Alph -- People will always have their own opinions.. and some may not be worth taking too much into heart. Follow what you know deep inside you to be right, Alphin. And if you haven't lied about anything that you've posted, you're entitled to your opinions too!!

~A

It s unfortunate that a family member has dissappointed you so. This is a time where you need support and encouragement for the heroic effort you are putting in to save your marriage.

I too, have been dissappointed and have not always received support where I expected it. It has been amazing to me though that I have found support elsewhere, where I least suspected it. It is times like these that we discover who our true friends are, who have our and our family's best interests at heart.

I've learned the hard way who I should back off from. I'd not be able to make it through all of this without the expereinced advice, 2x4s, and warm sympathy that I have found here on this forum. It is strange how fairly anonymous cyberfriends can be more authentic and loyal than some of the people in our everyday lives.

Family opinions are definitely hard to sort out, and take, sometimes. In general, family will think they have a right to stick their noses into anything of yours.

Take their disapproval with a grain of salt.

My family is hard over against me continuing my M. Most think I should immediately D. Some call me stupid. Some have gone so far as to stop talking to me altogether. My mom is too old to deal with it; it makes her too sad and upset so I don’t talk to her any more about this either.

Only two of my sisters (out of eight siblings) and one cousin continue to support me in whatever I need to do. Only these three still let me cry on their shoulders when I'm down and I don't think I can go on.

You are doing what is right in the best way you know how. In fact, MB approaches are the best way anyone knows how to deal with this adultery crap. Please continue to get whatever support you need here.

And I second the notion of taking it offline via email to selected femail friends if you think that is best. But that would be kind of like giving in to the disapproval of your family , I think.

With prayers,