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Mimi- I read your post in helping "hurting in oklahoma", with regard to addiction etc. God you made perfect sense as this is how my wife is acting. This man is in no way like me, infact people can't believe she would stoop that low. yours bought a condo, mine is living in the front part of a auto shop with no tub or shower! She said she feels 18 again.But shes in love, or thinks she is. She will wake up one day, I know my wife, I just hope I can hang in there.
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I think she wants you to MAN UP..TARZAN, BEATING YOUR CHEST..
I think you need to ask her to move back home in order to save money and to work on your marriage..
I think your DD is a major problem if you allowed her to take charge of moving your wife out of the house...
Don't you want some romantic time alone with your WW, BIG? Why would you even think of having her there when you meet with your wife?
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Mimi you misunderstood me, DD won't be there. Of course I want romantic time with WW,but seeing how it hasn't been there, not anticipating it.
I get a positive email from her, and thanking me for dealing with DD attitude towards her. DD is a great kid, she like me is trying to see how we fit in this picture. Beleieve me she didn't move WW out as much as WW was looking for an excuse to leave. And it ain't all good over in fantasy land, as OM is oissed at WW for her talking with me.
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Big,
You sound so PASSIVE. I don't think your WW finds that to be attractive.
What are you going to do?
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Big- mine is living in her little house- that she just filed bankruptcy on. He tells me he has to buy his own soap and everything and wash his own clothes at laundry- when we have everything here.
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oh and he has no money to move to an apt(so he says) and that's why he didnt stay at motel either.
It makes no sense to me. I know she needs money
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Winter-It's kinda the same situation here. Alovely home with dogs etc.I will still be a lighthouse as some have said to be, but Mimi you can lead a horse to water, but they won't necessarily drink and if you handle them wrong they'll break free and run when cornered. I appreciate all your advice, but if I want to be "yelled "at I call WW. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
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but Mimi you can lead a horse to water, but they won't necessarily drink and if you handle them wrong they'll break free and run when cornered.
I appreciate all your advice, but if I want to be "yelled "at I call WW. Big, You didn't answer my question. I asked you: What are YOU going to do? Ok, I'll be more specific. What are YOU going to do for YOURSELF and YOUR MARRIAGE? That is PLAN A. What is your PLAN? Why would she yell at you if you called her? I thought you are planning a meeting to talk about your budget? What will YOUR AGENDA for this meeting? To me, it sounds like you are complaining about your WW and what she is doing or not doing. You are talking about her R with the OM.. You can only control yourself, BIG. There's a lot that YOU CAN DO....
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I don't talk about her R with OM. As far as me, I am trying to stay positive, focus on me and my daughter and my dogs. As far as the meeting I am submitting her with her requirements for funds on each pay day. But she'll probably cancel , as she did on DD yesterday. Gives me more time to plan anyway.
I am taking care of my house, to make it more pleasing to the eye, so when and if she shows up , she will be amazed.
As far as yelling, she looks for any chance to get a hold of the conversation, so I tell her I have to go.
She emailed me that she drives by our house and wonders, but at same time she has a peace about her situation. babble if you ask me
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Big,
Do you see yourself as WORKING ON YOUR MARRIAGE?
I will give specific suggestions:
Call your wife and ask her about her day, her life, how she is doing?
Invite her over to dinner. Have her favorite meal prepared with the house spotless.
Dress the way she likes for you to dress.
Tell her that you want her to come home to be with you so that you can work on your marriage.
MAN UP, BIG! This is called PLAN A....
Stop listening TO HER and waiting FOR HER to do something. You are right-you can't lead a horse to water. IMHO, it's time for you to step up to the plate..
A WOMAN WANTS YOU TO WOO HER....
She's seems to be begging for this from you....
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Mimi you are so good, but my wife is doing no begging believe me. The simple fact is, according to her mother, she "hits the wall" bout every 10 years and just has to figure things out. This was relayed to me last evening. She has never had an A on me, but she was emothinally,sexually and physically abused by her first husband. She still hasn't told me everything. My MIL insists that WW didn't know what to do with me and it almost seems as if she needs "strife" in her life.
I am being very caring and have asked her about her day etc and she usually babbles me... Sometimes time and patience are the best you can do.
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