*whispers to believer* I have a son....but it's ok at one time he had longer curly poofy hair...some people did mistake him for a girl :P

SIHW...Hey girl!
I'm sorry to hear about what your STBX is doing. The never cease to amaze me. My STBX only pays the mortgage right now. I guess that's better than nothing. I'm stuck with everything else...
He doesn't even offer to help put food on the table for his own son or even buy clothes for school. He also never even gave it a second thought about helping out with school supplies. Thank goodness I have my family to help me out or I would be living on the street right now. It's terrible!!
I would definitely go have a talk with the landlord. Is there anything your lawyer can do to help you with that?
It makes me so mad that the WS can do this kind of stuff.

SOOOO....STBXWSH is still a dork....he has since my last update closed our joint account without consulting me....(there was only 2 dollars in there ) then he preceeds to try and give me money saving advice.....then today...arrrgh he is an [censored].

I get to my house where is is waiting as it's his scheduled visitation day. I had a co worker with me who i was giving a ride to do an errand and take home. He asks where I am going I said I had some errands to run....and I told him to play with DS and enjoy his time with him....I told him he would need to get him dinner....He said he would probally feed him pizza rolls...i asked where he was going to make those and he replied with somewhere.....My friend looked at me and we both rolled our eyes...I then asked him not to take DS to OW's house....they could go out with her somewhere but I would prefer with her past and the situation it's just not proper for him to take him there...He kind of blew me off....SOOoooo my friend and I went to a craft store up the street because she needed to buy some supplies for her hobby...as I am getting out of my truck i notice STBXWH's car at the corner turning down the street and turning into OW's apartment complex which is right down the street....I was furious....I called STBXWH's cell phone and asked him to please not take DS to OW's apartment when he asked why I told him what I wrote up there....and he argued wit me....I told him he had 5 minutes to get my son out of there or I would be coming down there to get him. He told me to meet him at the my apartment...I got there and he was holding DS and pushed him into my arms and went to get in his car pouting and whining that I was being mean and making rules....I told him where do you think your going it's your visitation spend this time with your son....he tried to argue his way out....I continued to tell him to spend time with his son...he eventually put DS back in the car.....I left and he was behind me......he took DS back to ow's house...by the time I got home he was here and had picked up food from a fast food joint for DS. He was still being a stand offish jerk...i gave him a box of his stuff and he then whinned about why am I choosing what is his...OK we need to divide up assets and he isn't making any time. But what i gave him was stuff he owned before we got together. We meet with the paralegal tomorrow...any advice?

Advice: Be calm, cool and collected. Go looking sharp and professional. Time to use that clear mind and calm heart. Remember the calculator in the WS' brain is broken. Make sure yours has extra batteries. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Write down key points. Remember to breathe.

Hugz,
L.

HEEEY...SIS and Pebs and I all got knocked back to page 3...well I'll remedy THAT....


so can anyone tell me why/how I feel in love with the monster I now know to be my STBXWH?

Sooo the paralegal forgot about our meeting this morning so STBXWH and I stayed there for awhile...and he kept spewing his poisonous attituted....asking why I hadn't fille dout the mediation form and he was shocked when i told him that the $500 he claims is child support is unacceptable...he said add on the 400 I pay for medical insurance for you and DS and that is support... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> whatever....Stupid alien.

And now the story with OW's ex is that it was 10 years ago and there is no danger....Ok the man is the boys father he will show up eventually. But I simply told him I can only go on what you told me....and you did not mention the 10 year gap in the story...therefor I considered OW's house to be an unacceptable place to have DS.

OH and orchid guess what....WH found that picture I sent you (the one for the background check) guess where he saw it...He looked through my cell phone when I wasn't looking... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> OK serious invasion of privacy.

he started in on his woes about his financial problems...and i calmly told him I was sorry for his burdens but unfortunatly I know poverty too since he has decided to kick DS and I out of our home.
He shut up.

He did the usual crying about our relationship...and asking about my boyfriend....I just told him sorry those are consequences and my private life. Then he complained how I keep things from him.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> DUH!

So the paralegal shows up....we go in he asks for another copy of the mediation request form.....and I get one too I immediatly fill it out and give it to the paralegal to turn in....Then STBXWH says oh can I turn it in later....I said UHHH no....he then tried to use scare tactics saying he wanted a lawyer to look at it first....I said it's a request for for mediation...your not binded to anything....you were just asking me why I hadn't filled it out...needless to say he left because he was late for "work"...I chatted with the paralegal who said...Ok for a guy who really wants a divorce I don't understand why he didn't just fill it out and turn it in...15 min later he shows up and turns in the filled out form....OK...he's a dork. *sigh*

then later I had to call him as I am making arrangments for my DS to go to a different day care where we will save money. I needed to know if STBXWH has had a TB test in the last 4 years and what his business address was. He blew up over nothing....so I hung up on him.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />.....anyone thinking he's feeling a bit guilty?

anyone anyone at all?

Hi, Surviving.

Your story reminds me of why my WH and I ended up in court to decide child support. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> For some reason, they think they'll have a whole bunch of extra cash after leaving their families.

Sorry you're having such a rough time. I wish I had some good advice for you. All I can offer is sympathy and support. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

that reminds me are you guys coming up to DS's birthday party?

Sounds like you're having a rough time there! I'm sorry about your whining STBXWH!

