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Great. So you are getting over WITHDRAWAL from him..
That's great about your job interview, Hurting...
What about the idea of going to school during the day..
Didn't you mention something about learning to be a transcriptionist?
I know here the community college offers scholarships/loans for women starting over again...
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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Thats great Hurting! It does take practice resisting the subject of H, but it does keep you getting better and stronger sooner. Glad you had a good day! Hoping the job comes soon too!
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I have thought about doing something at votech if this job comes through and I have some extra money.... Not sure what though .....
Yeah I think the withdrawl is starting to ease up some... I still miss him but I am handleing it ok for now....
He has not tried to make any contact since Friday when he called about the money. Of course he has not tried to contact anyone at all.... And no one had contacted him...
I do hope he will start feeling the lose over his actions before long. I still find it hard to understand how he could just forget everyone and act like nothing is wrong... But I guess thats not my problem now is it ?
I am doing fine and thats all that matters right now...
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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Good Morning Everyone, another night passed and new day dawning. Its been very peaceful here.
Nothing new on the WH front for now. I do have my job interview today, I am praying I get the job. In a way I am glad its night time hours, seeing how the nights are lonely here.
In fact live is kinda boring for now. After such a rollercoaster ride for the last 3 months its such a relief to have so much calm.
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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Good Morning to you!
I hope the interview goes well for you today.
It does feel so good to have the peace and calm.
Love, Lady
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PEACE is sure nice. When I talk to friends, they'll ask what I've been up to and it's always nice to say life has been "uneventful". Uneventful is great after living with events and drama. You forgot when you're in it what PEACE really is.
Good luck with job interview. Remember to smile and make eye contact. Lemon said it well.
BS/47
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Married 22 yrs
Kids - S30,SD23,SS22
OC Born - 09/08/04
C with OC - SS
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Yes Lady the calm feels good. I have not had it in so long I forgot what it felt like.
I won't lie though it does worry me the WH has left us all alone. Makes me wonder if he truly is happy about it and this is what he has been waiting for....
Today will be a good day I just feel it......
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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WH cannot be "truly" happy with what he is doing. He is or will be going through a lot of turmoil inside, he needs to feel that. And you and the children are removed from it. We are all hoping he will figure out just how unhappy he really is. He is choosing his fate right now, but no matter what happens, it will not last, it will only crumble in time.
Hoping you have a great day!
Love, Lady
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Lady,
I hope he is in turmoil or will be soon. I hate to say it but I want him to feel the pain he has caused all of us. I know that sounds awful but without feeling it he will never be the man he should be.
My day will be good, of that I have no doubt....
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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Yes he will feel it Hurting, and there is nothing wrong with wanting him to feel that, but he needs to feel it for a while. He need to feel just how out of control and complicated he has made his life, and the hurt he has put his family through. And that his doings can not be tolerated by anyone. And the good thing is is that your family is saying the same thing and avoiding him as well. This will help alot I believe.
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I agree I think the whole family avoiding him will be the one thing that does him in.
This sure isn't a easy thing to do or live with. It's really sad that I feel bad for wanting him to hurt, but I do know its something he has to feel to finally realzie what he has done.
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
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No, it's not an easy thing to do, but it's the best thing to do.
Love, Lady
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Lady,
I know its the best thing to do. Its the only thing left to do... I still miss the man he used to be. I hope and pray he will become that man again someday...
its such a good thing he away from here, it makes it so much easier to handle. Now when I leave the house I don't worry about seeing him anywhere. I used to see him while out and about while he was working in town. It was always hard to see him drive down the road and know when the day was done he would not be coming home to us.....Now I don't have worry over it.....
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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Well good news I got a JOB !!!!
Burger King came through. I will be working from 10pm until 5 am. Not really what I wanted but its definatley better than nothing. I start thursady. I will admit I am a little nervous about working in a fast food place but hey how hard can it be?
DS 15 who is staying at my SIL's most of the time came home today and was telling me WH called there wanting to talk to him this weekend. DS refused to talk to him. He says he wants nothing to do with him. SIL said WH was upset because he would not talk to him.... Oh well he made this mess let him now pay for it.... I sure don't feel sorry for him at all. As they say you reap what you sow.....
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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Yahoo!!!! You got the job!!
No it won't be that hard. I think those hours mostly entail cleanup.
I know this must hurt you DS a lot, as it does you all. He is at such a sensitive age too. Makes me angry thinking about it. I have a 15 yr old boy too. But I am glad that he is plan B'ing him, and hopefully it will do some good.
Just give him a lot of hugs, if he will let you. When my H cheated my DS held me so much, I think more than he ever has since he was little, you know how they are at that age. I told him when he gets older and marries never use my H as an example and never to cheat on his wife because it is so painful, he just listened and held me.
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Yippee - a JOB!!!!!!!!!!! Whenever I go to BK, it seems like they move pretty fast, but you'll get used to it.
But just getting a job, and getting out and away from the house will be very good for you.
Like LM says - do the best job you can.
My most rewarding "job" was when I worked with the casaulties coming back from Fallujah, emptying urinals, and freeing up the nurses. It was a volunteer job.
This job will be what you make it.
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Kids - S30,SD23,SS22
OC Born - 09/08/04
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Ty all for the support.....
I feel pretty good right now. This is going to make a big difference for me.
I have decided though not to let WH know for a few weeks. I have told everyone if they speak to him not to let him know for now. I want to get a few weeks pay under my belt and allow him to continue giving me mucho money to get me all caught up on the bills.
Once I have that done he is then going to be surprised because I plan on getting court ordered CS and Spousal Support so I don't have to deal with him giving me what he wants, when he wants. He wants to play he going to pay....
Throw a kink in his and OW's life......
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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Just reading Kims posts about asking her WH to leave brings me back to the night I asked mine to leave. I have not thought of that night for a long time.
I feel her pain and sorrow and it makes me sad. I remember how i felt doing that. Was the hardest thing I ever had to do in my life.
Isn't it funny how reading someone elses sitch triggers the memories you have buried inside you because of the pain. I never want to ever have to do that again in my life.....
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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