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Do you trust her to take care of the dogs? With her "schedule", she doesn't sound very responsible.
Waiting for dawn...
...but not afraid of the dark.
DDay: Sept 26, 2004
Moved out: Dec 16, 2004
D Final: Oct 10, 2006
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Right now she doesn't even have a place that will allow dogs, but she used to really care for them. She even staye up with them sfter they had surgery (spayed). They are like our kids, but they do remind me so much of her.
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Now she is coming over to go to play that my nephews are in and for lunch. When I talked to her this morning she asked me for some grocery money. Am I wrong for wanting to make sure that she has food to eat? After thinking about it I told her that she can have some and then I thought even more, well she got her check on Friday. You know she could be playing a game, but I don't think that she is. Last night I was Djing a party and was sick, she was at another party and said that if she hadn't had too much she would come and get me. She has even started calling or texting me when she gets home from work or on the occasion that she does go out. She knows that I worry about her and care for her still. I don't want anything to happen to her. She is a caring person, just really mixed up.
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Cope...I have no advice for you....but my thoughts are with you and your situation.
I started reading this section because I fear my life is headed this way and found your post.
Good Luck to you.
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The only advice that I have found so far and is good. Talk to many of your family and friends. Real friends will stand by you and give good advice. My wife has only listened to friends with what I feel was bad advice. I know that yesterday she came over to go to a play that my nephews were in and before she left here she was looking for her Bible. Now she hasn't wanted that in a long time. So if whe don't come back to me maybe she will get her life straightened up.
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It is a possibilty that your wife has depression - due to the recent donating of her kidney. Many people have depression after surgery and don't even realize they are depressed.
I know of several people that have had open heart surgery and they go thru deep states of depression could have something to do w/the anastesia...Call her doctor...maybe some ad's could solve all this mess.
Hugs my dear...
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This has been building up for a long time. Of course maybe in grand scheme of things this is God's way of dealing with her. She comes from a very religious family and they love her but don't like what she has done to me. They have already told me anytime that I need a place just give them a call. They love me as a son and not a son in law
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Talk to many of your family and friends. Real friends will stand by you and give good advice.
Even if they are your real friends and they give advice, they may not know what is good advice vs. what they think is good advice.
This is what MB principles are. They are actions which can save a marriage vs. what one may think is good actions.
Some people say "follow your heart" (not a good idea). Well, your heart is so wounded, following it may not take you where it is actually best to go.
Read the links below.
Prayers & God Bless!
Chris
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I have talking to lots of people that have been in same boat and taking their advice mainly. Listening to many and accepting of a few.
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I was talking to my wife at lunch and she said that she missed me some. That has helped to get thru the afternoon. I would really love to see her come home so that we can begin a healing process. I have also been preparing myself for the worse also.
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Well I helped her to make up her mind. I called and offered for her to come home and seek counseling or to just go ahead and file. She said that she was surprised. I held on as long as I could and could not continue playing these games.
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43yr old FWH who has rediscovered morality
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XW: My threads say it all
"Well, I guess if a person never quit when the going got tough, they wouldn't have anything to regret for the rest of their life..."
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At this point no, she is not coming home. I did however receive a strang phone call from the guy that she has been hanging around with today. He said that he wants me to help him send her back to me. So what I am thinking is that she is planning on moving in with him and he doesn't want any type of commitment. So he is trying to get her to come back home. Only she can do that. He told me that she wants a change in her life and that he can get her home and to wait by the phone, I don't trust him. But as of right now we go to the lawyer on the 16 of June.
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