Oh Drive by's! lol.. See he is still trying to get his fix!Yeah she is away and he is feeling lonley. You sure there is No way to find sugar daddy. I have a brother in Tn if I can be of help. I also have a BS x-sil there. Who I am still very close to. Surely someone you know who knows her can find out. All you need is a name and appx. age.
Believer, My H said to me that OW and I would make great friends! He knows now that there is no way that would have EVER happened. Even if there had never been an A. She is NOT someone I would EVER get involved with. He laughs now that he ever said that. He also told me that she was giving him ideas on what to get me for Christmas that year (yuk) She flipped when she found out he gave me a gold necklace , like a name plate that said I love you. Her eyes almost popped out of her head when I came into his office with it.
She wanted him to give me tickets to a broadway show. (something I could do anytime where I live)

To be honest I don't have much to do with anyone she knows. And I don't think its common knowledge she has this man. I think WH told me about it just to get a reaction. I just looked at him and laughed when he told me. I was like and you think this is ok? Well that subject dropped fast....

I wish I could find out about her family but I don't think that is going to happen. Only chance I have is the sister and I have mo idea what she looks like or anything so I could find her in the apt. complex.. And if OW or WH caught me snooping out there I don't think it would be very pretty ....

One thing for sure I am not counting on a xmas present this year unless something happens real soon .... and I sure don't want her to pick it out ... lol

Well there are ways to find out. You could pay to get a listing of her phone records, and reverse search the ones with Tn area code. Depends on if you think it would help to expose to her side. I think it would. But then again. I still think this relationship will be over soon.

I hope tomorrow you find the perfect job. Its tough starting again. But it has its rewards! I went back to work after my H's A. It was tough on the kids at first, being used to me being here and all. But we all adjusted well. My H it seems is happier when I work. He dosen't understand the whole stay at home Mom thing ~sigh~ But thats OK I like my job too. working keeps you too busy to think about stuff at home. Gives you a reason to get up, get out and get going. Meeting new people is fun too. Be sure to follow up on all your applications. Ask directly for the office manager. Be confident and wear your brightest smile.

BTW..You are married the same years as I. We have kids the same age too. When is your anniversary?

Mya anniversary is July 18..... This year was a bummer one.. h moved out on the 17 of July....

Well I don't know about getting her phone records I don't have money for that .... and I would not know how to go about it anyway

I don't know what to think, I just talked to SIL .. I know I am not suppose to listen to stuff about the WH but he told her he still wants the D. She said he sems very sure this is what he wants.... I am afraid its really gonna happen....

cut it out

Pepper, he was just here he is looking for our son who has left and refuses to go to school.....

I know planb has been compromised but was not much choice in it.... Anyway he is looking for son, he asked wh I was crying I said because I don't know what to do about son... I said it feels like the whole world is crashing down, he says I'm sorry.... I told him , no I don't think you are...
He didn't say anything.....

he is gone now looking for son.... I know I am gonna get blasted because planb was broken but I had to do something, he has to help me with son... I tried everything I could this morning... The kid took off and I called MIL and no one could do anything....

I now really don't know what to do.... I know I have to get back in plan B and I will... but it just seems he really wants this..... I am so scared ...

when you are scared .... focus on what is happening RIGHT THEN @ that hour .... NOT what "might" happen

Hurting:

Yes. You can get right back up on the horse!

See this as YOUR OPPORTUNITY to get stronger.

Don't let them use you.

Your son is young and struggling with the loss of his F. Understandable. However, he can't be allowed to use this as a form of manipulation to gain control over the situation. He sees himself as trying to work on reconciliation. That is not your son's job. Plus, your son is seeing you as being weak and needing to be rescued by your H. NOT GOOD, HURTING....

You can handle your son on your own. I had to learn this during PLAN B and this is good for the relationship between you and your son regardless of the outcome of your M.

Do not back down from PLAN B unless your H is willing TO GET RID OF THE OW...

Your son can not be allowed to pull these stunts..

He has to go to school..no matter what...that is his job right now...

STAND FIRM AGAINST THE FORCES OF EVIL...

THAT'S BOLD LOVE...reading about this....

Did you look into your WH insurance plan to see if they have an employee assistance program that could provide you and your family with free counseling sessions and legal advice? May help your son. What about medical insurance policy in general. Many times, they cover counseling.

No, you shouldn't listen to what SIL says WH says he wants. WH doesn't know his [censored] from a hole in the ground.

Also, I wouldn't wasting my time finding scoop out on OW. Who cares. She's not worth your trouble.

I would take this opportunity to have WH take his clothes now. Who cares if he has to store them in his pickup because there's no room at OW's. He should have thought about that before he removed himself from YOUR house.

I'm sorry you're having trouble with S. It's a tough age period and then for them to have to deal with your WH crap too.

Stay on track.

OMG I just messed up plan b big time ....WH came back and was waiting for son to show up. He started talking aobut how sorry he was and how he felt uncomfotable when he was here the week before. he said he won't try again. I started crying, I know big mistake... He was hugging me trying to comfort me and then he was kissing me.... I was s messed up I fell for it ....What do I do now??? I messed up big time...... He is gone to take son to school.... But before WH left he says he should have not done that, I looked at him and your right it should have never happened....

He says he is afraid to try because he does not want to lose OW in case it won't work..... OMG what do I do .. I have really messed up ..... he keeps saying I really care about you alot.....

I am so mad at myself right now. How do I fix this ????

Ok. I confess. I'm the greatest PLAN B failure of them all, HURTING. I even had SF during my WH during PLAN B.

Do like I did. GET RIGHT BACK UP ON THE HORSE.

Now is the time to go COMPLETELY DARK again. Offer no explanations to him.

JUST DO IT!!!!

I think you'll be a success story....

Hang in there!!

MIMI

ty for being here.. I really screwed up didn't I ?
After he tells me this morning he still wants the D, and then next thing I know we are having SF.

He went from I like you to I care alot about you but am afraid to try and then lose OW. This makes no sense to me...

He says this should not have happen, I know in my heart he still loves me. Why can't he see it?

He saw the boxes with his clothes and asked what it was. I told him and he said ok...

Oh Mimi what have I done? Did I screw it up?

Do just as Mimi said. Dark. Leave the house now. Leave him a note and tell him where his clothes are and that he should get them and don't say anything else.

His behavior and stupid comments are typical. Nothing out of the ordinary. He's no different than the rest.

Stay strong.

Ty both for helping me this morning.... I am praying now that you both are right and this is all babble from him...

Why can't I do anything right.... I feel so messed up now..

INANUTSHELL:

You have a thing about the clothes... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Not even a note.....

I agree, leave the house now....

Get away from him....

He is gone ...... he took son to school. I am getting dressed to go out. I may be wrong but I am sure he won't need any explanations why I go dark again.... But I am going to do it.... ty for your help

YOU ARE DOING GREAT!!

Hurting - I did the same in my Plan B. Go dark again. Avoid contact at all with your husband.

Get your son under control. This is not good for him. Where was your son? Time for him to lose some privileges until he is doing what he is supposed to be doing.

Son is with WH at the school.....I also forgot to mention WH said he read truehearts letter... He said the letter was saying all this is his fault and he does not feel that way... So I guess the letter went way over his head ....Guess giving it to him was a bad idea .....

Beleiver, I hope I didn't mess things up to bad ...Mimi says I didn't and I believe her. So give me your take on it...