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I would have followed my first instinct...
Beat his [censored] and kicked out WW..
The end result would have been the same..only sooner.
And on my terms.
"Who are you" said the Caterpillar
This was not an encouraging opening for a conversation.
Alice replied, rather shyly, "I--I hardly know, sir, just at present...At least I know who I WAS when I got up this morning, but I think I must have been changed several times since then."
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I would have believed my gut feelings instead of WH. I should have spied and collected hard evidence. I should have forbidden OW's contact to my children earlier. I could have ended the A earlier.
I just didn't want to believe that WH could actually do something so horrible to me, our children, and his best friend.
Me BS 44
XH 45
M 20 years
D19
D12
DDay 11.29.04
Separated 12.29.04
Plan A 24.02.05
Plan B 10.9.05
Plan D 2.2.06
Divorce 13.6.06
OW - former friend and D12's x-godmother (Skunkypoo)
OWH - philander, XH's former best friend (still shares skunkypoo with XH)
Anger = drinking a rat poison and waiting/wishing the rat would notice you drink it and the rat die from it.
Redhat
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I would have taken prompt action after discovering the 1st A a year ago . . . instead . . . he continued an EA with the 1st OW, and launched another A . . .
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If I could go back I would have believed every word FOWH said and listened to my heart instead of my brain. Oh man, I really don't want to think about what if's. It ain't purdy, folks.
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I also would have trusted my instincts
I would have spied and not believed a darn word he said
I would have taken the OWs first call as truth
I would not have waited for another year to find out the real truth
I would have not sold my soul for him
I would have been a better person from the first I DOs
I would have bought the books from MB before the M
But a saying goes...." If a frog had wings, he wouldnt bump his butt" LOL
JE
D-day 5-18-05
35 BS (me)
52 WH
17 DS
15 DD
14 DDs twins
Currently in R.
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference" The Serenity Prayer
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