<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> KiwiJ <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> How was I supposed to know? Does the social worker really wear white gloves, or is it just an expression representative of the thoroughness of the examination a white gloved lady could do to check out the quality of a maid's housecleaning work. White gloved ladies wouldn't have white gloves very long at my house, I'm <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> to admit. As far as the IRS joke, I couldn't resist it when it was sent to me. Even my husband laughed--no mean feat! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> If you want to go for a three-fer I've got one about lawyers I haven't posted yet, and there's also a tiny bit of foot room left in my mouth. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I'd chat longer, but after ingesting all these toejams, I'm ready for some bread (probably toest) and peanut butter to make a more complete meal! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

t&l

LOL, t&l, I was sort of kidding with you.

No, she doesn't really wear white gloves. That's just Kimmy's way of saying she's doing a very thorough check of both houses. She's from social services.

You employed a euphemism. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> How nice. Personally, if I were employing anything myself, I'd rather it be a maid, a gardener, and a general handyman. Don't have so much use for an employed euphemism, on any sort of regular basis, but you employed yours nicely. My English teacher parents would've been proud of you. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

t&l

Don't you wonder what she'll think about those white gloves after she gets lice in them visiting VD's house? I'd think, just off the top of my head, that something like that would be a very black mark on somebody's social services record. At least you'd HOPE! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

t&l

Euphamism, simile, metaphor - they are all music to my ears.

I always wanted to be an English teacher and was encouraged by everyone but didn't think I could stand up in front of a class.

Kinda funny because occasionally I have to stand up in front of and speak to 300 university students sitting in a tiered lecture theatre (not as an academic but to pass out evaluation forms and boring stuff like that) and I have no problem with it whatsoever.

hiya guys!

work just sucks thats all I say!! Takes me away from Mikey time!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />
I think Aussie & I will POJA this one .. I suppose he actually HAS to be here for that to happen? I can't stand in for him can I? I'm almost sure we could come to a happy decision <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Kimmy will stand in for her bro won't you hun? Or Neak ? someone?

and I still have no phone call!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

anyway I do so hope for the kids that Kimmy & Wookie get the poor kids ... sadly I have no faith in 'the system' having been part of it. But I'm not talking about that or I'll get upset.

any way a few prayers won't go astray.

Hey DD got her 'real' ring today. Its so lovely, a heart shaped gold design with 8 small diamonds running around the heart and a diamond in the centre of the heart shape.
I think they took a second mortgage out on OUR house for it <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
Well Jonnie may as well spend his overseas pay on DD as booze as I see it <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
He's walking without any crutches quite well and will be fit for duty in a few weeks. Lets practice on him for Aussie and break a leg or two!!

well time to wash up the dishes ... joys of a housewife <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Boy, Mom that was a pretty risque little post you did there! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

Hi, T&L!

Neak said, and I have to agree:



<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

In regard to this:



<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Now, I have one teensy, weensy lil' question:

Is the maid a male or female? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

This is what I tried to post last night, only I couldn't get anything to post! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

AW, Mikey is sooooooo precious!! Makes me want to tell DS and DiL to hurry up and make me another grandbaby! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Rella, I'm with T&L. Who is the WhiteGloveLady, and why do we care? All I can say is that she'd better NOT come to my house and touch anything or her nice white gloves will turn pitch black!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Edited to add: Oh, I see what y'all are talking about now! I hope Kimmy and Wookie get custody of the girls, too! Surely, the WGL will be able to tell what kind of mother VD is!

T&L, glad you got your loan AND a night off!! Hope you get your money back from the screwer-uppers!!! Be sure your lawyer adds in something for emotional distress...be nice if you get enough to pay for the repairs AND pay back the loan! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

The business is whipping my butt! I'm making lots of changes. I moved the discount store into a corner of the $1 store because it is too much of a hassle to keep 2 stores open all the time, since I also have to do stuff for the original family business AND go buy stuff to stock the stores. I only have one way into the discount store section from the rest of the store and I basically made it into a "store within a store".

