Well,

For months he could let go of the details but not the affair itself, until he ended up where he did.

Now he tells me that he has let go of it all. That he realized it doesn't matter to our now and future.

I know he has moments where thoughts come up - but he reminds himself of the here and now. When I discuss his A, it reminds him of mine, and we end up both in a rough spot - so I choose to discuss it with close dependable friends and my spiritual councellor.

Sprint still knows when I am hurting, as I tell him, but I don't discuss the why's or details of my hurt. And he comforts me, says he is sorry and holds me. Not bringing up why I am hurt saves us a boat load of pain...and he still sees my hurt, so it's not as if we are pretending it's all good and sweeping it under the rug.

Sprint however is 8 months post d-day, while I am maybe a month post his d-day.

Sprint has discovered that focusing too much on it, caused his problems. And that if he focuses on our future and our love, it makes it easier. He reminds me everyday he loves me and is happy I am home. Very different from the Sprint 2 months ago who asked me for a seperation so he wouldn't feel guilty about his relationship with the OW and hadn't said I love you in over 2 months, let alone touched me, or talked to me.

bumping just in case you didn't see my reply mr. wonkers <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />