Sugar bear, why don't you come to SAT to visit your mom? I've an appletini with your name on it, and I find that getting out of the damn house works wonders on the depression.

Besides, we cannot change Ed. He's hell bent on being hell bent. All we can change is our reactions to Ed. Come home for a visit. It'll make you AND THE BOYS feel a lot better.

Heck, I was all for making lots of enchiladas, and I'll even go to the $100 store and pick up a Slip n Slide for the kids and we can be girly and stuff.

You need YOU TIME! Right now, your brain's wrapped around the kooze and Ed. Lets re-wrap it around something infinetly more special than those two.

AND DON'T ALLOW HIS PUFFING AND BLOWING TO SCARE YOU! HE'S THE EFF UP, NOT YOU! He cannot put limits on you, all he can do is request and see if a judge will allow it...and after what he's done and is doing........yeah, right....we'll see.

Hi Mom.....

Don't post to you much, but think of you often. ((((MT3B))))

I feel your pain....this is all so hard. But I have to agree with everyone here....go to SAT. Have a good time...your boys will too.

I just hate to see the WS waltz in (because we let them), and turn the BS all upside down again. Then leave. They are soooo selfish, they can't see past the end of their....well, you know.

I've done the same kind of thing...cling to hope that they will change, then find out that they haven't.

Yes, boundaries are where our problems start .... or end.

A great big physical boundary (like moving to SAT) would be a great place to start. It would be much harder for your WH to waltz in, or just show up.

And a move means a new start....for you and your boys. And being around your own family will help you a great deal.

And I would be willing to bet that your WH would show up less and less to see his boys....he's kind of doing that now. But with his close proximity now, he is just messing with your head.

Your own new place.....a fresh start.....and distance from everything that causes you sooo much pain. Think about it....I think you'll find it's a good choice.

Thinking about you.....K <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

M23B:

Sorry to hear of the latest set back for you. I think sometimes the BS have to hit "rock bottom" before they "get it". You may be there yourself..

Chin up and take care. Please keep in touch and let me know how it is going.

LM