Also, I am working on the floors, which were an unGodly MESS! The tiles were never sealed after we built the place, due to the tenant moving in over a Sunday before we even finished the trimwork on the store. She had so much crap in there that there was no way the guy could come in and strip, clean, seal, and polish the floors. That's what happens when one's H has access to the keys! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

Anyway, we have constantly swept and mopped, swept and mopped, only to have dirt streaks still on the floor after we finished! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> Since we started the store with a yard sale, our budget has not allowed for paying someone over $600 to come in and do the floors. Well, the budget could stand it now, but somehow, it just grates on me to have to pay someone $600 just to clean the floors.

Soooooooo....in the discount store part, I got down on my butt (since my knees are BAD! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> ) with a Magic Eraser, Clorox Cleanup, a bucket of water, and a bunch of old terrycloth rags and scrubbed. I used successive clean wet rags to mop up the suds and dirt, and then applied a finishing sealer. The floor looked so good that I decided to tackle the rest, only I decided to see if scrubbing with a broom would work as well. I don't think it works QUITE as well as the Magic Eraser, but it's a lot faster. I just didn't think I could stand scooting on my butt over another 1500 sq. ft. of floor space. I'm almost done...only have 4 more aisles to do, plus the office area in the back.

I've also moved a few sections of gondola shelving that I thought would work better in other places.

The only problems I've had are being so sore in the mornings that I can hardly move, and frustration with people who INSIST on climbing over the barriers to the aisles to which I have just finished applying a fresh coat of sealer! I fixed 'em today, though! I discovered that the shelves have this itty bitty hole in the ends, so I strung ribbon in a zigzag pattern all across the ends of the aisles. Still, I had one woman ask if I had something to cut the ribbon so she could walk on my nicely finished floor...right after I tied the ribbon on. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Luckily, I had thought ahead and taken a couple of each item on that aisle and set them aside in case someone wanted something. Turns out that she didn't want anything from that aisle; she just wanted to walk through it and look. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

On a good note, I took my DGD to visit my best friend from 1st Grade and to meet BF's DGD. The girls hit it off, and we had such a wonderful time! It's nice to think that maybe our 50 year friendship may be carried on with our granddaughters. We've wanted to get the girls together for such a long time, but her DGD lives with her dad and other grandma (her mom died 6 years ago), and the other grandma has pulled all kinds of tricks to try to keep BF and her DGD apart. Some people are just evil, I think! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /> Anyway, after a court battle in which BF prevailed, visitation is now back in place, although it's just one weekend per month for now. Still have some more court hearings, since the judge ordered family counseling, but the upshot is that the counselor deems that BF is an emotionally healthy and a stabililzing influence for her DGD, and will recommend to the judge that the other grandma NOT be the one who brings DGD for visitation and that the other grandma will not be allowed to constantly call (and I mean every couple of hours) their DGD on the weekends that she is with BF.

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Well, I've got to bed something, and it sure isn't likely to be the euphemism who lives here! Good grief. Can't you guys recongnize a TYPO when you see one. And Neak, what are you doing online anyway? I thought you were busy hauling a...load of merchandise. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I was tired last night when I posted, and the Ambien was making the little letters dance around in clever and intricate patterns, reminiscent of revelers around a Maypole. So I didn't actually proofread until this morning. Fixed it first thing, and hoped nobody'd seen it. Then I went on to read the other posts, and found out my hopes were in vain. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> Doggone nitpicky English cops!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

Lady C, thank you for once again making me so very, very glad to have a regular job! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> What a lot of work you do. And I'm glad that at my regular job, we have housekeeping...which, considering the amount of mess one can make in a single delivery (especially if the doctor is a slob), is one of a nurse's greatest blessings. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Well, I guess I'd better go bed the housekeeper, since I don't have a maid! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

t&l

ya you telem tl ... spillin NAZI's !!! lol <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

Apparently my DD does get busy at the hospital ......

