Legal aspects of this thing aside, saved for another day, (I just finished making soy chicken skins, yummy, and am still up but fading fast), $$$$ makes her world go round.

Ok, one slightly legal aspect, upon the advice of the corp attorney I wrote her a letter stating that the corporation would not make further payments until the corporation had money. OT Note to Self: I need to see what progress we are making on our lawsuit.

I like the idea about the warning for her future use of avoiding married men, but I think I want to save that for the time very soon when I can send her my own NC letter and inform her that I will be blocking her from my email address. At that time, if I can do it nicely and with class, I will let loose a small bit of truth.

The main things that bothered me the most about this most recent communication were A) finding out that she had loaned him the money for a motel at the beginning of February, before D-day even, and B) there were several cash loans for lunch and gas during the time of supposed recovery.

A) just simply upsets me because it happened, but I am not surprised he doesn't remember anything specific. There has been a lot of water under the bridge since then. And a lot of motels.

B) has been very damaging. AJ has told me every since June 27, R #2, that that day was the first time he had seen her since May 4. But on June 24 she gave him not only a couple hundred dollars worth of drill stuff, but $40 cash for gas and lunch. He had remembered to tell me about the drills close to the time, but said she left them in the apartment buildings where he was doing the installation.

That brings up so many questions. Did she really leave cash in an apartment in the bad part of Sacramento? If it was left in the locked room, how did she get the key? If one of the guys opened it for her, why didn't she worry that he would steal it? How would he even know that he should open the door for her? Would she really respect his supposed request that they talk only but not meet face to face any more when she has respected NOTHING so far? If he lied about this, why, when he told the truth about so many more big and difficult things?

I asked him about this, and he repeated his story about her leaving the drill for him and said he didn't remember the other money. He was not defensive or angry at all, which was a change from before, but my trust level has plummeted. This is the first thing in 5 months that has caused this level of anxiety. Perhaps I should say the first A-related thing.

I'm sure Gargamel was banking on that.

The only thing I can think of to do is to bring it up for more discussion at the next MC session. Right now I don't trust him, I can't trust her, and don't have a clue how big or small a deal this should be.

And yet he continues to be the same tender husband he has been of late, while I am the same loving wife. I will not let her succeed in what she is trying to do, regardless of what may have to be dealt with on my end.

I'm dragging the thread down again, and on Thanksgiving, too. I am thankful I even have a recovery to stress over. I am thankful for the fact that Gargamel lives more than 20 minutes away - plenty close but much farther than for some unfortunate folks here. I am thankful that I have grown enough to be able to question AJ about anything without either LB's, or just plain CA. I am thankful that I once again have a M worth fighting for. I am thankful that my husband loves me.

I am thankful the dog hasn't killed a cat for quite a while. I am thankful the dead mouse smell is almost gone from the heater vents in my car. I am thankful the Dervish didn't cut more of his hair off than he did.

Neak gives thanks like nobody else. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Oh, Believer, accidents can and do happen - 4 so far - but there are no plans in the works right now to have another PG. I am too scared. If there was a fifth accident, I would be delighted but worry the whole time till all my hair had fallen out. I would have a home Doppler unit (cheaper than an unltrasound, but that would have been my first choice), and check the heart rate once a day. Or several times a day. Eek! I get shivers thinking about it!

Don't let my humorous little comment about dragging the thread down deter anyone from replying if they are moved to do so. If the tone goes down too much again, I will just start listing some more things for which I am grateful.

I am thankful I do not have athlete's foot as bad as Neaksis. I am thankful that I am finally old enough not to mind being called Lizzie. I am thankful that only one of the cars needs an urgent trip to the repair shop. I am thankful the Dervish is asleep. I am thankful the dog was able to lick most of the corn meal mush off of his own back, ears, and head. (Courtesy of the Dervish, who else?) I am thankful that Mr. Computer loves his daddy enough to have put up a mural on the dining room wall to wish him a happy birthday back in May. I am also thankful the the glue he used will probably be able to be sanded off eventually and will hardly show once it is repainted.

I could go on...

Good thing, too! What would prayer and praise at church be like if everybody's thanks were like yours? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

So much to comment on, and no time in which to make comments. It's a blasted zoo here tonight, and the inmates are running the asylum. All I can say is some women will do anything to avoid having to fix Thanksgiving dinner! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> And furthermore, it's going to be dog years getting through the 4 hrs. until the day shift arrives. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

t&l

I'd be careful about eating anything she hands to you personally today and encourages you to ingest, after that unfortunate little piece of impertinence. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

t&l

P.S. Does she really? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> I never knew that. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

Neak

how are you? hope you had/have a great Thanksgiving - bit like Australia Day here I guess.