Get yourself stable. Getting back with your parents is the best thing right now. Divorce from the dork and child support will at least give him a sense of reality and of his obligation! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

My DS8 had an early birthday with his cousins and grandparents tonight. He leaned over and said we have the best family dad. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> Make sure your son has the chance to say that one day too.

He really enjoyed holding his little 3 month old cousin too. He's such a great boy. STBXWW called once each day. DS8 felt a little sad after each one. Now says he'll spend his birthday next month in Europe. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> WW should NOT be telling him where he's going to be! I've told him a few times that it's not our decision anymore.

Oooops. Wrong thread. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Oh no he didn't...did anyone else see this...SIS is now threadjacking MY thread..... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />I don't mnd I guess....

now if you don't mind me saying so your WW is on crack and high doses of it.

AWWW a 3 month old...I miss having a wee little one...there is one at DS's daycare...sooo cute and DS is soo gentle with him if the baby cries he goes over and hugs him and pats his head and tells him it's ok baby. sooooo cute.

DS is having a grand birthday if I have to scrape up the loose change in the house...we are having a pirate themed party...WOOT! arrrg avast ye maties!

anyways work calls I will see you later.

Awwww. That's so sweet. Thanks for noticing. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />



Your son sounds like a very sensitive and loving little boy. Make sure you protect him from the storm around him for now. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />


He'll love it. And at age 2, he'll enjoy anything you do. If you want an inexpensive and easy sword. Run to Home Depot or equivalent. Get a nice plumbing guy to help you find the 1/2" white PVC, a 1/2" PVC cross and 4 1/2" caps. Scoot on over to the wood trim department and cut your PVC to the right length, or have that nice plumbing guy do it for you, and piece together one sword with a hilt! Follow same process to make more! Find the cheap PVC glue and glue together. Now for the finishing touch. Go find the black foam pipe insulation, it should slip right over the "blade". Now! Whack away! Better than anything you can buy in stores, and safer!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Yes, I'm a geek! Two swords should cost around $5 or $7.

Find a Big Lots or 99 cent store for the rest <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

You should be able to find how to fold pirate hats out of newspaper if you check the internet.

NOW! Take some pictures of the two of you and send them to STBXWH so he KNOWS what he's missing. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

That should make up for the previous thread jack. But HEY! I wanted to get you more pages on your thread and I needed filler. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

I'm going to look for crack recovery programs now for STBXWW.

Just for clarification. Your two year old son doesn't need a lot of stuff for his birthday to make it special. He just needs your relaxed smiling face and a fun day. The stuff only makes us grownups feel better. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

ehh I went to the oriental trading company...they are nice and cheap.....got eye patches and bandanna's...and even Pirate rubber duckies.....*sigh* DS is definatly in the terrible 2's he's screaming his head off because he doesn't want to go to bed....and I have a head ache.

@_@ SIS..dear...i don't think I want to give a 2 year old anything sword like that he can use to smack things with.

you know this thread should be longer I agree....but noone hardly posts here... I'm not loved like everyone else.....it's ok I still love you guys tho.

Surviving...

Now thats not true....you are one of the good ones...the darn threads fall so fast lately it never seems like I can catch up....

What I said before still holds true and your current post reflects that. I think so anyway.

A big PVC sword for a 2 year old? Mights as well give him a hammer too...lol

I love your writing style <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />. Listen young lady. Terrible twos need to burn off energy. You want sleep. Give the kid a foam rubber sword and a tree in the park, and let him go at it. Make it a pinata in the park. I didn't say you should give it to him in the middle of Nordstroms Housewares! You're proving my point for me. He should be crawling to bed when you're done with him. Our older and wiser friends have two kids that are S18's age. He says, what you need to do, is take them to the park about dinner time and let 'em loose. You sit on the picnic bench and watch. Lot's of running. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> By the time your done, you'll be carrying him in the house.

I love it when you call me 'dear'! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> I'll be back to check on you later. I'm off to find Pebbles.

BTW, the Lake Michigan was beautiful again. Sunny and 90 both days. This time I came home with a 12 inch deep dish sausage Gino's East pizza.

Sweet dreams SIHW.

Sleepless

Oh YEAH. A wooden hammer with the little pegs you drive into the holes. He'll love it. Get him a ball to kick and chase around the park. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

this is funny these OLDER men giving me kid advice *ducks for cover*Ok these EXPERIENCED men.... I don't think I will be flying into chicago next time I'm flying straight into milwaukee...>.> <.< chicago midway was scary.

But yeah I get to go back in febuary and experience the cold...I need to pack my ski jacket which is so lovingly called the michelin man jacket because it's so poofy...anyone know where I can get a good deal on space bags?


are you kidding ever since i got back from chicago and wisconsin...I have been extremely tired, moody, sometimes nautious...i thought it was jet lag at first or partially now I am thinking maybe I picked up something viral on the plane...you know all that circulated air.

I dunno....I just know i have so much to do and so liiiittle time...

i m bumping this up for SIS

Bumping AGAIN!!!! geeze....I think it's true some people do live on the computer.

nonono page four...this just won't do...I swear are people having a speed posting contest lately. Today is Ds's b-day he is 2....yay for the terrible twos......but he is so cute he could almost get away with anything *hugggles her cutie pie*. We are going to have an awesome day including going to the park and going to get ice cream... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

SIHW,

In my case, the terrible two's were nothing compared to the tormenting three's (which we are just on the tail end of). Happy Birthday to your DS.

Regards,

BB