A man came into the ER and yells "My wife's going to have her baby in the cab!" I grabbed my stuff, rushed out to the cab, lifted the lady's dress, and began to take off her underwear. Suddenly I noticed that there are several cabs, and I was in the wrong one . . ..

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

A Note from Neak--somewhere on the road...

Have not killed or dumped anyone yet. Energy levels remain high. Adults not so fortunate. Very glad I brought the pioneer twins, and the spartan twins after that. Mom, how much to have you ship tranks overnight to washington? Strong stuff, no sissy sedatives. Something for me too, please. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> call if you have time. Love and thanks,

the leader of the hun horde.

More from Neak

who woulda ever thunk? not exactly bushy tailed even
yet, but upright. last nite they were SOOOO twitchy
before they fell asleep. the dervish was just a blur of
twirls behind the net. I also drove for a few hours
last night, having succeeded in making the truck go
forward. unlike the other night. stupid 3rd gear. and
who needs 2 splitters, anyway? gear 5a and 5b, 6a and
6b, etc. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> so we are in wa, almost to our delivery
spot. the dervish will be so happy, as he was asleep before
we hit the border. aj said the other day the dervish told
him he wanted to go to wa and see aunt shzenny-linlin.
and, speaking of dervishese, he is still going on about
the crock of hlooky blooky blooky. and mom, he does
really well with the hoo-loop. neaksis, if you go to
moms, could you trade for the van so.you can come get
me tomorrow? pretty please? the reload is going to LA,
preferably without me. at least Im supposed to get a
shower this afternoon. well, talk to you guys later.
love you, neak and the troll troop


<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> If she has to go all the way to LA and back with those kids in the cab of the truck--after a trip up to Washington--she's going to need horse tranquilizers by the time she gets back!!!!

t&l

I sure blush a lot when I read this thread. You'd think I'd get used to it by now.


Yes T&L. Looking forward to it. W says you are "nuts" so you will fit right in with the rest of us.


It sounds like Neak and company are having a great time. Talk about getting an education -

AW, Mikey is so cute. I can see Aussie in him - but he must have some of you too, cause he isn't all Aussie.
I hope you get a call soon, I know you need it.

Lady C,
Thanks for the update. I've been wondering how you are doing. That you didn't talk about your relationship means (to me) that it is doing better. I hope so.

I can identify with what you are doing with the stores. We are in retail too. It's hard work. (Not to take away from the rest of you, I know you work hard too.)

Cinders,
You don't say much about your feelings lately. I'm not sure what that means from you, because I didn't follow your story when you first came to MB. I know you have both good, and bad days. Sometimes you are happy, sometimes you hurt. I hope the good last longer than the bad. You have a lot going for you. I hope you know that's true.

I blush a lot, but I laugh a lot too.
Horse tranq's indeed !!

I still want to hear about Neak Sis's trip. I'm not sure if she's shy, or just busy, but it won't hurt at all for her to develop her communication skills. (Of course, that's just my opinion, others opinions may vary.)

T&L,
Doesn't HP do handyman stuff?
I could think of a good line to add in after that one, but I best leave it alone.

Hi CC,
I hope you are having so much fun that you don't have much time to write.

I hope Neak has a really, really, really good trip. I hope it ends soon though, so she doesn't need further medication.

SS

SS, there is a reason you didn't follow my story when I came to MB.....I came so long ago and basically hung out on D/D.

X moved out in 95 during one of his EAs. All he ever told me I did wrong was not keep the house neat enough to suit him.

Took us 3 years - 3.5 years - something like that - to get divorced. I contested his petition. He filed an order of reconciliation but he was all talk and no action. Never was really willin to work on the marriage. Finally, I went to the dr complaining about my heart pounding or racing. When you are afraid you have tachycardia from stress, it's time to find relief. So, because my health was suffering, I filed for a divorce.

He was highly disrespectful, often in front of the children, and I believe the potential exists for him to one day try to hurt me. So, I was ok with finally ending the marriage - after all, he had been gone for years.

