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More than getting laid, I wonder if my H will ever snuggle up behind me in bed and kiss me on the back of the neck the way he used to when I was just falling asleep.
<sigh!>
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Me, BS 37
Him, WXH (Noddy) 40
DD13, DD6
Married 14th August 1993
D/Day 2nd April 05
Noddy left us 3rd April 05, lives with OW (Omelette) 28
Divorce final 6th July '06.
Time wounds all heels... - Groucho Marx
...except when it doesn't. - Graycloud
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I1) I am about to file for D on my WW, and the emotions are going to be overwhelming.
2) There is a noted side effect to taking the drug, namely, libido issues. I want to be untempted until I am free and clear from my marriage (I have been veeeerrrryy tempted lately)
Kind of killing two birds with one stone. I think #2 is a poor reason to jump into an AD. Be careful with AD they aren't just "happy pills". Cheers, Mike
I was the BS - 36
She was the WS - 36, PA with MM
DS8, DD13, DD15 - All living with Dad
DDay 05/04, Divorced 08/05
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Miker -
Just FYI, so as not to worry...
I was on Zoloft for about two years - in fact, I think it was a partial contributor to the state of my M just prior to my WW's A. I took myself off of AD's, and am going back on just for the next 3-6 mo. I have enough supply to last that long already...
TM
BH (Me) 32,
WW 38
no kids
been together 14.5 yrs.
married 9
D-day 12/5/04
D final 11/23/05, she got it all...I just wanted out.
Done with her...selfishness is not a virtue
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Oh, pleeeeeeze - You youngun's are cracking me up. Of course you will move on and have sex again. You are just lacking a little life experience here.
I didn't have my first son until I was 36, my second at 39. Then I got remarried at 46. Before I got remarried (WH died), I dated a whole herd of nice guys - met lots on the internet dating sites.
Now I am an old lady, and was always kinda plain looking. But I did have SF again - a ONS which I regret. It was fun at the time, (though not EXACTLY monkey sex), but he was a good friend. Since then I have avoided him, because I felt so guilty. He calls all the time, but I don't want a relationship anymore.
But I can tell you FOR SURE, that after the D, I will run into a soulmate.
You will too. Don't doubt it.
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Sex? What's sex? It's been nearly a year for me and before that it was sporatic. When it happens again, and I know it will happen again, I hope it is in a loving situation and not an ONS. Black and Decker, my best friend....
Grapes are versatile. Grapes can be sour, sweet, sublime as wine and fabulous even when old and dried out.
Me: BS
XCH: Clueless
2-DS: Bigger than me
1-DD: Now also bigger than me!
5/6: Personally served CH with divorce papers
6/6: CH F? wants to time to see if M can be saved
7/6: FCH reenters our lives to work on marriage but secretly signs papers to start divorce...what's that about?
Mediation set for November
Final dissolution in January 2007.
2008 and beyond: Life goes on...
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Black and Decker, my best friend.... So, we're talking power tools now. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Me 40, STBXWH 43
Married 16 years
D-day 01/25/05
Son 14, Daughter 10
Divorce almost final - I hope!
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*Ahem.* A long time ago, I used to work there. We did NOT make anything of that nature.
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KA1 village mechanic
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Sex without love -
I can think of nothing lonelier or more empty.
I was quite promiscous when I was a bartender for a few years anyway, but since my DD's dad whom I loved and my ex-fiance whom I still (God help me) love, I know that love makes all the difference in the world.
I have to love the man I am with, nothing less will get me in the sack. And from this time on he will have to love me too, without a shadow of a doubt because I am valuable and the most precious part of me will not be shared lightly.
Until then TT, there are toys and your very vivid imagination.
Love will find you again, and me too.
We will get through this girlfriend. With the help of God and our friends at MB.
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After reading about gymnastics and Ironman training, your WH must have a HUGE hole in his head to cheat on you!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Having run one marathon and done some bike racing, I certainly can appreciate how f!@#ing tough an Ironman will be when the marathon is only 1/3 of your day!! You go girl!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> WNB
43yr old FWH who has rediscovered morality
Divorced: 03 February 2006
XW: My threads say it all
"Well, I guess if a person never quit when the going got tough, they wouldn't have anything to regret for the rest of their life..."
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I hope love finds me again too. I'm feeling pretty lonely these days.
Me 35
STBX 39
Dear son 9
Married...15 years (Jan. 20, 1990)
D-Day July 20, 2004.
Divorcing!
