Psycho OWs are the easiest to recover from. Their blatant actions are more visible. Even to neighbors, coworkers, etc. In some cases the police.

You though have to stay out of their chaos. This is the time you can cause them great lovebusting their A from afar.

Learn to reverse babble. C/b as simple as saying 'hmmmm....' and give him that questioning look. Don't be there for him. He needs to live with his psycho babble choices.

The OW in my case earned the name PBR (psycho babble rabbit).

L.

Oh I am staying out of this for sure. I can only imagine what last nite was like. I am sure lots of lies and begging from him and lots of LB's from her. I would also imagine all the wonderful things she does for him will not be happening for a few days or so. I am still in shock that this all happen like it did. I am not saying I'm not a little pleased she found out the truth , serves them both right if ya ask me...

Good.

One of the things I learned what that PBR (psycho babble rabbit) in my case was a whiner. She even crawled on the floor and was holding onto his leg as he was leaving. Imagine the visual I had with that one. LOL!!! I recently told H that I should have sat up with him in court and mentioned it to the judge. LOL!!! He laughed and agreed. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

See you can use her psychotic ways to your advantage. It is sad to see these kinds of women exist in our society but the world if filled with these types who when they feel they are in control will wreek havoc then cry as if they are the victim.

BTW, one of H's sisters is just like that. Imagine being related to one of those kinds of characters. It is still all about her. I keep my convo with her very limited and she knows it. Too bad. Her loss not mine. I pity her H and chlidren but I keep tabs on them.

The point is to diengage from the chaos. You will be better of for it. Once in a while you can trow an LB dart of 2. It will find it's mark. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

L.

Well something has happen that has blown my mind for sure. WH came by the house and said he wants to come home. He says he knows he was wrong and that he loves me. I told him are you wanting to come home because OW is kicking you out? He said no he told her he wanted out. Not sure whats true, guess I will never know. Anyhow I told him only way he can come home is N/C letter to OW and MC. He agreed to both. I have to admit I am a little scared but if he will do both things I am willing to try. Also seems that OW has a Sugar Daddy on the side. He pays her car payment every month and gives her money. So was not just a triangle , was a darn square. I pray this is a good thing and WH really means what he says. I know withdrawl will be hard and I will do my very best to not LB or push. Walking on a slippery slope here for sure..... Oh BTW Orchid I was watching the eyes and they had life in them, not some hollow looking space....

yeah!!!!!!!

I'm so happy for you!!!

Ty eav I am happy about it. I know its going to be a hard long road but weel worth it. I am confidante we can do this, I know there are going to be good and bad days, I know I will give it my all.

any idea when he will be coming back with that letter and his bags of clothes?

He was here most of the day today and everything was real nice. He came with nothing because he was afraid I would say no. He went to pack his stuff and will be home in the morning.... But until that happens for sure I am being cautious....

here's a thought!

go back to your first post and edit the title-you aren't new here anymore....he's going to write the letter and come home!

but remember...until you see the letter-don't open the door...sometimes they stall for more time!

where will he stay tonight? not with her i hope!

gosh...less than a month and he's agreed to write the letter and wants to come home?!

i'm at 15 months and the only thing he wants is a divorce:(

i'm so happy that you get a happy ending!!

oops I really should wait until tomorrow morning...like you said caution! what about the letter? is he planing to write it tonight or you'll write it together tomorrow?

Your right no letter , no homecoming ......

No he is at his sisters tonite... That I know for sure and he asked me about helping him with the letter. I will be more than happy to do it lol

i wish there were more people here for you tonight! weekend are so slow!!

but i still say edit your title!

I thought I did edit it lol guess it didn't work ... I know I wish some of the pros were here but I am gonna risk this on my own and hope I have made the right decsion.....

new title?
i'd say "husband says he wants to come home!"

darn it....why couldn't my husband pick one of those psycho other women if they are the easiest to get over?

I wish for you eav that he had done that ..... I have been reading your thread and I truely pray it turns out like you want. Yuo have been through ****** and back I would say and you deserve some happiness .....

moving this to your new page for everyone to see! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

thank you

he and i both deserve some happiness...we've both been through he!!

i just hope we find it together

(like you and your hubby!!)

Im so happy for you- I wish the same would happen for me. My wh is with her and wont even give me a break in the game.