That sums up the end of the marriage.

I'm doing well. Went back to work full-time in 2002. (Son has learning differences and would not have been well served by going to day care so I stayed home till he entered Kindergarten. He did go to a very good preschool where they worked very hard with him.) I used that time to get a technical certificate in photography but decided not to pursue it as a career because I thought the almost certain self-employment would be too stressful and difficult for an unorganized ADD single mom with two children.

This past year, I have had two promotions and am happier with my job right now than I have been in a while.

Last year, March 2005, daughter was in psych hospital because she was depressed, cutting, and talked about suicide. We all ended up in family counseling together - son, daughter, x, his wife, and me.

It was the best thing that happened to us. We are all communicating well with each other.

Now, my sister won't speak to me because her son pled guilty to aggravated sexual battery of my d. My 81 yo mom is depressed anyway and my sister's choices about this are eating at mom so badly it isn't funny.

So, if one part of the family is healthy, the other part isn't.

That sums it all up in a nutshell.

Sorry to have taken so much time and space.

Well, I guess that was too much info, huh?

Well, I guess that was too much info, huh?

SS shakes head - grins.

NO..............
It wasn't.

I've been thinking about it today and rather than giving some flippant remark off the top of my head like - uh - well, I mean.......... lets just leave it that I've been thinking.

Just between you and me, lets see if we get any response to that. Wink, wink.

Actually Cinders, when I read what's going on, I wonder how you are doing really. I see you can cope well with every day life, but it seems like you are still missing having someone in your life. I wonder if the diplomat fills that longing for you, or if he is self absorbed and doesn't realize what you need, and how to help.
He could be clueless like most men, including me before I found MB. Meaning no disrespect, and just telling you my thoughts as they go by.

So, anyway,
I was thinking about the stress you go through, and wondering if you feel better about it, or if it still hurts a lot.

Everyone here goes through it, I see it as I read. Everyone copes diferently. The causes are different for different people. Kind of interresting really, except that it's real people, people we know, and care about, and not some detatched study.

The bottom line - and why I posted........

You look really good in most ways, meaning your life appears to be balanced, and going well. It's easy to tell you can do what ever is needed to succeed, even if it's difficult. I just hope at the end of most days you are happy and that you smile enough to keep the blues away.

No, not too much info. SS is just slow. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Thanks.

SS

Right now, I miss feeling safe in my FOO. Guess that's gone and for who knows how long.

But my sister's always been a lot self-absorbed. But then she was one of the women w/ whom my x had a 1-sided EA. So, I may not be safe for her. Don't know.

What I need right now....besides the FOO stuff.....is a caretaker for my home......paint the outside, do yardwork, fix the heatpump. It's 86 inside - sucker isn't working again.

No, Cinderella, my dear, this cut and paste from Idiotville is too much info! You were fine! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


I know you thought all that talk about urine ingestion had, well, passed...but after last night's work adventure I thought I'd bring a few personal facts to what was, in essence, a rather theoretical discussion.

Urine: (1) doesn't taste as bad as you might think, even if it's not yours; (2) is not too useful as an eye lubricant, and is, in fact, rather drying; (3) does nothing to enhance one's hair style; (4) makes spots on your glasses and looks odd running down the lenses and dripping off the edge; (5) feels very strange running down the neck of your scrubs and trickling between your breasts (if you have no breasts, you'll have to imagine, I guess); (6) doesn't really smell bad as long as the person wasn't dehydrated; and (7) produces intense feelings of guilt and apology on the part of the urinator, once she's done urinating! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

And finally, if the baby is coming when all this happens, and the doctor isn't there because she foolishly went to the basement to get food right after she was told delivery would be in just a few minutes--and you and your unhappy fingers are the only things standing between the baby and the cold, hard floor--you stand there dripping wet and continue to work anyway! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

t&l

P.S. Believer, I don't want to email you without your OK, but I'm not sure everybody wants to read about my trip planning here, either, so I just keep putting it off. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />