weaver, just a quick driveby to say Hi and glad you're back.

Hope things are better and it sounds like it.

jls

Hi there weaver,

I don't know if you are still here but I just got done reading this thread and was,needless to say,confused.I had taken a break too but recently came back on and found this.

I don't really know what to say right now but I will say I am thinking of you.Hope you are ok.

O

Hey jls,

I've just been reading the religious morals thread.

You sound just like me in alot of ways. LOL

Hope you have a good holiday weekend. Haven't got caught up on your thread/sitch yet. But will tonight probably.

Weaver,

You are one of those people who inspires peace in me, by just knowing you're out there.

Hope you have a wonderful vacation!

weaver:

Just be really careful, okay?

It just sounds like you're giving up more than you should by selling for less than 50% of the property value.

At least he's told you he doesn't want 2 get married. I know a 2ple at work who've been lving 2gether for over 30 years without ever getting M'd, and they've remained true 2 one another the whole time.

So, it can work for people, but is it really what you want?

It's okay if it is. It's okay if it isn't.

best,
-ol' 2long

2L,

I know...I worry about her too that she's giving up the property for less than her fair share, but she considered her options and made a conscious choice. I believe she's making an act of faith.

CSue:

"I believe she's making an act of faith."

As we all must, musn't we? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

-ol' 2long

Yes, we must.....and it's far more peaceful to take a leap of faith when we are able to "let go" of the outcome as it is beyond our control.

Leaps of faith (lof) seem to feel good, although I'm not sure why! Lol

Edited to add - maybe it's because it is a willingness to be open to another life lesson.

Csue, 2long -

This is exactly it. Csue verbalizes it so well.

It's also an act of love. I am much better off financially than he is. He has 4 kids and 6 grandkids, I have only 1 child. He wants a place that he won't lose, where all the kids can come.

These people have never had anything, no family vacations, nothing that I have known all my life.

If he pays me what the property is worth, it will set him back years before he can build or do anything with it. And he is not getting any younger.

A lesson learned Csue. I haven't grown much in the last few years, and I just really feel that this is right for all concerned.

Thanks for stopping by all.

You too Ogirl! Welcome back! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

You obviously love him a great deal. Good luck and have a great vacation. TT

Thanks TT.

Regarding our trip to the mountains in NC, we are staying a mountain right next to Cold Mountain where the movie was based. Although the movie was filmed in Europe somewhere I believe, it is supposed to be very accurate to the real Cold Mountain.

I am so looking forward to the trip because of the movie about that woman doctor who goes researching the music and singing of that area, "Songbird" I think it was called.

Also those Foxfire books Kimmy speaks of.

They have many huge music fests in the area we are going to but none that I have read of when we will be there. I even read of a mountain which is owned and operated by some spiritual seeking people and only gospel is sung there. People come from all over to sing gospel together on that particular mountain.

Too cool.

Csue, the feeling is mutual. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Weaver,
I'm not going to comment - cause SS is leaving in a few minutes and won't have net access for a few days. I can see this is hard for you - but we still love you. Didn't you know we would?

See ya, talk to you later.

SS

Weaver - Cold Mountain was filmed in Roumania and my cousin worked on location. She's got a great job.

Well I sold my half of my beloved island property to BF yesterday. Got enough money to have the bungalow out back which I rent out sided, a new fence for my backyard, pay for our trip to the mountains (YES!) this Saturday and pay off some misc bills.

I don't feel sad like I thought I would. I feel like I did the best for both concerned. One less thing to worry about really, and without that added burden I am free to enjoy vacations elsewhere instead of always feeling I have to go there.

We are leaving Sat. morning for Nahntahalla Mountain in the Great Smokies and we are very excited. I bought a journal and disposable camera for my DD and her little friend and told them they must journal their vacation. They have been making and remaking endless list this week of what they will pack for the "big" trip all week. Their excitement makes every penny of this trip more than worth it for me.

My little bro called awhile ago, his wife is battling ovarian cancer (eight years now) and she will get very crucial blood results next Wed. They are the coolest, most loving couple you could ever meet. She is 15 years his senior but seens exactly the same age, and she is a true Texas sweetheart. They live in San Antonio and my heart goes out to both of them for what they continue to go through with her fight for her life.

She needs a pill to quiet the upset of her stomach every day which costs $160.00 PER PILL, but the insurance will only pay for three pills a month.

Anyway I will think of all on my trip, but am really hoping to just enjoy all of God's beauty, and life and forget about pain for awhile.

So for tonight atleast life is good. And if SIL's test come back positive next week, life will truly be good once again for my family.

Weaver - the cost of your SIL's meds are outrageous. How on earth do they survice financially. The stress of illness is bad enough but to have to worry about $160 per day! I pray her blood tests are good. TT

Thanks TT.

You are not in the U.S. so you are not really aware of what goes on here with the prescription drug companies.

If you don't have insurance and you don't have a lot of money and you get sick, you are screwed.

My brother has had to file bankrupcty and next year he will max out on the million dollar cap for treatment and then it will be all over for any treatments for SIL.

It is a very sad thing, the price of medical treatment here.

How terribly sad for all of you. Really hope she comes through.

Well my BF called not too long after I updated this thread to say that his dad was having surgery on Monday and he would not be able to come, knowing how my DD was looking forward to it, and that the cabin was non-refunable. His dad left when he was 12 BTW and has never been a dad to him. At one point he didn't even see or speak to him for 10 years. My BF has visited him this past couple of years in the nursing home he lives in after a stroke which took most of his facilities.

Anyway, he hung up on me when I said that I could not let my daughter down again and that it was just surgery and he coul d see his dad after the trip.

I called my sister after listening to DD cry for two hours and she said that if I promised her I would never see BF again she would come with us so as not to let DD down.

Her husband got on the phone and said that he approves my sis going and will cancel their vacation plans if it meant I would never speak to this guy again.

Well I signed the title to the island property over to him yesterday.

Guess I got *ucked, again. But why do I feel like such a heel for saying he should go with us and miss his dad's surgery.

He hung up on me and still hasn't called back. And why do I still after all of this feel that I am not quite right in thinking he is a total ahole and that he really must be at this surgery. His dad has never, ever been a dad to him.

Weaver, you inspire me.

Lotsa love,

GC