Well this is not a joke... I am just really baffled right now... I cannot believe this.

Fox,

From another perspective, those are someone's children, someone is abusing them, whether it be HER husband or NOT!!

what if it was found one of those children were yours? Or one of your nieces or nephews? Wouldn't YOU WANT TO KNOW??

Chaster,

Now, I know for a FACT the FBI has officers investigating child porn downloads, they go into chatrooms where other pedophiles pass this garbage out. Now, do you want the FBI coming in and finding out YOU KNEW HE HAD THIS STUFF and didn't REPORT IT??? Honey, that MAKES YOU AN ACCOMPLISE TO HIS CRIME!! And your child CAN be taken away from you. Is that really what you want??

I know for fact they do this because one of the teachers at my childs previous school was arrested--for downloading and having child porn on HIS home computer. How did they find him? They met him in a chatroom...

And you know how they charge in those offenses??? A certain length of time PER PICTURE!!! Not based on the mere fact he had 'pictures' but PER PICTURE!! And with that He will also have to have one of those little signs posted up that he is a Sex OFFENDER!!

Is that really what you want for yourself to be listed as a Sex Offender just because YOU DIDN'T report it??

And how do you know none of these pictures were of your husband?? Did You look at ALL OF THEM THAT CLOSELY???

Based on what I know, I'd be calling the police...

Child pornography isn't just something you "find" on the internet. You have to know where to look, actively seek it out, and usually have to pay dues to have access to it.

Paying for access to child pornography assists the pornographers to violate children even more.

Whether he is likely to molest a child isn't the only factor here. By supporting this industry, he is supporting the people who make and distribute this filth.

If it is discovered that you knew he had child pornography and did nothing about it, child services may decide that you are not a fit mother.

Dobie

good lord. How about a little less extremist behavior from the masses here.

uh... there is probably no good reason to have child porn, at least not that I can think of. I think that bein interested in child porn to fill a need is disgusting. But this lady is married to this guy. Nothing is ever so simple as "Fry your husband!!!" This f'ing thread reads like a witch hunt... and you people should be ashamed of yourselves for not knowing the entire story and using fear tactics to coerce this person into a decision that should not at all be taken lightly.

When you are all done freaking out over the shock value of this how about this for an idea. Put copies of the disks somewhere safe. Talk to him about it. If you have even the slightest idea that he may go out of control(and if I were you I would be prepared) then set up a phone with 911 on speed dial and be ready with it.

But be subtle. There is no need to put him in a combative/defensive situation by blasting him with your accusations along with having the cops at the ready. I am sorry that you are in this situation and I am sure it is not fun at all. You are not powerless. Investigate why this is happening and have protection methods setup for yourself in case the investigation go bad. Sure, it is possible he is the next crazy [censored] we will see on CNN.... but then again, and probably, he isn't.

Again, I have no idea what a good explanation for having child porn sounds like.. but I still think the US works on innocent until proven guilty. I mean seriously, with the cost of gas, corruption everywhere and the f'ing sky falling...I think I will hold on to this one last idea.

Why not place an emergency call to Steve Harley and get some professional advice from his office???

It is his site we're on, and he IS the expert, eh???

JMHO
SD

Chaster,

If someone molested your child, and during the investigation they turned up kiddie porn on the abuser's computer, which his wife knew about, wouldn't you be super pissed that she didn't report it?

And wouldn't you want charges pressed against the wife? She would be an enabler of sorts.

Think...

I think calling the police in this situation is the best thing to do. It would be my recommendation.

patriot - you took the words out of my mouth, I'm just to p---- to talk to people like that hah.

How do I do that shattered dreams?

Hey Fox, You are a CJ major. If someone watched an actual video of a murder and had the tape in their hand and didn't turn it over to the police. Aren't they an accessory to the murder? There are a few other charges that can be thrown there.

Somewhere, someone is taking pics of little kids and putting them on the net. That is illegal. Downloading child porn is illegal. I might be able to consider not calling the police if she found them in the history ONE time and that's it. Then maybe, he was at a porn site, clicked on a link and went somewhere else, left it, it was a mistake. To have them saved on a disk is a whole nother story.

I certainly no I couldn't just throw everything away at the blink of an eye and incarcerate my wife without even thinking things through...is anyone that unhuman?

Possession of child pornography itself is illegal. There is no question that a law has been broken. NONE.

Dobie

Thank you patriot... Everyone is making me feel like I'm the bad guy when I am just trying to get some advice.

Well, next time your wife is driving 60 in a 55, please turn off to the nearest police station and have them write her a citation.

You're not the bad guy, but I feel that protecting someone from the consequences of this sort of behavior would be criminally negligent.

I know all this is a huge shock to you, but please think as a parent.

Dobie

Chasterweb, I know this is extremely hard on you, contrary to what other people are telling you, You know your husband, does he have a secret life? maybe. But, untill you talk to him,(not yelling) you are condeming him before he can explain his side. Denial? again, maybe. but find out first. Don't jump to a conclusion based on one side of the story.

let him know, in no uncertain terms, what you feel. hear him, and then make you decision. Unless you feel threatened by him. then this is a different story. But the police should be an alternative, Not the only answer.

You and your child do come first! But, He should have his say too.

Again, the police will always be there.
If he is sick/addiction, See a professional. make him understand this would be the only option! Maybe he knows, and is afraid to tell you, because of your reaction. It might be it is all he needs is for you to know so he can get help.

don't shoot first and then ask questions!

I JUST FOund OUT ABOUT IT... I am not protecting him.

I'm not even asking you to accuse your husband, I'm just saying call the police, say you found those disks, you put them in, say they had child porn and you wanted to surrender them. For all you know they were blanks given to your husband by someone else.

IMHO, I am certianly no expert, nor would I even attempt to try to tell you what to do here, but I can see all points posted as valid.

Me personally, would not call the police first, but I would contact a pychiatrist who specializes in matters such as this before exposing to a spouse. All the while ensuring the safety of childern involved.

If the best course of action is to contact the police the pychiatrist will instruct to do so.

Again first and foremost keep everyone safe.

Sorry you are having to dealing with this situation.

My prayers are with you.

OK Chaster, deep breath. I am sure you are scared sh*tless right now, emotions everywhere.

Have you checked the history on your computer? See what it shows you. Is the child porn an everyday thing? Is porn an everyday thing for him?

In your mind right now, what do you want to do? Can you get an idea on how long the disks have been in your house? Can you tell when the files were copied onto the disk? Make a copy of the disk, and hide it somewhere. At least for the very worst situation you have a copy of it.

If you plan on confronting your dh, please be very careful. He will probablly deny, when you tell him you have proof, he may become very angry.

Just take a deep breath, tell us what you want to do.