Alph

Write him and ask what he intends to do. Use words carefully and make clear that his inaction is tantamount to him SUPPORTING godless infidelity and that you will feel compelled to let the schools Church sponsorship know of this attitude.

You owe that man NOTHING at all.
He owes you a lot.

Also I feel sure that Marriagecare will be able to help you use the church to help you.


Q. How do you stop a tortilla from downing ?
A. Take your foot off her head

In my opinion, no and NO.

He's already demonstrated his worthlessness and his hypocrisy in this matter.

But he does serve you as another example - if not confirmation - of things terribly wrong in the school.

He is now an unavoidable exposee. Talking to him again or warning him of your plans is the same as warning your H that you're exposing to Omelette's parents > providing an opportunity for him to first discredit you as a crazed nut ball.

Alph - this is war. You are fighting multiple, ruthless enemies. Do not underestimate their self interest.

WAT

Ooo WAT you ju' NASTY bra' !

Might work though.. Scorched earth but might just work..

I've phoned Marriagecare, but they are going to call me back when they can offer me an appointment.

I've also thought about approaching the head again through the chaplain (perhaps I could send the letter too, a double whammy). I'd say that I'm very disappointed that the condoning attitude of the headmaster is allowing the adulterous relationship to continue and that I feel the headmaster is contributing to the breakdown of my marriage and damage to my children. I'd like the chaplain to pass my feelings on to the headmaster.

Alph.

OK, scratch last post as it clashed with WAT's.

I just feel helpless at the moment. I don't know where to go from here, and I NEED to get things done quickly.

I know I should be patient, but nothing is happening!!!

Alph.

Absolutely - by going over his head.

Alph - perhaps you don't appreciate how powerful you are at the moment. You are the most powerful woman in the world to three people > your husband, Omelette, and the Headmaster.

The only other person I can remember on this forum with as much power as you currently have is the guy who had actual video tapes of his wife and OM having sex in his living room.

WAT

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Wow.

By all means, discuss this with the Chaplain - but without talking to the Head first. Tell the Chaplain everything inculding showing him a copy of your letter to Omelette's parents. Allow the Chaplain to do his job - just like you allowed the Head to do his job. Hopefully the Chaplain won't fail. If he does, you'd become the most powerful woman on the planet to FOUR people.

No bOb, I'm not nasty - just passionate for honesty and accountability and responsibility. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> If it appears nasty, oh well!

WAT

WAT I agree, you aren;t 'nasty' you jus' naaasteeee !

I had a level of reserve when it came to exposing hypocrisy that I really don't like in myself.

I still hate that I didn't tell OMs charity bosses what he did on their expenses when he was supposed to be helping kids from broken homes.. Yeah, it may have helped keep him dark, but he's still working with kids from broken homes hwne tried his best to make MY kids froma broken home.

Oh dear, writing that has made me want to do his long bones with my baby sledge hammer again. * sigh *

I agree with you, the head has had every opportunity to do the right thing but he's obviously a cringing moral coward. let his boss, or his church, his God or his conscience have their way with him now.

I think you are GREAT, WAT.

I wish I had half your courage and insight. It would make this so much easier!

Alph.

Alph - you are demonstrating your courage here every day. (It takes NO courage for me to offer recommendations.) bOb offers an excellent example of both courage and insight in the exposure arena.

Hopefully, you have the insight to absorb all the input and fashion it to your specific circumstances. I think you do.

WAT

Found something.

I've found the body that 'oversees' the religious education of Catholic schools in the area. I phoned them up and WH's school is covered.

I think I will send them a letter. I don't think I can wait for the CBOG or the PGA any longer.

Alph.

I don't think I can wait for the CBOG or the PGA any longer.

ATTAGIRL !!!!!!!!!!!!

Alph,

Did the omelette's parents get that letter yet or don't you know? I figured that someone would have said by now.

HINY

Good job!

Please consider ringing them first to ask who specifically such a letter should be addressed to. In your letter, explain that you first tried to work through the Head, then attempted to work through the CBOG, but to no avail. This is why you're now coming to them.

WAT

HINY,

When I sent letter, the post office said it could take 5-6 days.

Seems a little long to me. I certainly haven't heard anything from WH yet. Still, maybe Omelette's parents are waiting to have a nice family chat with her over the weekend...

WAT. I'll do as you suggest. No more Mrs Nice guy (gal?). Pitbull on wheels, now. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Alph.

When news of the letter hits ... fortress yourself. You will be the target of 'spud' missiles ... ignore them safely while you and yours remain tucked inside your fortress.

This is to forewarn you that you will be blamed for every wrong thing that has occured on the planet ... ever.

Like water off a ducks backside.

Take none of it to heart. This is PREDICTABLE.

Do not be frightened, alarmed, or discouraged by the 'spuds'. They are all ALL ALL ALL ... dud spuds.

Think of the fallout as "yada yada yada" or "blah blah blah" ... whichever suits you.

When things get ugly over the phone, say ...

"Oops. I can tell, this is the adultey talking to me now. When my husband wants to talk to me, I look forward to talking to him."

Then hang up.

Fortress. Water off a duck. Self love.

This is war hunny ... and give the enemy no mercy.

Love ya...

Pep <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Pep,

It's kind of a shame it's Father's Day this Sunday here. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

If the happy news hits this weekend, it might make things a little awkward...

But I'll cope! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Alph.

Yep, Alph peps spot on.

Also, owing to the nature of your exposure to OWs parents and the fact she lives near you in her rutting sty, she may make her Iberian displeasure with you known too.
It will be out of shame and embarassment. Theres every chance WH has bullshitted to Tortilla about the previous state of your M and your complicity in his leaving home.

She's not going to come out of exposure with much of anything left.

She may be mean.

But you are right and right trumps mean.

When I exposed initially to OM GF Squid and OM called OM GF and convinced her that I was a crazy man, eaten up by jealousy and nothing was going on. And she believed them for a while...sort of.

Only when I sent proof did the freakin' mushroom cloud go up.

This is HORRIBLE but predictable. Like Pep says. Brace yourself.

That Pep - how can anyone NOT love her???

But what the heck is a 'spud' missile? Do you mean 'scud', Pep? Dud?

OK, spud. A potato? They're gonna throw potatoes at her? Maybe a British thing..........

WAT