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Your post brought tears to my eyes. Congratulations! I know happy you must be. I too am sitting here day after day waiting to hear those words. I was beginning to think that I never would, but after reading this maybe there is hope for me after all.
BS (me) - 33
FWH - 33
Dday - 5/2/04, he confessed to a PA
Together 10 yrs, M 4
WH moved out 5/23/04, moved home 11/29/04
DD born - 12/7/04
In the process of recovery, taking it one day at a time...
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Ahhhh, that's perfect news bob.
The chains left your heart, and the guard and pride left hers.
So happy for you both...
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Bob back in for a flying visit & WOW!!! I am soooo relieved & happy for your heart & Squids <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Roll out the Fudge. Bob remember to Stay On the Course you started that has got you to this point & grow from here. Best wishes Ktulu
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Mate,
Words cannot describe the joy I have to hear what transpired. May you and Sqiddy live happily ever after.
tears of joy.
ME 40
WW 40
Married 14y
EA 2mos
PA 1(12/20)
D-day 12/22/04
recovering?
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Thanks Bob...I know my day will come. I'm going away on vacation Friday and will be staying on the beach for a whole week. I'm planning on doing some soul searching while I'm there. I also plan on walking down to the lighthouse by myself and screaming. crying, throwing...whatever it takes to let go of some of this anger inside of me. This same time last year at the beach house with my family is when WH came to tell me he was leaving me. This will be full circle for me to go there this year and let go. Keep me in your prayers!!!
Thanks for all the support you have given me Bob. I will forever think of you as a MB friend!!!!!
Me 35
STBX 39
Dear son 9
Married...15 years (Jan. 20, 1990)
D-Day July 20, 2004.
Divorcing!
What goes around comes around
Sometimes we have to hold our head high, blink back the tears and say GOOD-BYE
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There is one thing that I am concerned about is that she said that she would never be able to forgive herself. This is something that I believe has to be done or the progress of recovery will come to a standstill.
Bob I was wondering if you planed on printing out all of your threads in your bob's broken hearted guide. That way you could further prove that you were not bashing her behind her back but instead you could and would be able to further show your love you have for her during those times. I'm sure squid does believe you that you weren't bashing her behind her back but this would help end those thoughts or worries that she has.
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Hi, Bob.
That is absolutely outstanding!
It is also a major step toward her seeking forgiveness in other places. If she feels confidant enough to put her heart out there and trust you with it, then the big step will come soon.
Here is a suggestion for you. Find one verse that you think sums up forgiveness. Write it on an index card or the back of a business card. Give it to her, then don't mention what she needs to do again. You really can't lead her to this trough to drink. She has to do that on her own.
God bless,
Gimble
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
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Tree,
Enjoy your vacation and use this time wisely. Don't think of the negative about the beach. Look up instead, and remember Him that has the unfathomable love for you that you may or may not have recognized yet.
LOL, HEHE, if God had a fridge, your picture would be plastered all over it.
Splash your feet in the water and look up! He's leaning all the way down from His throne to lift you up to His sacred heart.
Enjoy His love.
Blessings,
Jerry
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Isn't it Gimble? Can you imagine my Squid getting to the point to say that today from her heart ?
Friend, this is teh answer to a LOT of prayin' yours and mine !
Great idea re: forgiveness.
I told her this afternoon that I love and forgive her, and that God loves her and would LOVE to forgive her given the chance.
She replied she thanks God for me every day, but then just cried. Didn't talk about forgiveness.
I was delighted to hear she has a personal prayer life again. She is making strides now, sir.
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STBX 39
Dear son 9
Married...15 years (Jan. 20, 1990)
D-Day July 20, 2004.
Divorcing!
What goes around comes around
Sometimes we have to hold our head high, blink back the tears and say GOOD-BYE
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Bob, congratulations. It's a good day.
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BP, I am so happy for you.....I remember your early posts and how you yearned to hear those words...and although they did not come right away.....you kept working and putting emphasis on the practicing the MB principles. The day has finally arrived and it must be a like a day with 24 hours of sunshine......the air must seem clearer, the sun more bright and birds singing more sweetly. I am so happy for you....because you now have the freedom of truth and sanity. I do not think I will ever experience what you have for so many reasons. I do not think FWS will be able to bring himself to say the words or to face the truth of his choice. I yearn for the day also....it truth would help me heal and recovery in a way that cannot be achieved without the that heartfelt admission....I will, however, live through you....and will share in the celebration of this day. {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Blessings, Bob}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} ss <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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Some people just don't get it, they don't get it that they don't get it.
I had the right to remain silent.......but I didn't have the ability.
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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FANTASTIC good news!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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I am so happy for you, Bob. This is truly wonderful news. You deserve this.
me-FBS M-6/84 3 great kids
A-2/03-5/04 DDay-5/8/04 WD - severe-5/04-9/04 with continuing C; NC ltr-9/3/04
In Recovery with God's help
Praying for all WS/BS. Blessings!
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Well, Bobbo, it's one of the nicest I TOLD YOU SO's that Kimmy and I have ever delivered. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Jen
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Take heart, BS friends, your WS heart can change even if it takes a year. Hmm. Well, I think some BS can take heart, but some of us may need to know when to quit. I'm happy to see even ONE marriage recover. I'm glad it was yours Bob. It warms the heart. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
What doesn't kill us makes us stronger.
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WS 39
DS 19, DS 9
DDay 2/25/05
Divorcing....
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bOb,
I am so happy for you and happy for Squid.
What a release this must be for her, she must finally know how lucky she is and what a wonderful husband she has.
All your heroic efforts have paid off. I hope that you have many, many happy times together!
Me BS 44
XH 45
M 20 years
D19
D12
DDay 11.29.04
Separated 12.29.04
Plan A 24.02.05
Plan B 10.9.05
Plan D 2.2.06
Divorce 13.6.06
OW - former friend and D12's x-godmother (Skunkypoo)
OWH - philander, XH's former best friend (still shares skunkypoo with XH)
Anger = drinking a rat poison and waiting/wishing the rat would notice you drink it and the rat die from it.
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This has made my day, Bob. My heart is soaring for the two of you! The Lord's blessing be upon your home. ~ Snow <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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