Beer, BBQ's and family. Wives are designated drivers, chief cooks & bottle washers. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

Why? Tradition of course. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />


athlete's foot????
See t&l, maybe its better you dont know everything - mum's needs some good honest ignorance at times <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

I wouldn't exactly describe her as an "athlete". Maybe she has "harried mother's foot!" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Wait till I tell you what happened to me tonight! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> I'm never going to be the same again, and I'll never get out of here if I don't start charting, either. Later..........


t&l

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HMPH!!!!

I have simply stated that everybody probably has low-grade athlete's foot just like mine and it is not that big of a deal.

I think I am going to go rub my feet in Neak's shower.

Neak -

Haha - You made me laugh - what a good way to start out Thanksgiving. I know exactly how you feel though. During my darkest days, it was hard to find my gratitude. I wasn't in the state of mind to think too much about it.

You and AJ will have to go through the pieces of the puzzle again and see how they fit together. Although sometimes I wonder if it matters at all. Affairees become like different people. I think it is true that they don't remembers - they are so caught up in the wild emotions.

You are doing the hard thing now - restoring your marriage. It is much easier to just abandon it. At least then you don't have to worry about everything so much.

I would not consider any affair related, or personal expenses during the A, a debt that needed to be repaid. Sometimes I feel sorry for AJ. How in the world did he get himself in such a mess?

Back to Thanksgiving - When my kids were small, instead of rushing through a list of thanks at the table, we always wrote out one list that everyone added to. My boys are now 24 and 20, and guess what they started last night? The list. And it's a long one.

I have a whole bunch of folks coming today - my sons, some of their friends, my roommate and his friends (who don't speak English), a 90 year old neighbor, my 25 year old boss from work who is alone this year, and a Marine who is away from home. They will all be asked to add to the list, and we will read it just before dinner.

I hope you and your family have a wonderful day.

Thanks, B and AW. We have a wonderful Thanksgiving on the way. The List is a fabulous idea!

I couldn't figure out why Neaksis was taking such a snerpy tone with me on the phone this morning. *innocent, aggrieved air* Why? What did I do?

Oh. Bwaaaahaaahaaaaaa! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

It's a bit past time to go make the pumpkin pies; I wanted to do that yesterday. Now I'll have to hurry a bit. It's a special family recipe with extra spices, extra eggs, and they have to slow cook for 4 hours. So of course they are the first thing that have to go in this morning. So HAPPY THANKSGIVING EVERYBODY!!!!!!!!

I don't think Neaksis would actually poison me, but she might try to put mushrooms in everything, including the apple pie.

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Poison. Consider it. You have been a naughty, naughty girl...especially, as your sister pointed out, "after I stayed up until MIDNIGHT helping her get ready for company." <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> I'd look with suspicion at any chocolate dishes, myself. Check for empty Ex-Lax boxes in the trash. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

t&l

I'd worry about the mushrooms, too. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Especially if you start seeing visions after you eat them. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/ooo.gif" alt="" />

t&l

OMG - visions ........... the Prophet Neak !! lol hehehe

and all because of the little mushy.

You know every year, our South west forests are over run by people seaching for native mushrooms ...very powerful ....apparently -- never had magic omlettes or the like ...

thats probably why we have all those people running around down there hugging the trees - the mushies told them the trees were lonely. All makes sense now. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Just stick to the chocs neak..in fact have some for me ..lot safer .for everyone ..lol

Have a GREAT THANKGIVING GUYS!! Give each other a big hug just from me downunder - and the dervish is ok leave him alone..he's a boy - give him MORE chocs & pure red cordial - he won't disturb me a bit hes a sweety !! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

I always wanted to try mushrooms (being a child of the 60's), only trouble is I was always afraid that I would get the poison ones and REALLY go on a "trip", a permanent one.

Well, my dinner is cooking. The roommates and friends want to do some kind of potato dish from Oaxacca which involves potatoes, chili, eggs, carrots, and onions. So the mashed potatoes have been scrapped for now.

Happy Thanksgiving to all of you!

{{{{{{{{}}}}}}}}}} and smooches!

We have tons of tree-huggers here, too, so many that our trees cannot possibly be lonely.

Mexican-style potatoes sound yummy. We are just having mashed potatoes from a box. No one will eat my mashed-potatoes-from-scratch ever since the first time I made them, and when they were still too lumpy, put them in the blender.

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

PS If anybody ever needs a great glue recipe, I have one.

The cooking in continuing, the menu is expanding...........

neak your lumpy taters would compliment my lumpy gravy!