Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum

This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at mbrestored@gmail.com
Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
Page 146 of 374 1 2 144 145 146 147 148 373 374
Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 10,179
N
Member
Offline
Member
N
Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 10,179
Plus, Dad is more likely to move somewhere if most of his family is there first.

I wonder how Grandma feels about MT? Lol, we can steal them all.


A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb



Neak's Story
Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 4,458
T
Member
Offline
Member
T
Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 4,458
Quote
So Mom, don't stress

Don't stress?!!!!!!!!!!! Don't stress??!!!!!!!!!!!! STRESS IS THE ONLY THING HOLDING ME UP! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Obviously I can't stop you from moving to Montana if you decide to do it. However, I have a question in at the attorney's office, hopefully to be answered tomorrow, and a plan fermenting in my brain. My advice would be to have AJ take the full-time job here for now while we investigate a few more possibilities. Unless the Montana sherrif's department wants to bear the expenses to move you guys there, you've got a better chance of sprouting little tiny wings and flying than you've got of affording a move on your own, so he's better off employed while we try and figure out the next step.

t&l

Joined: Sep 2003
Posts: 27,069
B
Member
Offline
Member
B
Joined: Sep 2003
Posts: 27,069
And believer wants to move to Montana too. Maybe that will convince him.

Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 4,458
T
Member
Offline
Member
T
Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 4,458
Quote
And believer wants to move to Montana too. Maybe that will convince him.

OK, that made me laugh out loud! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Laughing out loud is no easy feat this afternoon, either. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

He'd probably rather move to be near to you than to be near to his own mom, on a long-term basis. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> It might just work!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

t&l

Joined: May 2002
Posts: 6,512
S
Member
Offline
Member
S
Joined: May 2002
Posts: 6,512
Yes, don't stress. Relax, and let AJ, and Hp figure it out. You and the girls can have a sleep over, and let the two of them watch the kids also.

While you are at it, go out to eat, and to the movies. Charge it to HP.

Sleep in the next morning too, you may as well. Then have a big breakfast, and have a nap. Naps are always good.

Maybe move the sleepover to a spa - and get the works while you are at it. If you dream, dream big.


Merry Christmas, and remember people care about you. God does too, don't think he is on vacation.

SS


I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 4,458
T
Member
Offline
Member
T
Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 4,458
Well, Neak and AJ went away for a dinner tonight, and Neaksis got left with all the kids. When Neakbro showed up to sleep at Neak's house, it meant she didn't have to come home tonight and could spend the night in a motel with her husband. I'm not sure the prescribed post-operative pelvic rest is going to survive this provocation. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> I think she just wanted to get away and not have to talk about our troubles till tomorrow!

As far as this whole septic fiasco goes, there are still a few options open to me, none of them optimal, and the best one involves some uncomfortable pretzel-like contortions and an embarrassing amount of personal humility. That would involve hitting up the Japanese aunties, and other unfortunate relatives, for multiple loans amounting to the cost of the septic...to be repaid after the success of the lawsuit. I hope. Your Auntie Akiko, girls, would get me the money all on her own, Since if she had to strong-arm every other one of the "siblings," however reluctant some of them might be, into contributing to the fund. Little human dynamo, Auntie Akiko is, and ferocious in her protection of your grandpa.

With only <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> $15,000 for a retainer/fees, the attorney would try to go after both contractor and builder without knowing in advance who is to blame for the septic failure. No problem. I'll just take it out of petty cash. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

However, if AJ is really going to cart everyone off to Montana, there's no reason to do that, is there? Although once this is finished and we have functioning septic, I'm determined to find another lender and get rid of our loan from American General, after the way they've refused to help us out. I know I'll lose the $11,000 pre-payment penalty in order to do it. I don't care. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> In the long run, they'll lose more getting that than they would've gotten in monthly interest, if we'd kept the house through the 3 required years. Phooey on 'em.

What I'm suggesting is this, since Neaksis is unpleasantly persuasive in her argument that we should see if this move is what God wants for Neak, before I have my upcoming stroke and seizure over the idea. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> I'm proposing, Neak and AJ, that we make this a matter of prayer for the next couple of weeks. I won't solicit money from anybody. You won't make a definite decision on moving right now. We simply ask God to plainly show us, by both opening and closing doors of opportunity, exactly what it is HE wants us all to do. And at the end of that time, if the way is clear for you to move, then that's what you'll do. MY contribution will be to quit whining about it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

There's no denying that Neak moving to Montana, and Neaksis moving into Neak's house to care for GP, selling her/my house, and putting her monthly income into her new place, would solve a lot of the financial burden that I now carry on my increasingly-droopy shoulders. But I cannot comfortably buy my freedom at someone else's expense unless I know clearly, and without a doubt, that this is the way it should be. And even then, it will be hard to like it! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

I know I said I'd be willing for God to do anything necessary for the benefit and salvation of my family, but THIS WASN'T WHAT I HAD IN MIND!!!!!!!!!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> God needs to quit listening to me, that's what.

t&l

Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 4,458
T
Member
Offline
Member
T
Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 4,458
Quote
So Mom, don't stress, just enjoy the ride

So far, this isn't a ride; it's a free-fall! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

t&l

Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 4,458
T
Member
Offline
Member
T
Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 4,458
Quote
Relax, and let AJ, and Hp figure it out.

