The OW was more of a weekend-stand. My H had ended it right after it happened. Upset her and she called his cell phone when we were on a trip together late one night. I knew something was up after the call (H became extremely stressed, etc).

He (I think) is still worried she will email or call, but tells me he'd tell me if she tried to make contact. Scarey, but after she called (and before I put two and two together) he wanted me to get my CWL (concealed weapons license). Who says "Fatal Attraction" was just a movie?

Good to read you are having fun again with your H.

Trying hard to keep my mouth shut and to be supportive of my WH considering his slight but expected moodiness. He has pulled away a bit, not talking much. Last week we were really close, different this week. I remind myself often that we'll be on a roller coaster for a while. Hard to sit back and let things go for a bit...the controller coming out in me (like his mom but to a MUCH lesser degree).

Finally got "Surviving an Affair" in the mail yesterday. Can't wait to start reading it. WH picked it up for a moment, leafed through the pages, looked remotely interested. He's not a big reader (like I am), so I'll just leave it around for him and maybe mention parts that he might find interesting.

Find the book "Point Man" by Steve Farrar.
My H is an "absolute" non reader, but he read this whole book and wanted to discuss with me each chapter...he amazed me.
I find most of my books on ebay (I sell there too).
http://cgi.ebay.com/Point-Man-by-Steve-F...1QQcmdZViewItem

Almost another week under our belts....as far as I know (if WH is truly being open and honest with me), the OW has not tried to contact him this week. He has definitely pulled away a bit, especially compared to last week. He has so many identity issues that the two things combines are wearing him thin.

We went to our MC together on Monday; it was good, mainly heard that the MC thinks my WH's EA was 99% due to a long-time fear of responsibility (probably stemming from childhood, controlling mother thing). I still believe that there were/are many EN's not being met both ways with us which opened the door for the EA. My hope is that my H "finds" himself and decides to stick with me and our boys for the long haul but only time will tell. For now, I'm being careful about what I say and how I say it while still being open and honest. I decided to let go of the OW and do not plan to contact her ever again. She must be in sad shape and desperate for my H at this point....however, he is with me and our boys, says that is where he wants to be.

Pray for a calm and healing weekend!

I'll be praying.

Have a nice weekend. Breathe. Make sure you have alot of activities outdoors. Nature does great things for our minds.

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