When I tuned in he was finishing up a call with foundareason...I think.

Mondays are Marriage Mondays on her show...with her husband taking calls.

Just had a nice talk with MIL. She is going to have a little word with her son over the weekend about the supermarket thing, about the fact that WH spent nearly £300 in Spain and yet hasn't given us any money, that he and OW are behaving like a pair of adolescents hiding their A from the world in a flat 1/2 mile from her grandchildren.

Also about the fact that he promised her this wouldn't hurt them, that it would make everyone 'happy' and she's going ask him what kind of lies they told OW's parents when they were over there - mad wife in the attic, drug-addicted wife, bad wife with an army of lovers, that sort of thing.

I love my MIL. She rocks. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Alph.

I feel like a Broken Record.<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

You are leaving your most powerful weapon unarmed.

When are you going to expose to OW's parents???

Weeelll...

To be perfectly honest I've been putting it off. I'm scared to do it. I don't speak Spanish. Her father's a retired fascist. They'll probably think I'm just a bitter, dumped wife and tell OW that. I'm waiting to see what MIL finds out about what they said to OW's parents. I'm waiting to hear from my PI. I'm looking for a translator. WAT said I should concentrate on exposure within the school.

But basically, I'm afraid to do it. I'm afraid to phone these two Spanish people who probably aren't fascists at all and tell them that their daughter is having a dirty affair with a married man and please tell her to leave my H the he!! alone.

There. Admitted it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Alph.

At any given time I think there may be 100 folks here on MB that speak and write Spanish. Perhaps one or more of them will volunteer to help you.

I'd do it, but my 2 years of Spanish were in high school and you don't want to know how long ago that was.

Aphelion,

I'm glad you stopped by. May I ask you a question about your son's school?

In your son's Catholic school, what would be the attitude of parents if two teachers had an adulterous affair (as my WH and OW are doing)?

Alph.

Well, I 'm not sure. Interesting question. The church as been rather, how shall I say it, obscure about sexual improprieties until recently. So I called some parents whose families have been active in DS’s and other schools in the archdiocese for years and asked.

It has not happened in recent memory at DS’s school. There were a couple of parents had an A and ran off with each other four years ago, but no teachers or administrators. (These two parents were pretty darn odd to start with, IMO.)

It did happen at another Catholic school a few miles away three years or so ago. Both teachers were let go, right in the middle of the school year.

Current principal at DS’s school is pretty hard-nosed about this kind of thing. I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t stand for it for a moment.

If you do not get satisfaction with exposure at the school, keep climbing the ladder. In fact, based on what you have already written go straight to the archbishop’s office. Get a lawyer (solicitor?) to draft the complaint for you.

The church here in the US is extremely sensitized to these kinds of betrayals right now. Don’t know about where you are though.

Threaten public exposure. Really, tell them they are risking a big public scandal if they don’t do something to separate and discipline these two childish adults.

As far as other parent reactions, I think it would be about as average a cross section as in the general public. DS gets a heavy dose of religion in general and Catholicism in particular, and that's fine with me, but the main draw of the school is scholastic excellence. The curriculum and the teachers are very good.

I’ll put you and your family in my prayers.

That's very interesting - I really appreciate you taking the time to find that out.

WH's school is similar in that it is popular because it gets good results. I think it's about 50/50 Catholic/non Catholic split.

As you may know, the principal has no intention of making a fuss about the A. Yes, it's a Catholic school, but we're modern Catholics in this school! (He didn't actuallly say that, but you get the idea).

So, today I have been checking out the Bishop's address and trying to find out where exactly the school's funding comes from, as I may consider exposing to the body that funds the school as well.

Still haven't heard anything re. CBOG or PGA.

Alph.

I've been putting it off. I'm scared to do it.

I calle OM GF after days and days of bullying on here standing on Tescos car park.

I did the exposure and i HEARD OMs GF's heart break on the line I SWEAR.

When the call ended I puked my guts out into some bushes.

