of the hearing, or what it was about.

When I got 2 blocks from the courthouse, my step-kids (coming from 20 miles in the other direction) drove by at the intersection. I followed them to court and into the hearing.

It turned out that they were going to testify for their mom, but when I showed up, they didn't. It was almost like on TV. Since I didn't have a deposition, I wrote a note to the attorney, and gave it to the bailiff. I said that my WH and I had raised my step-kids, not their mom like they were going to testify. I told about the drug use, and many weirdos at her house. I also told about doctor's reports of sexual molestation.

In the end, no one testified, and the court awarded custody to the father, even though the social worker had recommended that mom get custody.

I think that this was the beginning of the end of my marriage, but I have never been sorry. I know that the Lord stepped in and saved this child from more molestation, abuse and neglect.

So Neaksis, hang in there. You are the one in these children's lives who has stepped up and taken action. Be proud of that.

t&l

Glad no one was hurt falling at yiour house, Just have a minute...wanted to say hi to all!!