What goes around comes around
Sometimes we have to hold our head high, blink back the tears and say GOOD-BYE
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Oh Tree, it will. I have no doubt.
You have so earned your way out of this marriage, and love not finding you is just not possible.
The perfect guy is just waiting for you.
What a sweetheart you are.
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Thank you weaver. I hope you are right! This lonely feeling is the worst in the world.
Me 35
STBX 39
Dear son 9
Married...15 years (Jan. 20, 1990)
D-Day July 20, 2004.
Divorcing!
What goes around comes around
Sometimes we have to hold our head high, blink back the tears and say GOOD-BYE
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Personaly, I am enjoying my freedom right now! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> I dont know if I will ever want to be wtih a man again...wait, that is not to say I am going gay or anything...I just like my independence...especially now that I know how to mow the lawn! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Black and Decker, my best friend.... Oh my...thems powerful tools <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />
Faith
me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
DS 30
DD 21
DS 15
OCDS 8
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Black and Decker, my best friend.... Oh my...thems powerful tools <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> Actually, I believe the Black and Decker company manufactures devices other than just power tools - removable shower heads, for instance. I'm just sayin'... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />
Me 40, STBXWH 43
Married 16 years
D-day 01/25/05
Son 14, Daughter 10
Divorce almost final - I hope!
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After reading about gymnastics and Ironman training, your WH must have a HUGE hole in his head to cheat on you!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />Having run one marathon and done some bike racing, I certainly can appreciate how f!@#ing tough an Ironman will be when the marathon is only 1/3 of your day!! You go girl!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> WNB Thanks...our spouses will definitely be missing out as us endurance athletes can go the distance and more <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> And, yes with a gymnastics background too, I am quite limber which helps for certain positions <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> I am looking forward to a full return to this type of training soon <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Happy monkey trails, Muels
Me: 28 yo Faithful wife Him: 31 yo WH
Married:6/17/01, together 5 yrs D-Day:5/22/04
His Affairs: w/coworker fall 03 and current with '03 HS grad he met while chatting via webcam online; they now live together 1/4 mile from me. WH admitted to missing me & not loving OW the same way he loved me 4/05. Divorce papers were filed 12/04 and I am having a hard time accepting it as I know we could weather this storm, rekindle our friendship, and move towards great things in love and in life.
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I hope love finds me again too. I'm feeling pretty lonely these days. As much as we may doubt it sometimes, love will return to our lives again. The hardest part is thinking that WH has a companion through all of this while I have been sitting at home all lonely this past year. Getting out and meeting new people, including the guy I recently connected with, has definitely lifted my spirits and hope that I will once again have that euphoric feeling of beeing married to a man I love with all my heart. Keep smiling Tree...I've seen your pix. You are beautiful from inside out and your son is a cutie. Love will happen for you again! Happy Monday, Muels
Me: 28 yo Faithful wife Him: 31 yo WH
Married:6/17/01, together 5 yrs D-Day:5/22/04
His Affairs: w/coworker fall 03 and current with '03 HS grad he met while chatting via webcam online; they now live together 1/4 mile from me. WH admitted to missing me & not loving OW the same way he loved me 4/05. Divorce papers were filed 12/04 and I am having a hard time accepting it as I know we could weather this storm, rekindle our friendship, and move towards great things in love and in life.
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I think WH are completely blind. On D-day, my WH never noticed the new lamps in our bedroom, the silk art above the bed that was finally framed or the 20 pounds I lost. It doesn't matter if you are a marathoner, a weightlifter or a gymnast, they just don't see us. For gosh sake, I'm a hula dancer. Everybody knows the reputation hula dancers are suppose to have. I've extremely flexible and have got hip action +++. Has it ever been appreciated? Never.
I'm sure some day somebody will notice. Maybe it'll even be WH.
Power tools for women------yeah
Grapes are versatile. Grapes can be sour, sweet, sublime as wine and fabulous even when old and dried out.
Me: BS
XCH: Clueless
2-DS: Bigger than me
1-DD: Now also bigger than me!
5/6: Personally served CH with divorce papers
6/6: CH F? wants to time to see if M can be saved
7/6: FCH reenters our lives to work on marriage but secretly signs papers to start divorce...what's that about?
Mediation set for November
Final dissolution in January 2007.
2008 and beyond: Life goes on...
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See ? Joking here smugly about my monkey sex potential and Squid and I had a big row before bedtime and theres no hoggins goin' on in OUR house now ! Its a reckoning !!! That'll teach me to boast ! LOL !<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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