Assuming you will be truthful, you have eliminated women who think abstinence is important (not the practice, but the belief), they won't date you. You limit yourself to those women who prefer pre-marital sex as part of a unmarried relationship...not saying one woman is "better" than the other...just noting there are consequences. Ideally people would only have relationships with those who share their boundaries, but unfortuneately people lie, and or go along cause they want the person (whether they go along with sex as LL did, or go along with abstinence)...that has consequences too (all bad, people should not compromise their values just to get something, that itself is red flag for an unworthy partner).

I am curious, are you ok with a woman whom you really find interesting, attractive, intelligent worthy in every way, not dating you cause she beleives abstinence is the better strategy to build a successful relationship that ends in marriage.

Are you also ok with having to tell a prospective partner you have had X number of serious relationships, all involving sex, but none worked out? Sort of similar to each of us having to decide whether to date someone who has been divorced multiple times, most of us won't do that. As you continue to slip down that slippery slope each "relationship" reduces the number of quality women who will date you because of your history...that would not be an issue if you had been abstinent...we all make a major distinction between a past of "dating" but abstinent...and a past of having sex in most (if not all) serious relationships....just something to think about. More of those negative consequences....but abstinent people are seen as quality matches, (yes they may be messed up...but the initial perception is favorable..so they have more options), and people with a history of sexualizing their relationships are seen in more negative lights in comparison....there are reasons for all this.

Anyways, good luck with your choice of sexual paradigm, and regardless of anything else, a thorough understanding and application of MB principles will increase your likelihood of success.

I do wonder though, given your statements (elsewhere) about sex...if you dated someone who refused to have sex before marriage, and was ok with you simply adhereing to the boundary (and not requiring you beleive it to), would you marry her without pre-marital sex? Suppose the courtship takes a year or two (and no sex buddy of course on the side).