I've got to agree with Send...nothing has changed at all.

Did you SEE the letter she sent...do you KNOW that she sent it?

Has she agreed to JOINTLY send the cell phone back to OM? (why not include the NC letter in that package, btw?)

If she feels that you can see anything anyway, then why NOT check things at home, so that you can KNOW and SEE that she's being honest. It's how she can rebuild that trust that she's destroyed. At the same time, she could also give you logins and passwords to all of her email accounts...again, since she's got nothing to hide, why should there be an issue with this? It's the right next step in rebuilding trust and confirming her commitment to you and your marriage.

Again...I know the answers to these questions from your posts...hence, I can say that nothing has changed.

Personally, if I were you, I would get her complete agreemant on these conditions. And if she balks, then expose. Don't tell her your going to, just do it. And when she explodes, simply tell her that you asked repeatedly for her to match her actions to her words on demonstrating to you that the affair has ended...and that since you had no evidence that it HAD ended, you were forced to take action to end it yourself, in order to give your marriage a chance.