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Re: Wife left, seeing someone else...what to do?? MelodyLane #1417309 07/04/05 06:54 PM
Joined: Jun 2005 Posts: 16 T tom1011 Junior Member
tom1011 Junior Member T Joined: Jun 2005 Posts: 16	Quote I wouldn't do that right now. I think she is in detached mode and doesn't want to hear that. I would back off for a little bit and see what she does. Who is this OM? Is he married? Hmmm...thanks for the perspective Melody! A woman's view is much appreciated. But how long to wait?? I know little about the OM; my W hasn't talked to me much about it. BS (me) - 37 WW - 33 Together 3.5 years Married 2 No kids D-Day -Jun 1, '05

Re: Wife left, seeing someone else...what to do?? tom1011 #1417310 07/04/05 07:09 PM
Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas M MelodyLane Member
MelodyLane Member M Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas	Tom, I would find out as much as you can about this OM. The single greatest weapon you have against this affair is exposure. If he is married, or even single, there is all manner of trouble you could cause. See, an affair needs secrecy in order to survive. Exposure RUINS affairs and hastens their end. When you expose an affair, it forces them to see themselves through the eyes of others. This is a huge fantasy buster when they have to see how sleazy they look to others. It causes major embarrassment for them and causes conflict in the affair. That is your job! Whatever you do, Tom, do not pass up this opportunity. And I would expose to her family, but I would find out who this cat is first. "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101

Re: Wife left, seeing someone else...what to do?? tom1011 #1417311 07/04/05 07:11 PM
Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas M MelodyLane Member
MelodyLane Member M Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas	Quote Hmmm...thanks for the perspective Melody! A woman's view is much appreciated. But how long to wait?? Just play it by ear for now and see if she reacts. See, you don't want to become annoying or "too" available. "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101

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