Inside 5 minutes GF had confronted OM who called Squid. She txtxed me to say " Thats It ! You just signed the divorce papers you [censored]".

And on the breeze was a faint sound....the faint shuffling sound of the whip being passed from OM & Squid's hand into mine.

Do it ASAP. Sooner the better.

Remember - you already lost him, telling the truth to a stakeholder in Tortilla's personal integrity can only help.

DO IT. DO IT. DO IT.

Whats the worst that can happen ? Your H leaves you ? already happened and you will know that OW & WHs affair is exposed to TRUTH not their bullsh1t rewriting of it.

Do it. Do it now.

Yes, do it! Do it! Just do it!

No other way to expose then to just do it. It isn't pretty, but it is necessary.

HINY

bOb, HINY,

I am shaking all over. I have just spoken to OW's parents, but they don't speak English.

I will speak to my friend in Spain tonight and see if he will phone them again and translate.

They sounded very nice. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Alph.

Good job, Alph.

On the Catholic school thingy, you and others here may be surprised to hear that my son attends a VERY exclusive, all boys Catholic school. It's over 200 years old - which is OLD in the states. - and the oldest Jesuit school in the US. No, I'm not Catholic - FAR from it <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> - but in the aftermath of his younger brother's death my son has needed all the personal nurturing he can get and the local public schools are a bit scary. I can stomach the Catholic stuff given that the adademics are top notch - including a healthy dose of evolutionary science. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

How he ended up in a Catholic school vs some other private school involves my WS's choice to "become" Catholic because OM (now her husband) is a devout Catholic. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> This explains some of my cynicism towards organized religion in general and Catholics in particular.

If I became aware or adultery between two faculty members at my son's school, I could broadcast an e-mail message to all the parents and all the faculty and all the local church heirachy in one click - I have a complete e-mail address list - assuming the Headmaster didn't act immediately to resolve the problem. I hope I wouldn't have to do this. But I would not be surprised in the least if I had to - given the HUGE cost ANY acknowledged impropriety at this very famous and exclusive school would create. We've seen what the Catholic church will stoop to in the highest places through their past non-responses to all the pedophlia in the US.

WAT

They are very nice. Nice people make great allies in breaking affairs.

Phone your friend NOW. Fax your friend the transcript. NOW

Delay helps no-one.

I think Kimmy ( Dealan-de) speaks fluent Spanish and might be able to help if you have time issues.

Praying for you Alph. This is the real thing, just like in a soap opera but for real.

You are righteous. Do your best then await the backlash.

{{{{Alphin}}}}

*lifts head from barfing bowl*

I must say I'm amazed. I thought you were Mr. Secular.

Well, you are - but you have chosen an excellent school for excellent reasons. And, as you say, the curriculum is 'balanced'.

*returns to barfing bowl*

Alph.

Messed up again, damn it!!!

My friend won't be home until much later tonight, and now OW's parents are going to phone her and tell her one of her English friends has contacted them, and they thought she'd like to know!!!

Oh, '%$£!!!

Alph.

curriculum is 'balanced'.

English
Spanish
*** teachers outside marriage
nice !

Glad my kids are in secular schools - at least they don't pretend to stand by a religious code.

* sigh *

They might phone OW or they might not. She's at school now till much later right ?

Get your friend to do the call ASAP.

DO you have an address for OWs folks ?

If so send them a transcript with photos of you, Kids & WH in it.

No problem - let her squirm.

Did you mention your name? - i.e., Mrs. Omelette Eater?

WAT

edited to add: Ooo, Ooo, Ooo!!! - I like bOb's family picture idea! Masterfull!

Masterfull!

* bows *

Praise indeed from the master.

Thought it might work well when exposing to parents.

A beautiful idea, bOb, but alas I don't have their address, and I've sacked my PI because 1) I got the number myself and 2) I couldn't afford to pay him.

Perhaps I could ask my friend to get it when he's on the phone? I don't know if you can trace and address from a phone number (a 'normal' person, I mean, not a PI).

Alph.