foundareason -

There are all kinds of laws about other people's stuff here. The police will probably do nothing. You will need to follow the legal procedure - notifying the person to remove the stuff, etc. What a drag.

I would wait until things are resolved with your wife.

(((((FAR))))),

Yayyyyyyyyyy! Stay strong!

Flea market, E-Bay, Craig's list....then say....'what stuff?'

Wonder if he would report it stolen? Ummmm...

OM: Hello, police? I'd like to report some stolen equipment.

Police: Where were the items located?

OM: In a garage.

Police: Your garage? Please provide the address.

OM: No, not my garage..... um.... my girlfriend's garage. I think her husband stole it.

Police: Girlfiend w/a husband? Do they live together?

OM: Yes.

Police: Please come down and visit our station. We have a special desk we would like you to sit at for a while so you can 'tell your story in a more controlled environment'.

OM: Ok, I'll be right over.


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L.

Far,

All you were doing was cleaning out the garage right?

Let the sale begin!

Personally I would have a yard sale and let him buy it all back. Or not? Who cares?

Does he have a receipt? Did you sign something?

No? Too bad, so sad.

Good Job so far though.

Hey he got off cheap IMHO

What about renting a pod storage unit? You just stuff all his junk into the thing, pay one months rent on it, and send him the key. Cheap at half the price, and probably legal (at least, he can't sue you for theft.)

Good for you far. You got guts.

Send the guy a registered letter:

"On such and such a day ... the items you left on my private property (without my permission) will be placed out on the curb for pick up by the public waste removal authorities. If you wish to retrieve your personal items before that date, please call the following number."

Give him a week or so .... then just put all his crap out on the street.

Make sure he has signed for the letter before you do that.

Pep

I'm with PEP.

I don't think you have any obligation to him at all. You didn't sign a storage contract with him.

Hey! I am in that very business...I am sure I could find a good home for it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


TM

TM - didn't you move back to Texas? This is a full stake bed load of gear. You were close enough to where we are (SD, Cardiff) you might know the guy.

I have yet to decide what to do with it.

I did agree to let it be stored here - but I was lied to about who he really is.

Not a big deal, yet.

WW has yet to hear anything is awry. OMW is sitting on it at this point. WW is as "normal" as usual.

Just trying to get the ironclad cup to fit right....

Okee dokee. I am starting to get the hang of exposure. WW has yet to figure out that I have begun my campaign. That is OK. It gives me the testicular fortitude to keep going. I called FIL today. He is very supportive. He told me the story of his wife, and the affairs she had, and how much better a man I will be after all of this, whether or not WW comes back. He wants to see it work, and said the biggest mistake would be to split the kids parents up. He is a criminal attorney. Nice guy.

I will fedex exposure letters to MIL (who had a mastectomy yesterday and will go home thursday tomorrow) and SIL. They are all together, and I think I can get MIL and SIL to gang up on WW. Either she will think about things, or commit suicide. It would kill me if she took her life, but she has threatened it. Then said she was just saying that as an example - but I know she is lying about everything else. I hope she does not. She is a great woman, and these kids need her.

Mortar - thanks for shoving me out the doorway of procrastination. Man it was hard to make that call. I had a female co-worker call and ask for Nancy. OM handed it right to her. Hahahahahahahahahaha!!
(I then emailed leadership - who knows my sitch - about the female co-worker's assistance. I work for a church)

Hi, found.

What have you got planned for her f-buddy?

God bless,
Gimble

Hey, we all need a little shove once in awhile. I had some oldies on here that took care of me. A year or two from now, you'll be here helping someone else.

Hang tough. It is going to get worse before it gets better. But at least the journey has begun.

In His arms.

Good for you. I can read between the lines here and see you fighting for your family and what is rightfully yours-your wife. You are quite a man. You are so much more in control and positive today as compared to your first posts. YEA!! Keep fighting. I hope you can keep the family together.

So my mom is here and I have been keeping her kinda updated. (one friend told me don't tell my parents - that they would hate WW from now on, even if we reconcile.)

I told ner about the exposure letters I included in some cards I sent to WW, MIL, and SIL. She was asking when I thought SIL would get hers. I told her I sent them all overnight to MILs house (MIL came home from the hospital today after a mastectomy two days ago). Mom's jaw dropped, in shock. She hem-hawed for a moment, and asked when WW is coming home. "Sunday afternoon".

Mom says, "Well, when she gets home, she is liable to be out of sorts."

Yea, Mom, I expect so.

Thought you all would enjoy that one.

She is liable to be out of sorts after I expose to OMW, MIL, SIL, and FIL.

Out of sorts, indeed.

Gimble - tomorrow I am going to call F-buddy and ask if there is any news on his procuring a storage place for his sound system.

me "So WW says you have found a church you like. What church is it? Just curious - being I work for a church I might know the people there. What is the pastor's name"

fb "Oh yea, it is great, I am learning so much about God, and he is helping me so much, and your wife is giving me so much spiritual support. Yea, pastor X at X church is so good."

me "Cool. Have you had sex with my wife?"

fb "UHHHHH, ......"

have yet to write the next line in the script.
will probably have something to do with the sound system.

Then I will call pastor X.

fb has no living relatives, except a couple of kids that his ex does not let him see.

Not much leverage except that sound system.

I will also - tomorrow - drop by WWs workplace. I perceive she sent OM an email from her boss's computer. I will ask boss to check her sent folder for any messages to OM@aol.com , then ask her to print it for me.
It does two things - it gives me a source that I can show WW without her finding I am looking at her hotmail - And it exposes to her boss the predicament. Her boss has supported her in seeking D, but I do not know if she knows WW is involved with a married man. Plus there has been inappropriate advances from co-workers. I do not know if any have progressed. WW lies about all of that.

NJ - thanks for the note of support. The fireworks have not even started yet.

Question - medical. When I think about WW and all of this - sometimes my chest hurts. I get light headed, and have to sit or crouch for a minute or two. I assume high blood pressure is common for BSs. At what point should I see a doctor?

YIKES! I would see a doctor right away. At least get checked out. It is probably just stress, but don't take chances. You could also ask for some anti-D's if the doc thinks they would be helpful.

I have had CP myself too (when I would think of his A). I figured it was most likely anxiety, but then I started having it at other times too. So, saw my doc, had a treadmill, and was cleared of any cardiac issues. Think it may be gastric reflux now.

However, you never know whether you have some underlying problem. I think you mentioned having kids. Take the time to make an appt immediately to get this evaluated. Your kids need their dad.

P.S. Great job on exposure!! I wish I could go back sometimes and handle his A with a MB-outlook right from the beginning. I never did exposure, no Plan A, etc. I think we are suffering now because of it.