I will be thinking positive thoughts for you...Keep us posted!!

I've got my fingers crossed for you!!! You could use a break about now! A new job will give you something to focus on so you are not available to WH. It'll probably drive him nuts that you won't be as dependant on him for $$$$.

ty you all for the good luck wishes... She said I would hear by the begining of next week..... I am praying that I get the call... If not I will definatley call her ....

So far so good today no contact has been made ..... whoohooo hope it stays that way .....

That sounds good. Now don't sit around waiting for her to call. Continue applying for jobs.

Oh I am believer ..... I have done many apps .... I came home and did some house cleaning so I don't have to do it over the weekend.... I don't want to be here this weekend..

I want to do something with the kids.... Especially since whats his name said something about getting his stuff.. I want to be gone ... If he tell SIL he is coming to get it he will find it on the porch .....

Put it on the porch tomorrow. You gave him ample opportunity to get his stuff. You are in PLAN B remember. He shouldn't be relaying things through SIL. Leave her out of it and let him figure out what to do for a change. He's USING everyone and everyone is enabling him. Stack his precious tools out there too and then he can figure out what to do with them, given the fact that you said there's not room at the inn (OW's shack). He chose his path, now let him suffer the consequences of his actions.

lol I am going to put it all out on the back porch ... his tools are already outside ..scattered all over the yard and porch were he left them .... I am not packing that crap up he can figure it out himself ..... Oh he says he gonna get a storage unit ..... Sure like to know how he gonna pay for it .... He already complaining about how its gonna cost him 80.00 a week to drive back and forth to work.... Like I told him not my fault you chose to move so far from work ...
Andthat convo was yesterday ... I have not seen or heard from him today thank goodness he has not tried anyway ....

would do him no good anyway ....

Well the kids have left to go swimming. So another quite evening in store for me....

Asked the kids what they would like to do this weekend. So far no answers ... I think I shocked them, been awhile since I wanted to do anything ...

We always did things as a family gonna be hard to do with just us 3 ....But we will make the best of it for sure....

Is everyone sleeping ????? lol

Pick out something fun and different to do. Then you won't be thinking about how it "used" to be.

I go fishing and camping a lot with my boys. I don't know how your daughter would like that. When we go fishing I always pack a picnic lunch. It is very relaxing to be sitting by the water, waiting for the fish to bite.

They probably wouldn't be into painting and rearranging things in the house I suppose.

Hmmmm. It's Labor Day weekend, any parades, rodeos, or other festivities?

Nope the house thing won't work lol ... anyway don't wanna be here I got a feeling ya know what I mean ..... Hard to believe but no parades I know of .... Maybe go to the lake or something and feed the ducks... With gas prices can't go to far for sure .....

Pack up some food and go to the lake. Make it fun, just the three of you. I always enjoy spending time with my sons. They are 20 and 23 now, but love to have me along with them.

Believer can I ask you something? How did you handle holidays after all of what happen? I am not going to lie I dread the holidays coming up ... I know they are a few months away but how do you handle it ??? Because I sure don't see anything changing between now and then .....

I want you to know I am not getting sad or teary eyed here I am just more or less wondering....

Well, my first Christmas (3 months into Plan B) was when WH tried to move back in while I was at work. That was the Christmas I threw all of the presents out in the street. But I won't count that one.

You have to be especially vigilant around the holidays, because that is when a lot of false recoveries start.

My first anniversary alone was hard, although it was pretty exciting. WH sent me some beautiful roses, and then took the OW out for dinner. Later that night I delivered the roses to her, with his love letter. Even later, SHE threw the roses at him, and he came over to yell at me, still clutching the bedraggled roses.

But seriously, you will get where you enjoy the holidays again. We started new traditions, and that helped.

I don't know about your husband, but mine was never that great at holiday things anyway. So I guess it was easier for me.

Our holidays are always big family things .... We always have a big T=day dinner at his moms and then from there its always parties and such for xmas.... We always do a big xmas eve thing at his mothers and then xmas day was all about the kids and then we always got together with friends and had a big dinner .....

I guess whats bad about it is I will probably be doing these things alone since he has cut everyone off.... he will be the one alone with OW ......

And that will be very good for him. But he may be back before then.

We always had all kinds of family activities too. I do miss that. His affair tore the whole family apart. I very seldom see my step-kids or grandchildren. He takes OW to ALL family get-togethers now, and has for the last couple of years.

The weird thing is while she is partying it up with his family, her 12 year old daughter and husband are home by themselves.

Well one thing for sure OW won't be at any family gatherings .... They have all told him she is not welcome and never will be.... Heck he isn't even welcome right now ....

As far as him being here by then I hope so but am not counting on it ....

Very sad your WH's , OW leaves her H and D like that .... Does he not care or does he just take it ?

OW's husband cared for a long time, but not anymore. His wife was too hurtful to their little girl. She just moved in with my husband, and abandoned her daughter. Over the last 3 years, she goes by and visits her about an hour or so a week.

And the strange thing is that she says her daughter is the most important thing in the world to her. Very sad.

That is very sad .... I can't believe a mother could do such a thing.... Poor kid I can't even imagine how she feels...

So for some good news .. D got a part time job at the bowling alley... She is going to work in the daycare, I had to take her up there tonite to see the boss... I sat in the car seeing how WH is bowling tonite.... Have you all figured out that we are a bowling family? Was the recreation we always did as a couple until last year and I quit . I just needed a break after so many years, bad choice for me thats how OW got her hooks in WH...

Anyway good going D ......

How is D going to get back and forth to work? I hope you will not be the one to take her?