Mimi

Believe me I really don't expect anything to happen any time soon.... In fact it may never happen who knows....

I just want to be prepared on how to handle it....
yes I want it to happen ..like yesterday would have been great.

But I know its not going to happen that easy or that soon...

I just want to get my mind in the right place for it if it does happen someday....

The key is to work on yourself..

Because when he comes back and I think he will, HE WILL BE A MESS and YOU WILL NEED TO BE STRONG!!!

I know your right.... I have to be stronger than I am right now....

I think I was very strong with him the other night I stated my feelings without emotion and showed no emotion when he left....

He sees I am getting stronger and he has commented on it...

I will get there I have no doubt. I know I will have to be the one to hold it all together if/when he comes home and I know I can do it.... I have that much faith....

Yes, I hope he comes back a repentant man. They are right, you will know when he makes it clear to you.
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Love, Lady

I truly am hoping for that day..... I know if he really wants it , I will know.... In the meantime take it day by day

Well tonite was a surprise...... I was getting some chinese food when my cell phone rang. It was a localnumber so I answered it thinking DD was calling.... Nope was WH himself.... He was back in town , he wanted to know how much money I took. I told him and said I used part of it to help DD pay her ticket. He got mad because I helped her and ranted on about her having n resposibility. He was saying its not our job to help her pay it blah blah blah..Finally I said gotta go bye.... He said see ya later..... Nope ya won't be seeing me ..... I have thought about this a lot today I just have to let go and see what happens... I don't mean I am going to do anything legal, I am just done for now and going to let things go however they go....

So his plans of 3 or 4 weeks on the road didn't happen this week. So I would say he is with her now..... So now I know not to answer the phone at all ......

I'm just to tired to fight this anymore.... I am moving on and just hope someday he wakes up and joins me.....

Why ARE you paying her ticket?

I remember him talking before about your daughter not being responsible and you rescuing her. Is there any truth in that? How old is your daughter, and when does she graduate?

Oh boy!! Hurting, don't be upset, I can understand his being angry about paying the ticket. It probably should have been something that you both discussed before making a decision. He wants your D's to take some responsibility.
There is nothing wrong with that. To be honest, my dad would've said the same thing!

But...he led you to believe he was going to be on the road for 3-4 weeks. He lied or he wanted to surprise you and it ended up bad, one or the other.

Love, Lady

Believer she paid half of the ticket, I gave her 30.00 to pay the other half. She will give it back when she gets paid tuesday.... I told him this and he said she better do it.... He was like you should have let them throw her in jail.... I know what he is saying is correct but I also know if he had been here and in his right mind he woould have helped her....

No actually I am not the one she has wrapped around her finger its him.... He is the one who took up for her when I flipped out about school and all .... He was the one w ho took her and allowed her to withdrawl from school without consulting me..... She is going for her GED.....

The only time I ever stepped in is when he woould get real angry and i just would try to calm him before things would get out of control.

How old is she and when is she getting your GED?

Lady,

The ticket had to be paid today no choice.

As far as surprising me thas not even it I am sure... If it had not been for the money issue I am sure I would not even know he came back..... He is not here , he is with the bimbo....

I understand the responsibilty thing I do and I agree but I could not allow her to go to jail and he would have not either....

She is 18 and she has to save 50.00 to take the test..... Which I am going to start taking her money to save it for her .. This way I know she takes it.....

So she's been working at the bowling alley, and didn't have $30. to keep out of jail?

She had half of it .... She had told me she kept her money and then today when it came time to pay she didn't have it... The other half has to be paid next month and I told her she has to hvce it because I will not do it again...

I told her after the butt chewing I got tonight from her dad she was on her own to pay it.... I got enough problems with WH I don't need this on top of it

Crap this keeps up I will be living here by myself... I already told her she is coming close to being moved out... I can't take this anymore .....

When does she get her GED and how many hours a week does she work?

I am not sure when the test are schedualed... heck we gotta hope she passes the darn thing .Right now she is working like 25 hours a week.....

I have told her she has to look for a full time job....

But see here is what bothers me the most.. I am the one being held accountable by him for all of this.... He is her father and is not doing anything to help with this.. He is leaving it all up to me....

He is the one who took he and allowed her to withdraw from school... I had no idea about it until he dropped her home... He never even consulted me about it... But now I am the one dealing with the crap... Its like he played the good guy and allowed her what she wanted but now I have to be the one take the flack from it all...

Well at least you were honest with him and told him what you did with the money. You could have lied, but didn't.
I wouldn't advise giving money in such a way to your daughter without consulting him first. But how would you consult him first when you can't even contact him? Maybe he should leave a # for D to contact him with a need such as that next time.

I don't blame you though, let her save her money and pay the rest of the ticket herself. She will learn from that.

My D got her GED too before her class graduated. High School was difficult for her. She is now making $12.00 hr at her job for the past 2 yrs. It does take a lot of tough love to help them learn lessons though. Don't rescue too much it will hinder growth and responsibility.

Love, Lady

So see here I am dealing with the crap and his attitude and his butt is sitting with OW having a grand old time....

Sure was a quick 3 weeks in my book .....