Night all. How r yall?

(toasting with a Texas Red Draw - V8 and beer)

The babies are here. They have lice again (go figure). Cut mijo's hair...am sure (c)OW is gonna throw a [censored] fit...but hey, the bugs can't hang on to what's not there. CPS FINALLY called the Wookie back. Apparently, we are not the only ones that have called on (c)OW - there have been 6 calls on her in the past 8 mos...only 2 were from us. The caseworker has been by the house twice this week, but no one answers the door. CW didn't know about the boyfriend living there either...(c)OW is in danger of loosing the kids and her housing. Hmm. Maybe she'll have to get a job. CW is PISSED b/c the lice was SUPPOSED to have been cleaned last Nov. (and yes, she now knows of my secret bug tapings - shudder - for those that don't know, every visit, I go through the children's hair and tape the bugs and eggs to a white sheet of paper with the date on it). She is going to call SAPD to do a "safety study" (a police walk through of the house with a listing of the people that live there as well as the conditions). It doesn't sound good for OW - specially b/c this is a surprise thing. Wookie says the house is never cleaned unless OW is warned that CPS or housing in coming by. I wouldn't know. I can't bring myself to go to the door...she creeps me out.

You know, what gets me is this woman thinks these are things being done TO her. She doesn't get it that these are the consequences of her inactions and poor decisions. She actually thinks CPS has a vendetta against her...that this has nothing to do with children that don't get breakfast or have bedtime or eat dinner at 11 at night, that are running around outside with the baby (8 mo. at the time) and no supervision (CW walked up on that), that all the kids have bugs - for YEARS at a time........

I made a mistake early on in this. I operated under the assumption that while OW wasn't very much like me, she was at least somehow an okay person to know. She's not. She's no one I could ever feel sorry for (tho I tried), she's no one that even deserves compassion. It'd be one thing if she'd pull herself out of her miasma and TRY. But this...this thought that WE, society, OWE HER something????? What an effing slobbish, nasty kooze.

My kids deserve better...and by gum, they're gonna have it every time they're here till God (and the courts) bring them home.

BTW: The baby sat in my lap today, hugged me and said "mama." He also said "keee-eee" we just got a kitten. According to OW, he doesn't talk over there...only screams.

- Kimmy

They've had theses bugs for years? OH YUCK!!!!!!!!!!!! That is just sad and EWWWWWWWWWWWW!

Can't CPS make her clean her house and get rid of this lice? AT some point can't those lice like start being a medical issue?

That's horribly sad. I hope they give your H custody asap.

That would be so difficult to patiently live with...

Hugs,
J

Pretty amazing isn't it how much it takes for CPS to act on something. Many of these kids have to live in complete squalor and total neglect before something is done.

I'm glad they get the vistation with you to let them know they are loved and to get the care they need.

The worst is knowing that if *I* can get rid of the bugs when they spend time at my house...then debug my house after every visit, why can't she? I know she's got 6 kids to my 4 (when they are here), but she sends them to her mom's other times. Why can't she debug the kids, send them to her mom's, then clean the house? That would give her "resting" time (overnight visit to g'ma's), but still enuf time to do laundry, vacuum the house, beds, sofas and pillows.

Not that hard in the grand scheme of things, imo. I do it every visit....that's why WE don't have bugs between times.

Oh, and one of the reasons she told Wookie she won't go through the kids hair....get this...they cry and she's afraid the neighbors will call CPS on her.

Can anyone else say, "horsehockey?"

The worst is knowing that if *I* can get rid of the bugs when they spend time at my house...

Kimster, you know that she-witch is too lazy to even feed and bathe her kids, much less go through the trouble of de-lousing her kiddos (much less her house). That's what you're for! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Does she even HOLD her babies??? I mean, if so, SHE'D have lice, and be uncomfortable -- maybe enough to DO something about it. So she either doesn't hold them, or she doesn't come in close enough contact with them (*sad* <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" />) or she doesn't mind living in squalor and infestation.

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Argh! Steams me just thinking about it! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> Poor babies!! Thank God they have you!


Got any new pics of the baby? I'll bet he is getting so big!

slh

Forgive me if you've gone over this before, but wouldn't you have a good chance of being awarded custody under this situation?? Is there a question of whether you want custody??

You'd think with 3 other calls to CPS and the social worker and what you've documented...! Get medical documentation too--from Dr.

That's sickening.

So sorry (just had to butt in again)
J

We are filing for c of the babies. This takes time...BUT, in talking to CW, Wookie was told that (c)OW is a "repeat offender". It looks like we might not have to take OW to court. It's looking more and more in our favor that the kids will be taken from her by CPS.

If that happens, I'd be willing to bet my left big toe that she won't bother to try to regain custody of them. She's too lazy for that.

