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Thanks for the update, Mum. When I saw all the faces, I hoped you were back to visit us. Tell your girl we hope she feels better, and send our love to all.

Cinders, call your phone company and ask what your options are. I know that in this advanced day of technology that there are options, just not exactly what they are. Bust those little hoodlums! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />slaves<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


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I sincerely hope that everyone that is ill, gets well.

I hope Cinders kids "get it" soon. But then, I hope all my kids do too. If I was honest, I would hope that ~ I ~ will get it before too long. I still make far too many mistakes.

We don't treat our kids like slaves, but sometimes they think we do. We have told them all their lives that anyone who lives in our family puts the good of the family first. The good of the family comes before what they want for themselves.

Now, it is good for us to take care of the individual, because if any one of us is not doing well, we can't take our place in helping the family. However, our WANTS are not as important as the NEEDS of the family. Kids have a hard time with knowing the difference between WANTS, and NEEDS. They often confuse the two. Some adults are in the same boat.

I have terribly spoiled the twins (our last two girls) in that I give them things I was not able to give the other children that came before them. However, they (the twins) understand needs/wants, and they don't push the envelope. They are good to do their assigned chores, they cook many of the meals on their own, and they help with whatever we ask. Sometimes we have to have discussions about it - it is not automatic. I also believe that there are some kids who will not respond to love, or correction. I don't believe every person will do what is right if they are taught right, and treated well.

Cinderella, your children have had some bad things happen to their lives. It's tough to cope as as couple, let alone as a single parent. We know you care, and we know you try. Don't give up - though I know you wouldn't. Keep being a good example, and be demanding. Expect the best from them, and require if of them. All of us can improve, and be better than we think we can - but it takes time, and work. I hope this sounds like encouragement, and not anything else. I really doubt if I could do as well as you, were I in the same place.

Maybe I'll work some more on me. I'm sure it would please my W.

May everyone have a wonderful weekend. My W is gone to Phoenix AZ, to visit our newest grand child. I wasn't able to go along this time, so I'll spend time with another son, and grand son on a camping trip one night.

Thanks so much for all your good examples.

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Neak, are you not sleeping well these days?


I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
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We got home late, Neaksis' eldest with us, and I was trying to stay awake long enough to make sure he was back asleep, since he has been known to get up in the middle of the night and wander around, getting into everything that can be gotten into.

The status on that is a whole nuther story, but I have to go cook a nice breakfast and get ready for church.

In short, his status is still up in the air, Project Patch still not having made up their minds whether he will be a good fit. If they turn him down, God certainly has something else in mind to end his reign of terror in the home. Also, the first meeting with his PO is the 22nd.

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While we would never wish this stuff on him, perhaps he will do his own 180 SOON! We can pray he does.

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While we would never wish this stuff on him, perhaps he will do his own 180 SOON! We can pray he does.

Well, we can't wish exactly the same stuff on him,since he's only 13...but at this point I'd wish almost anything on him as long as it produced a 180. All we're getting is 360s, and you can imagine how much good THAT'S doing! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Hello to everyone. Glad AW is getting treated for the illness she doesn't want to admit she has! I read, but mostly I just drag my sorry tail to and from work, bed to bathroom to bed, and out the door again. If iwhat I'm doing were any more fun, the government would have to either make it illegal or tax it! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

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I hope everyone has a restful day. Last Sunday was soooooo hard on me. Today has been quite pleasant. I got my Mother's Day presents. A photo from my d - a single tree in a field in Pennsylvania, b&w original which she bought at art sale at church - benefitting the youth group - and I know the photographer.

Son gave me some brick red yarn - merino wool from Uruguay. Now, I need to figure out what to make with it. It looks like it will felt well. I've never felted anything before.

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WOW, a present from my country!!!! The world is certinly small.

What is felting? I've never heard that.

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You knit your item and it is larger than desired. They you wash it and soak it and it shrinks to the size you wish. It becomes wool felt.

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Huh! Who knew I was "felting" all those wool things, over the years, that I shrunk by accident? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> The only thing I knew I "felt" at the time was annoyed! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

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Me too t&l!!!!! Thanks to cinder for explaining to us what we were doing!

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Where did you get your new motto? It's breezy, but sort of nippy. Are you wearing a sweater? Don't catch cold...

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cc--How'd we happen to be online at the same time in such different time zones? I'm just getting ready to go to work, and you're probably getting ready to go to bed. Have a nice night...

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Where did you get your new motto? It's breezy, but sort of nippy. Are you wearing a sweater? Don't catch cold...

t&l

ha ha ha

if you do a google search (use the whole phrase)... you'll soon find out !

it's catchy, ain't it!

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HERE

one of my favorite sites in da whole wide web

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Not yet t&l. I go to bed at 11 pm and it's only 9:20! I'm watching Geraldo, there's nothing better. And it's cold....

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AJ LOL'd when he saw your catchy sig. He wants that to be my new motto now, too.

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So, Pep, are you an SPQ?

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Hi All

I am finally almost better & back at work. Very tired though.

I had a very hard Sunday saying goodbye to my son while he happily waved at us all at the Airforce base. Loads of mums were there, tears and crying from them and wives and girlfriend's. I hung on like dear life to him for a few minutes and smiled because I didn't want him to see me cry at all. I had this powerful image of holding him as a new born. It is so difficult to see the man and not my little boy.
He was excited and happy to begin 'real soldiering'. It was important to him. I am so, so proud of him.And scared SH*TLESS, sorry but I am.
I'm not sure if it was harder than seeing Aussie go, but it was more painful in a way I can't define. At least Liz was back from training and got to see him go. She had a few tears believe it or not. God I know its what he wants to do but its so hard to let go... I guess you mums understand that part.
I could cry quite happily if he was off to Europe for a year, but not this. I guess there are some things I will never accept easily.

I went into work today on the train with Mikey as the car had to be serviced, he just LOVES the train. Anyway it was very crowded and some older teen girls were sitting down as I struggled to hold Mikey in one hand, the hand grip in the other and bags between my legs, you know how many bags you take along with a 2 year old <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />, and they asked if I wanted a seat.I blinked in shock and said 'Me?' Got a bright smile and they said Yes. I decided to take them up on it.
Of course I wonder if it was the struggling future they saw for themselves one day or they just thought I was old. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />
But I thanked them profusely and chatted with them before they got off at the TAFE College stop. They were studying beauty treatment & hairdressing. Perhaps they wanted to closely observe what happens to those of us who don't look after both maybe <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> It made me feel good to know that not all teens are always so me me me. I have to admit I think I was <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> but I'm sure mum will let us ALL know as the mood moves her. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
Sign of age ....... when youngsters VOLUNTARILY give up their seats for you <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Mum just don't say it!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> And you may stop laughing ANY time. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

Another of Aussies Aunts died on Saturday. He was quite close to his cousins, this Aunts children, as a child. The younger one , a girl, died at 19 from cancer. He was very quite about it when I rang him to let him know. Her funeral was today in Melbourne. I wish he could have gone to see her a last time but it was not to be.


Life may feel as if you are constantly getting kicked on a daily basis, living is about picking yourself up each day and going on and on and on regardless.

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So, Pep, are you an SPQ?

I am a wannabe

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What IS this attraction to be a Sweet Potato Queen????

Do you get free taters or something??????

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Life may feel as if you are constantly getting kicked on a daily basis, living is about picking yourself up each day and going on and on and on regardless.

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