Well,

As of tomorrow - I'm homeless.

The family that was being gracious enough to let me stay with them asked me to leave after my wife barged into their house and scared the ****** out of their 8 year old kid after I dropped her my Plan B letter; she was too busy barging into the house she didn't even belong at and making a scene to notice that there were other people in the house. So, I was kicked out.

The only other place I had to go just had his parents tell him I need to be out by tomorrow. I have like $50 to my name; my wife took over 75% of the money in our bank account, 50% of which was mine - spent it on clothing and makeup. She also left me with over $800 in rent from our apartment in Pullman that I'm going to have to pay. Until school starts and my financial aid begins; I have no money, no place to stay, and most importantly - no ride back to school.

It was easy for her to come home this summer; she had a place to go to - a mom that could provide her with food; she had a car - so she could easily find work; and she had over half of my money to do with as she pleased.

Me on the other hand? I was tricked into believing that we were coming home to work on our marriage; when in actuality it was so that she could get out of it; and leave Pullman - wish she would have told me this BEFORE I was stranded 400 miles from my home with no place to go or means of surviving. Had there been ample warning, yeah I could have pulled this summer off; but instead, she did what is seemingly GOING OUT OF HER WAY, to assure that I get ****** over as hardly as possible.

Looks like I'll be on the street corner for the next three weeks begging for food and a ride back to Pullman.

What a lovely woman...what the ****** has happened to my life?

I gave up the only family I had left to take her away from her ****** and marry her; I gave her an apartment to live in, paid her bills for the first 4 months of our marriage while she lived off of me, I got her medical for her disease, put her in school, EVERYTHING - and this is what I get in return?

....hopelessness doesn't even describe it right now.

Sending you prayers...
May things turn around for you...

Hugs!!!

Dude, that is absolutely rank...

I don't even know what to say.

Except... maybe thank God you aren't doomed to spend the rest of your life tied to this train wreck.

'Cause... as bad as things are for you right now... it's a temporary situation. You will pull through this. You've been through worse and you will pull through this.

She, on the other hand, has to live with herself for the rest of her life. I pity her.

You WILL get through this... and you will be stronger, wiser, and have a true shot at happiness. There will come a time when this will all be a distant memory.

You will look back and think, "Thank you Lord, that I never got her pregnant."

I will pray for you.

If you are anywhere near Kingston, Ontario drop me an email at dewt2003@hotmail.com with a phone number I can reach you at. I will check my email tommorrow morning before work.

John

You will be in our prayers...you WILL be a stronger and wiser person, although I know that is probably of little comfort to you now. Just know you have friends praying for you, and we have faith that you are in HIS arms and you will be fine.

Don't EVER give up!
SAR2

Fox,

Where r u? Maybe we can get you some help or direction. Just give the general location (city, state). ok?

BS have been left out in the cold before. Another BS was kicked out with her 2 children with no car, no $$$, no clothes. I had to go with another friend of hers and serve notice to her WS with 2 very well built police officers just so she could get her clothes and baby bottles.

She survived. So can you. Now let's get you some help. ok?


L.

As of tonight I'm in Kirkland, Washington near Seattle.

OK, gonna send out a call for help, ok? Watch the board.

L.

Fox,

I just posted a thread. You have my cell. Monitor both threads and if you need me to intercept a call, let me know. ok?

Change the title of your thread and ask for help.

L.

There is a crisis center that you should call, they could give you referral to local shelter and emergency help.

1-800-784-7444 - this will hook you up to your county's crisis line.

God be with you.
-rh-

Contact your church. They will help you.

In His arms.

Bump.

Thanks guys. Hope this direction helps Fox.

Fox, r u there?

L.

FoxOr.... I will keep you in my prayers. God will take care of you. Maybe you had to hit rock bottom to change something in your life. Things happen for a reason. I know that is so hard to hear right now....trust me I know!
I hope you will be safe and able to find some help.

FoxOr,

DD and I live in northern Oregon, and a lot of his family lives in Seattle/Kirkland. Please contact us ASAP at faithfulwifecj@yahoo.com, and we will start calling relatives. Shoot, if you have to, you can come and stay with us!! If you can email us off-the-forum, we can get you our phone number, etc.


