Actually never really thought about that.. I did a few on line for the military base here. I will defiantley check it out due to high gas prices .... ty Orchid

Sorry to say this..

But tell your son that worse things can happen to him...

He'll be fine..

He has a Mother and a Father who love him....

My FWH didn't even visit our son....

Your right mimi things could be worse ....

So are you getting everything tidied up around the house? I went to the garage sales this AM and got a 9X5 Egyptian rug. I love it. I picked some roses from the yard, and cleaned up the house. Now I'm cooking for tonight.

So I feel good to have everything done. Hope you are staying busy.

Actually I just got home from having lunch at MIL's ... My SIL made Cannaloni it was real good ....

I have a few chores to do this afternoon, because I won't be home tomorrow morning.... Not sure what I am going to do yet but I am leaving home....

Sounds like a plan. It is better to stay busy, doing ANYTHING. I let all my friends know that I was available for whatever. I did some things that I never would have thought I would enjoy, and had lots of fun. It is very difficult at first, but gets easier and easier.

I am sure it will get easier. The main reason for leaving the house is because WH is going to be around the neighborhood .. He is picking up son and getting some of his tools from the backyard and then seeing his sister who is going to go over money matters with him. I have typed up a financial plan to use when he starts his new job. It basically is so I will know when and how he is getting money to me.

So I decided being away from here is the best thing for me, no chance of running into him....Plus I owe my g/f a visit anyway ...

WH picked up D a few mins ago .... So I called her cell to find out what time WH was going to be here in the morning... All I got was I'll be there when I get there... grrrr that makes me so mad , now I have no idea what time to get out of here before he shows up ..... what is so hard about picking a time to come ?

Is it to much to ask for a little consideration? It's not like I asked him to move home or something.... I am so tired of being treated like this. I get treated like this while the homewrecking OW gets all the good treatment....

its time like this I wonder why I even care or want to work on this R.

Once again you're allowing him to control what you're feeling and/or doing. It was a no-no, as you more than likely understand at this point, to call D and ask what time WH was going to be there. That's making C no matter how you look at it. And.. all it did was cause you grief. Also, you put D in the middle and you've asked her not to discuss WH and his goings on with you. So you just gave her a mixed message.

Yes, it certainly would be nice to know what time he'll be there, but since you don't, you either need to be prepared to leave when he shows up or be gone early in the morning.

IMHO - You should have removed his tools and personal belonging from the house and hauled them off over to MIL or SIL. Then he has NO reason to show up. What the heck does he need tools for? More than likely doesn't. He's done this long without them. KWIM. It's an excuse.

And have that house and everything sparkling clean.

I am leaving the house here very soon. As far as the tools go I don't have any idea what he needs or why and I don't care.

The house is clean and neat. I also have put things up in my bedroom and am locking the door when I leave.... He has no key to that room... I am making sure he can't get in there.

This plamb is so hard , I just want to tell him off so bad at how he is treating me with disrespect. Probably would not make a difference anyway....

You're right, it wouldn't.

Again, he doesn't NEED any tools. It's an excuse.

Remember, DARK, DETCAH and DON'T ENGAGE

Not to worry I am not engaging in any way .....

I will be strong and I can do this, I have to .....

[color:"blue"]"telling him off" would HELP HIM [/color]

Every time you engage in his drama, you help him by providing stupid justification for what he is doing

such as:

"See? she's so unreasonable"

"See ... she is a nag"

"See? She is too bossy and controlling"

"See .... she doesn't understand me."

and on and on and on

"Telling him off" plays right into his hands.

RESIST doing this now and forever .... it makes you feel good in that instant only .... later you notice the egg on your face

control yourself

Not to worry pep I am nt going to say anything to him at all.. I will not be here when he comes to get son or his tools.....

He is at SIL now she is going to call me when he is on the way and I can be gone by the time he gets here.....

I know your right it will just make things worse, but your right about one thing it would make me feel good for only a minute or two....

Control is hard to do when you hurt so bad, but I know I have to do it......

All went well, I left the house WH came and got son and some tools and left.....

I was down at MIL's house, he saw the car but didn't try to stop..... I never saw him or his truck so I did good....

Was very hard knowing he was so close not to engage him in someway. I am proud of myself being able to stay away and not catch at least a glimpse of him.

this is so hard .... I miss him so much

He will be leaving on the 26th of this month to start his new job... So that means he will be on the road by himself for at least a few weeks without seeing any of us... I hope this gives him some time to start clearing the fog some...

I just got back from seeing my friend in the hospital. Seems they are going to transfer her to a hospital in Texas. Not sure where yet though... They still arn't to sure what the mass is in her brain yet .... Could be advanced MS or a tumor of some kind....

Please everyone pray for her.

Dear hurting,

Glad to hear you could visit your friend. Sad to hear her of her condition. Time spent with friends are just as precious.

Hugz,
L.

LOL...giving stuff to WS day here at MB!!

Did the same thing here today, except Skippy (his new nickname) brought over the stinky thing with him. I sat on the other side of the fence watching them load up!! Oh I SOOOO wanted to say something but I bit my tongue. I knew stinky thing was coming with him because she keeps her boy toy on a tight leash.

Well it's done now...he has all his stuff that he's asked for and even more that I found.

We did good girly...we did good.

So sorry to hear about your friend. I'll keep her in my thoughts.

Yup we did good !!! That really takes some nerve though to bring her to your home. I think if that was to happen here I could not stop myself from saying something to her. but of course the OW in my casr knows me and she is afraid of me ..lol Not sure why I have never done anything to her but let her be afraid....

I am just waiting out these next 2 weeks and WH will be gone for a few weeks, so I can relax some and not have to worry over him trying to contact me.... In a way will be a welcome relief. I need the rest ....

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