You want to know the most sickening thing about it, Jenny? That a person can become innured to this. I used to choke and gag when I went through their hair. Now, I get a little queasy - specially if I think about all the stuff I found out about the bugs...but it's like, "hop up here, mija, mommy needs to comb your hair."

I'd never lain eyes on those critters before this. I had to look them up on the internet to make sure what they were.

- Kimmy

(((((((((((((Kimmy and family)))))))))))))

Kimmy, you mean she is a repeat offender with her other kids? Doesn't Nio wonder what he EVER saw in this piece of trash? Keeping you and the kids in my prayers. {{{Kimmy}}

Oh Faith. I was thinking about that SAME thing last night.

How could HE???? I mean, he's told me her house was never clean when he saw it....so what was the facination? Saving her?

I can't look at those questions too long or I find myself resenting the ****** out of him.

He told me the other day she is beneath us. So, the ? is, how could he?

So, the ? is, how could he?

Kimster, don't even go there, babe. That's the turnoff for the long, dark, twisty road towards Anger and Resentment and Disrespect and beating up on YOURSELF for his inadequacies. And who would blame you?

But you've come so far, darling. So far.

Keep working on the path you've been on. It's harder, I know, but the payoff is definitely higher.

You are such a light for those sweet babies.

hugs and love, K.


slh

Kimmy, those babes will be in my thoughts. You too, but especially them. Thank God they have you to love them...and thank God you are able to love them.

I don't have any sage advice...I cannot imagine this will end up without you having custody.

But the poor other children too...who is going to save them? What a sad sad situation.

And I agree...don't go down the road of "how could he". I imagine that would be hard to do, but he made a bad choice. You know it and *HE* knows it. He can't take it back..but he's doing everything he can now, right?

I will just have to come up there soon with some of my...ahem...gear and take care of business...Maybe some kind of "sevice" scene where someone needs to clean their house. Long as I don't have to touch her...ew.

You are one incredible lady and these little ones are very Blessed to have you in their lives. I wanted to let you know that when my kiddos would get lice from school as the schools liked to use pillows during reading hour <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> we were told tea tree oil works. So I picked up paul mitchell conditioner with tea tree oil, I diluted it with water and use it in my kiddos hair. It will sting if it gets in the eyes. HOwever we have not had an issue with those creatures in a very long time. I know its harder to keep using it with the kiddos going back to that house but give it a try while they are there with you. Maybe send a very diluted bottle to the house as I'm not sure she would be careful enough to not get it in their eyes.

My question is THIS !!

Where the ****** are my tax dollars going to when they are supposedly going to the "Department of Children and Family Services". As a tax payer (in the highest tax bracket mind you..) I am outraged about this. This is ridiculous. Kim, I would become a major Bit$$ on wheels if I were you and make a HUGH ruckus over this. Someone AT THE VERY least should be losing a job over this.

SM

BJS - Paul Mitchell sounds LOADS better than mayo. After 3 hours with the mayo treatment, the kids smell like the end of the potato salad on the 4th of July...blech!

Thanks!

I don't think OW would use anything *I* send over. I crocheted a whole bunch of hair holders for mija, and Wookie said she took them out of the diaper bag and threw them away in front of him.

According to him, she says that I won....what she fails to realize is I WON 10 years ago when we said I do.

Ais, my sis and SLH my other sis,

Ya'll are right. I shouldn't go down the path. I try not to...some days it's just a constantly niggling thought tho.......specially when I'm combing bugs....or she calls my cell at midnight or....ick.

Lemon,

When Wookie was finally able to make contact with CPS, he flat out told her that we are going to be calling each and every time they come with bugs. You are right, of course, about somebody should loose their job. Fortunatly, it seems this new case worker (it's a different one from the previous calls) sounds like she is taking a FAR more proactive stance on this [email]cr@p.[/email]

What's depressing and sad to me is that CPS is only now doing something about their policies. In the very recent past SAT has had one child death b/c of neglet and abuse after another. They are JUST now beginning to crack down on their internal policies....all these poor babies suffering kills me.

- Kimmy

Kimmy, I apologize I should not have posed that question. It is one that gets ME in trouble too. Especially now. {{Kimmy}}

That Paul Mitchell stuff is great. I would not send it over there. We used that also after the RID or Nexxus ... but we also found if you boil Thyme and strain it then rinse the childrens hair with it that would help. Our most helpful Suggestion was that you spray that thyme in your hair and your childrens hair prior to the invested children coming over this will help them not to jump onto the uninfested. This is the advice that I got from the health store lady when my daughter seemed to have it a whole school year. The other people in the family never got it but my daughter would get it every few months from school. Finally they traced it to one paticular family in the school and they were suspended and CPS were called.

If the OW children go to school this can easily happen to her as well. The principal told all of us that if we know of any children with it we are to tell her directly and not the parent, this way it would be documented.