FNCJ and DD

Fox,

When you get this message, can you call or something? E-mail, smoke signals? Something?!?!?!? You have both the east and west coasts waiting to hear from you.

Let us know how you are doing before we get the hound dogs out. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Help has been offered. I have e-mails in addition to what has been posted on this thread. ok?


L.

Fox,

You can go to the library and get on the internet, help is only an email away, you are not homeless, people here will help you.

Love in Christ,
Miss M

Fox,

Is joining the military an option for you?? You're definitely young enough. It will give you the direction (and diversion) you need to get back on your feet ... and a few dollars in your pocketbook. Please give it some thought.

Whisper,

Good point!! And you dont even have to join the active duty. You could join the Guard or the Reserves. They have money for college, plus some cash in your pocket every month for working. I did it while I went to get my BS. Had all the money I needed!! Even some extra to keep a keg or two around. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Could help your financial situation. Could also get you emotionally settled, too. People to look out for you. A structured environment to get your head on straight. Maybe even a skill or two, depending on what direction (MOS) you go i nthe military.

Think about it Fox. Could be a blessing in disguise.

In His arms.

Hi guys,

Sorry I haven't posted; the last few days have been hectic.

Everything is okay for the time being; I still have a place that I'm at. I leave for school on the 13th with an old roommate of mine - remember Pete, the guy I met Shannon through? I will stay with him at school for a week while I wait for my financial aid to come in, and then I begin the long process of adjusting in the apartment Shannon and I spent two years together in, alone - this is my biggest concern. I think, until she picks up her things; I will lock off our bedroom, I don't want to go in there - emotionally, I don't think I can handle sleeping in there alone.

I will sleep on the couch or in the guest bedroom - rearrange things, try to get rid of the memories as best I can; after all, this whole year is going to be spent trying to rebuild over what Pullman is in my mind; and that is a cesspool of broken promises and old memories that used to bring a smile to my face and heart; now they just represent sadness and what could have been.

Shannon wanted to see me one last time before I left; I told her I couldn't do it - it was too hard; and she got angry with me, told me I was "running from my problems" after which I told her that her deciding to leave our marriage was NOT my problem; that it was hers alone to deal with. However, after I sent her my goodbye letter; I watched the Passion of the Christ, and decided that I don't want to walk away from this a bitter person; I'm not out to hurt her feelings or whatever, and although it will hurt being around her one last time, - I can deal with it. I e-mailed her and told her I would get together with her in person to sign the divorce papers before I headed back to school.

At this point, I'm looking forward to heading back to school; yet I am very apprehensive of being engulfed by all the memories; I've very worried that she has ruined that city permanently for me - I hope I can find a means of being happy while I am there. As my love for her continues to die however, which I can feel it...I suspect the city will become more bareable. We will see.

Thank you for the love and support and your prayers throughout all of this. Orchid, thank you so much for the support and love throughout this, you have been a true blessing - as has been everyone else, I will be fine on living arrangements until I leave - so you guys don't need to worry anymore. I am very moved however, that complete strangers would be so willing to open their doors for me - thank you =)

Prayer warriors, continue to pray for me please...but more than anything for Shannon. I have never seen a person so lost in my life as she is right now; she's lost her faith which concerns me the most; she's lost her will to fight for what's important to her, and she's mentioned several times to me that "she's horribly depressed and hates life."

I love you guys, and I mean that sincerely; and I will miss you while I'm undergoing the moving process back to Pullman - I will get internet set up at my apartment as soon as possible, and will get back in touch when the time comes.
I would also like to try something, I don't know if others have done it before; but when I get back to Pullman, I want to start a Post-Divorce diary that I keep on here for people to read and update my status and the growth that I hope is going to occur in my life. Who knows - time from now - maybe even a new woman will enter my life? We'll see where God takes me - I'm in no hurry. Until then, I'm going out and living life to the fullest, meeting new friends, and enjoying the constant blessing that living in this world is.

Let post #700 be the end of one journey, and the beginning of a wonderful new one. Cheers!

-Aaron

Fox,

I live just minutes from you. Call out on here if I can help you with anything.

With prayers,


PS: And no more of those good-by cruel world posts, OK? My old heart doesn't take it well. Nor my kidneys and spleen.

Aaron - Hope you will go back to school and be fine. But the military might be good too. If all else fails, come on down to California. School is cheap, and the living is easy.