Well to give you all an update. We had sex for the first time in almost 6 monthes. I agree that we both went out together had some drinks and came back to make incredible love. Although there was some almost disturbing that I felt. To put it into Leman terms, I couldn't finish. Is this normal?
She afterwards said that I can not complain anymore about "not getting any". I really don't believe this was out of pity because it felt good for both me and her.
The following day I woke up and just starting cleaning around the house. She usually has to tell me what to do and give me "choirs", but I told her that I am way more productive at getting things done around the house when I have positive reinforcement and affection from her (of course, doesn't every guy). Does this finally show an important step in our path towards recovery? It was only this one time, so how do I judge a good SF relationship? I know I would definitely want it every day if I could, but I think to be completely content with SF in my marriage to have SF at least once if not twice a week. Is this to much to be asking for? And when do I know it to start becoming a problem again?
I have also verified NC with the OM which is great. Nothing is showing up on her cell (which she still doesn't know I have access to or anything in her email). Which brings up another questions of mine. When do you think I can stop "checking on her", because I know if I get caught, then it's big time trouble for me if not curtians.
