Stormy, have you ever seen children get in an argument, get upset? Seen how they can shamelessly feel their emotions?

I believe when we're hurt, it's best if we feel our pain like a child. I'm not talking about yelling and screaming and having fits, I'm talking about permitting yourself to hurt as much as you need to.

A strong attachment in you has been broken. You don't need that attachment to survive or even to be happy, but your heart doesn't know that yet.

GC

Think back to your hills, Stormy.

Think back to your expectations of life. Go WAY back.

As a young girl, did you ever think boys were yucchy? Yet you wound up married.

Did you ever have the thought that your mom was SO uncool and you would never be a parent like her? But perhaps now that you have kids maybe you are?

When you were birthing your children, did you think it an unsurvivable pain? Yet you did.

What are your hills, Stormy? Your life changing events. The things you didn't think would happen.

This time it's a mountain. Your husband and what he has done.

Know what the difference between a hill and a mountain is? One simply takes a little longer to climb. A little more resolve perhaps. But the steps are the same. The method is the same.

And this mountain of yours CAN be climbed. And the view from the top will be grand.

Don't say "I'll never trust another man." Instead say "I will really appreciate the next one for being faithful."

Don't say "My childrens lives will be ruined for lack." Instead say "A poor example in their lives will no longer have an influence."

Don't say "I don't have the strength to go on." Say instead "Resting is not quitting, I'll gather my strength and make it."

NCWalker

I am definitely crying and feeling the pain. I work out at Gold's Gym, but Ijust go through the motions. It seems like no matter what I am doing I am miserable. I even signed my kids up for swim lessons to stay extra busy, but when I am there I keep replaying all of the rejection and my broken dreams all over and over agin in my head. It is like I can not control my thoughts or feelings. They take over evry second of my life. I always dreamed of getting married, staying married forever. I wantedthat more than a million bucks. It was my buggest dream. I feel completely broken. I hate who I have become. A desperate lonely women. I use to be so strong and independent, but thenm I met Rene and made him my everything. It has been that way for over the last 6 years. God should have been my everrything, but soemhow I let Rene take that place. I am trying to find a new normal and I am failing and drowning.

Stormy, you have a struggle ahead.

Do you know that you'll come out better than before?

GC

I do not know that. It does not feel that way.

I msurvived the night, but got zero sleep. I am still in a prison of emotional torture and h***. I hoped things would feel better in the morning. They do not. I am so extremely humiliated by my behavior last night- begging him to come home with me & the kids and him worrying about her. I hate myself. I hate my life. I will get on anti depressants today. I hope they help.

Stormy,

I felt God had abandon me when I had the long nights alone. One night my little buddy (my 8 year old son) was sleeping with me after my WW moved out. I was devastated, had not slept in days and just sick. At about 2:00am I prayed silently to God and told him that "This is it. I now needed him to carry me because I could not do it anymore." When I was done praying (and it was a silent prayer) my little boy rolled over and patted my back and said "I love you Dad". He kept right on sleeping. There is no doubt that God had a hand in that.

God is there for you Stormy and so are all of us. You have to believe it!

Stormy my friend,
you were such an encouragement to me during my darkest days. And I thank you so much for that. Even though I am probably in the final days of my M, and will be meeting with WW next week to try and come up with a settlement, I have peace with it all. Please know that your encouragement has played a part in that.
Now its my turn. You are a person of faith and you will be fine. Even though it may not feel like it right now, you are not alone. You are blessed with your children. Please try and focus on the blessings in your life as you work your way through this. Also, I strongly encourage you to seek the Holy Spirit. Ask God to send the Holy Spirit to you to guide you through this. He will, if you ask.
Stormy, we live in a broken world and we are all broken people. Your WH is seriously flawed. Pray not for his return to you and your family but pray instead for his soul. I know that might be hard right now, but at some point I believe it will be very beneficial to you. You must know that God will carry you through this. He will get you to a point where you will have hope for happiness in your life once again. It might not come tomorrow or even the next day, but keep seeking His will and He will give you hope.
Stay with the wonderful folks on this board and with God guiding us, we will all survive and at some point thrive again. Please keep posting so that we can be here for you.


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