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I would just tell him that you don't feel like fighting. If he says anything, tell him you are very hurt and would prefer to talk about it later.
Are you calming down?
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Ok, I answered one last time and haven't heard from him since. I said I wasn't going to fight, he could come home if he wishes. There was no response, so I answered I was offering a truce, he could come home no worries, if he wishes to come home or stay gone all night, it was up to him.
Now I feel much better. He knows its up to him, and I didn't demand anything. I do feel used and dirty...but somewhat comforted by the OW and her response and demeanor. Now I believe I can get more info and help us both.
So, now I will go to bed, and I will have to wonder what tomorrow will bring...and how we will discuss it. I wonder if I should keep stonewalling? I have to wait for the skip trace on the cell #.
and can I say it here "the dirty ba$[censored]"
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Yep - go to bed. Nothing is going to be gained by waiting all night. He will be wondering much more than you what tomorrow will bring. Try to relax, and get some sleep. You are doing fine.
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Ok, we survived the night. No discussion of events. If I sit tight, get the info that may be revealed to me from the skip, then I can perhaps get a secret address, then I can perhaps intercept the mail....If I sit tight I may get more info. He still doesn't know what I know.
anyway....
Hope that skip comes through soon.
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Glad that you made it through the night.
Keep working on Plan A, and do more checking. Did he say anything when he came home? Or were you sleeping?
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I was awake. I ordered a skip trace last night. I did some research this morning and the phone # she gave me is a tracphone (prepaid wireless) I just called each provider's CS number entering that number for 'account inquiry'. When I called cingular it forwarded me to tracphone. Now I'm wondering if I go to their website can I hack into his account? Can I change the information in his account inquiry?
He knows the private number trick so I was wondering how I can call it so he will answer, maybe a calling card #?, so I can confirm it was him. Maybe I can call from the OW phone. I'm hoping she really wants my help it seemed she wanted out of this mess.
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I need the serial number for the tracphone to order minutes....
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You could call from a payphone - payphone numbers show up. Another option is to go into a store you frequent regularly and ask them if you could use their phone to make a local call....just an idea.
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I don't think I would depend on the OW for help. She may seem that she wants out of this mess, but if she did, she would end it.
I'm not good at figuring out cell phones. Maybe someone else will come along.
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the fact that its a tracphone makes me mad. its highly secretive. It makes me feel so stupid and used.
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OO....had an idea. I have his old wireless phone from his current number. I'm going to plug it in and turn it on and monitor what calls he receives and if he gets any text messages.
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well, another talk with OW. I believe I'm on to something. I'm going to lay low for awhile and pretend that nothing is amiss to see if I can get more info without rushing too quickly.
Here's something I don't get.....Do I continue to meet EN and not LB while he still obviously is trying to contact her? Or do I just live my life as normal, but the above has been normal for a couple months.....
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