Yep, so we know he is alive! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Thank God. That was a looonnnnnnnnnnggggggggggg time with no news.

FF- yes to the IC and no to the church. He works 3-11 shift and I work 7-3. His days off are wed and thur, mine are sat and sun. So on sat and sun mornings we do housework, groceries, and kid transport and on Wed nite is family night for kids and us. Usually on Thur. he is exhausted or works OT. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />
So no we do not spend much time together at all. I do want to fall back into love with him with all my heart. I hope that I will. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
Believer- I will not, it is just sometimes it gets to be way to much for even a saint like me. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Thanks guys
JE

Neak--A problem has ariz. The house you're living in shows up as my indebtedness, and since I can't prove that your GP is making the payments (with cancelled checks on his account), I can't count his income and add it with mine...which means, according to "the book," I can't afford another loan. And if I put you and AJ on the loan to try and boost the income, and make the house a primary residence, they'll judge by the people with the less-desirable credit score.

So, I think you'd better start looking for houses in the $50-60,000 range for right now, or else plan to rent until the septic lawsuit is done, and another $50,000 becomes available...which would be anyone's guess when on earth that would be!

t&l

But are you factoring in that you will have well over $100K removed from your indebtedness as of the sale? Most loan reps would take that into account, and factor that in with the conditions.

(That would be Neaksis' sale.)

It just wouldn't make any sense that you would remove a more expensive loan, add a cheaper one in its place, and them say the cheaper one is too much.

American General (don't ever buy from them--my personal opinion) knows your GP is on the loan, and has proof of his income. Countrywide doesn't have any proof that your GP is making that house payment since I put the money in my account every month and pay from there. The other 2 house loans factored in your father's income. You didn't want him involved with the new house. That's OK, but with that, his income goes away, too, and makes me-all-by-myself much less eligible to borrow money than when all 3 of us were pooling our funds together. He was standing in the room when you were trying to talk about it, which is why I suggested chatting later. If you want to suck it up and ask him if he'll help out, be my guest. It would probably make the difference between getting a loan and not getting a loan. Only you can decide if what you get is worth what you pay.

t&l

No, it's not.

Alrighty then, moving on to plan B... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

t&l

AJ is most likely having to go to the hospital to get checked out. He's ok, but he & another guy smelled a funny smell & got all dizzy. (That workplace is rife with chemical hazards. I'm glad he won't be at that site much longer.) I'll update if there's anything interesting to update about.

If he's Ok, how come he's got to get checked out? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

t&l

Ok came clean with WH about all these pent up things. Didnt know if I was supposed to or not, but it seemed right at the time. But honesty is a biggy with me, so honest to a tee I was. Unfortunatley about everything, my feelings, my lonelyness, and all the other stuff that I am not supposed to say to him...at least not how I did anyway. Dont I feel like a great big heel. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
JE

Honesty is good, even if he didn't like to hear it.

AJ is pulling his typical male 'I'm fine now' stunt. He claims he is just ducky, and that if he has any future problems he will just let me take him in, instead of going in so far away.

Sissy.

Doofus.

Now, on the way home, he has suddenly started having difficulty breathing and dry heaves, so he is going to the hopital in Lodi, on the way home.

Nobody is answering at Neaksis' house, but maybe she or Mom would like to babysit while I go in there? *batting eyelashes* Hello? Are you there?

The "hopital", huh? Do you think they'll be able to ave him? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

uan


P. . Hope you got Tina. I wa in a delivery. Call me with an update, weetie. Too bad you don't know how to pell. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Ome people are o piteful! And houldn't my weet iter be 'Neaki'?

We are home. He is fairly fine. After a breathing treatment and antibiotic pill (and a number of hours) they sent him on his way. He is just having a late supper of Top Ramen before retiring for the morning.

What a lot of effort just to get a day off!

If he has permanent, um, damage, maybe the company will have to pay you for your tragic loss of consortium. Although in your case, I guess it would just be "conortium," wouldn't it? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

t&l

I tried to call you, Neaksis ("Neaki"?), really I did. I think you must be online or something. I only made it about 17 miles before I had to stop off and sleep for an hour in the Chevron station parking lot in Lockeford, so I could make it the last 18 miles home. I'm oozing off to bed muy pronto. Besides, it's like 56 degrees in here and I want to get under some covers. If I move to Montana, there are going to be whole months when the only way you can get me out of the house will be at gunpoint! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> It's Montana--gunpoint probably won't be a problem!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

t&l

No, you don't. You feel very relieved to get it off your chest and out in the open. As far as I'm concerned, which certainly isn't necessarily the MB way, it's only bad if you keep playing it like a doggone harp...when the song becomes a symphony, instead of merely a few fleeting notes in passing.

t&l