I suppose if I broke my legs, you'd give me rubber crutches to help me walk, too! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> I'm not a leaning-on-guys kind of gal any more, unfortunately.

t&l

Joined: Oct 2004
Posts: 4,383
A
Member
Offline
Member
A
Joined: Oct 2004
Posts: 4,383
TL I dont see you being totally happy without Neak, AJ, and all the rest around you.
But if it is Gods will for such doors to open... then maybe what he is saying is its time to move regardless of solving the septic issues .... sounds to me that he may ALREADY be letting you know that!

but I love happy endings !! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Of course I have no great success in those matters either. I've been trying so hard to keep the mortgage out of the Army ..one thing thats not them...sigh ... now I have to refiance through them to get money for DD's uni fees and maybe a holiday with Aussie .. one day.. perhaps ... a week on a desert island ... a weekend at a caravan park <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />


Life may feel as if you are constantly getting kicked on a daily basis, living is about picking yourself up each day and going on and on and on regardless.

Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 10,179
N
Member
Offline
Member
N
Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 10,179
We would just be the scouts, the advancement, until everyone else joined us. Including believer. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb



Neak's Story
Joined: Sep 2003
Posts: 27,069
B
Member
Offline
Member
B
Joined: Sep 2003
Posts: 27,069
I want to be in the advance party. I don't want to miss out on all of the "fun".

Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 10,179
N
Member
Offline
Member
N
Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 10,179
Check out the one with the beaver dam!

It doesn't have the price on it, so it must be expensive for MT.


A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb



Neak's Story
Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 10,179
N
Member
Offline
Member
N
Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 10,179
Well, come on! What are you waiting for? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb



Neak's Story
Joined: Sep 2003
Posts: 27,069
B
Member
Offline
Member
B
Joined: Sep 2003
Posts: 27,069
I called the lady - "Alice". The house is $145,000. That includes all of the farm equipment and a tractor.

The house has a back-up heater in case the electricity goes off.

It is connected to a park and dam. The community takes care of it.

The land can be subdivided, and you can add another home.

9.3% is government sponsered hay and alfafa which they get income from.

Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 10,179
N
Member
Offline
Member
N
Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 10,179
B, what's so scary is you could probably slip very nicely from your trailer into a mansion. There are some very, very nice houses for 100-200,000 that also have oodles of property. Some of the ones we were looking at had 100 or more acres! That might be a little ambitious for us to start with, but would be fine for you.


A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb



Neak's Story
Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 10,179
N
Member
Offline
Member
N
Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 10,179
That must be why it was still busy when I called back again!!!!!!!

Yes, that is probably too much for a second 'starter home' for us, but wow, what a good price!

Unless Neaksis wanted to subdivide with us?????


A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb



Neak's Story
Joined: Sep 2003
Posts: 27,069
B
Member
Offline
Member
B
Joined: Sep 2003
Posts: 27,069
She grows her own food.

Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 10,179
N
Member
Offline
Member
N
Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 10,179
Wow. Just........wow.


A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb



Neak's Story
Joined: Sep 2003
Posts: 27,069
B
Member
Offline
Member
B
Joined: Sep 2003
Posts: 27,069
There are deer and grouse and pheasant on the property. The closest town is 6 miles, and they are 10 miles from Canada.

Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 10,179
N
Member
Offline
Member
N
Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 10,179
Does life get better here?


A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb



Neak's Story
Page 146 of 374 1 2 144 145 146 147 148 373 374

Moderated by  Fordude 

Link Copied to Clipboard
Forum Search
Who's Online Now
1 members (1 invisible), 200 guests, and 57 robots.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Newest Members
Gastelumattorney, lucasmiller, Demonolatry, Jose E. Martin, Frank Pro
71,895 Registered Users
Latest Posts
Really Struggling
by BrainHurts - 11/15/24 03:48 PM
20 appointments and $1000’s later…
by IrishGreen - 10/30/24 06:20 PM
Happening again
by jah - 10/29/24 10:00 AM
I grounded my wife - am I proceeding correctly?
by Mature - 10/27/24 02:05 PM
How Do I Tell Him I Don’t Love the engagement ring
by BrainHurts - 10/22/24 09:30 AM
Children
by BrainHurts - 10/19/24 03:02 PM
Forum Statistics
Forums67
Topics133,615
Posts2,323,460
Members71,895
Most Online3,185
Jan 27th, 2020
Building Marriages That Last A Lifetime
Copyright © 2024, Marriage Builders, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Site Navigation
Powered by UBB.threads™ PHP Forum Software 7.7.5