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HANG in there buddy!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> I was in your shoes four months ago and IT DOES GET BETTER!!! Ambien was a lifesaver! It took me a while to realize, but you CANNOT change ANYTHING about your "foggy" wife or compel her to do anything...all you can is make YOURSELF a better person. An attractive alternative to a cheater and liar, her OM. That way, no matter which way your M goes (Recovery or D), you win. I'll not even try to add my .02 to the great advice you are already getting...just know that it WILL get better. Take one day at a time...work on the things you have control over (yourself) and adapt all of this great advice to your particular situation. Keep your GOAL in mind (saving your M)...be a PIT BULL! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> I am REALLY pulling for you! WNB
43yr old FWH who has rediscovered morality
Divorced: 03 February 2006
XW: My threads say it all
"Well, I guess if a person never quit when the going got tough, they wouldn't have anything to regret for the rest of their life..."
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navyman, I would just ignore her silly, sleazy friend and avoid all the drama. Just calm down. This is all part and parcel of an affair, you are not dealing with rational people and the sooner you accept that, the better off you will be. Stick to your plan and don't get baited into silly fights with silly women.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I'm a bit late here, but when I had my number changed last spring, I called at 1530 on a Tuesday, and it was changed IMMEDIATELY. Once I hung up with Verizon, my old number no longer worked. But, that's just my personal experience. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> But then, wouldn't it take longer than one day to change one's phone #?
Veni Vidi PEACHY!
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Wow, I had no idea, Peachy!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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It's alright though. I still want things to work, but if not; I'm able to move on now that everybody knows, and there will be no hurt in either family. I would post the whole story, but since there's people trying to use my words against me, I'll leave it at that.
I never wanted things to get messy, but I guess people always want to stick there noses further than there welcome and comfort those who need to be told there actions were wrong.
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Navyredman, I posted the following in a separate post that has dropped to Page 3 at this time:
"Given that, thanks to Melisa (is her BF a MM?), your wife and MM have shut down the normal ways of contacting his wife, I have an idea.
Place an ad in the major newspaper for that area. The ad should read:
"Mrs. OMW, I have important information for you in regard to a situation that is having a serious and detrimental effect on your life, as well as mine. I have verification this information. Please contact Navyredman ASAP at xxx-xxx-xxxx."
You can do this in the personals section, but I would go for spending the money to place a small box ad."
Now, if Melisa sees this and runs to tell your WW, the MM may tell his wife that this nut case is harassing him and trying to cause trouble in his life...blah, blah, blah.
Because this occurred to me after I posted the original post, I added the sentence about verification. If you do this, be sure you actually have proof that you can show the MMW.
Otherwise, the beauty of this idea is that there is no way the MM can buy up all the newspapers in Raleigh to stop his BW from seeing it. Even if he does manage to keep her from seeing the newspaper, she will probably hear about it from someone she knows.
LC
"Your actions are so loud that I can't hear a word you're saying!"
BW M 44 yrs to still-foggy but now-faithful WH. What/how I post=my biz. Report any perceived violations to the Mods.
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navyredman, Don't worry about them knowing you post here. There is no disgrace, no shame in posting on a board dedicated to saving marriages. You have only stated how much you love your W, how much you'd love the chance to recover and rebuild your marriage. And I'm sure she already knows that anyway. The only thing that has happened is the delay on letting the OMW know. But she will. This is only a delay. Where there's a will, there's a way! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
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