my husband was honest about anything i asked him for awhile

then after about a month he wrote me a letter telling methat we couldn't move forward if i kept making him remember the past and if i kept letting it hurt me.

i tried to forgive faster...but it takes time

when something would trigger the hurt...he got very hurt also

he didn't think i was trying...after awhile he said being with me made him feel too much guilt and shame and that he needed to mmove on by himself so he could heal. He said that everytimehe looked in my eyeshe could see the pain he caused me...he said he could never find happiness with me again

turns out he was back with the other woman and he's moving on with her...

i guess he thinks he won't have to face hisguilt and shame everyday...

i don't get that at all

but it turns out that i have forgiven in my own time...

because i understand now that i was not meeting his emotional needs and he was hurting...it doesn't make his choice right..heshould have communicated with me and we should have worked thingsout together...but understanding has allowed me to forgive

i wish the same for you

My W has been calling me more and asking me to take her to lunch etc; she seems to be moving on and has criticized me over a trivial issue and I told her so. To which she said I was right and apologized.

She also is providing me all of the detail info on her upcoming trip, including associates that are attending and who she is driving with etc. Many of the things I would have asked, I guess it’s easier to tell me when all her associates are women.

I like the fact she is moving on and one of our recent discussions was how she would just like everything to go away. That’s her way of dealing with it, but I still would like her to read some of Dr. Harley’s material. It is my believe that I should just give her some time, but how much? A few weeks or what?

Has anyone here experienced the shakes from time to time?

I’m not a nervous person but I feel my heart race and my hands sometimes shake and this has never happened to me before. This started happening this week and it happens about two or three times a day, sometimes when I’m by myself and sometimes with my W.

If this has happened to you, what did or can you do? Or does it just go-away?

Yes, I have.

I've never suffered from anxiety before, but my doctor told me that's what it was, and it was linked to the depression I was suffering from.

I'm on ADs now. No more shakes!

Alph.

arn't there other side effects from AD's that are worse?

I have been talking about withdrawal and how to get you WS to help you heal, when I think I just want to feel loved. Yes she says’s it, but after all that has happened I guess I would like her to do something special for me.

To all of you WS, is there anything I can do or is it just time it self?

OR maybe I'm just being selfish!