Hi! I saw your thread, thought I'd check it out, but it seems like you are getting awesome advice from everyone! I DID, however, have to comment (although its a silly comment) about the song, "These Boots Are Made for Walking". Just watched the Dukes of Hazzard tonight with a friend, and saw the song was in the ending credits, sung by Jessica Simpson, in a very country/pop fashion, and boy was it a fun song! Didn't know if you cared or not, but there it is <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. Don't let your husband be a ******. Take Orchid's advice... I never would have thought of that! Cheers!

Believer -

My WH has urged her to go to the police and take the steps to protect her. OW's comment - it's just a piece of paper, he can still come after me. And if he gets arrested, he will post bail & then come after her.

WH has gone so far as to call OW's family about this. They told him that if she has told them everything is O.k.

Orchid: Do you mean for me to file a suit agains OW or for WH to file a suit against OWH?? Thanks for your post! I feel like I am living in a Soap Opera.

I woke up this morning feeling not so confident and a bit guilty. It helped to come back and read through the posts here and see the support. This is so crazy.

Kim

Bad, bad, Kim for helping the victim! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Your H is hoping and counting on you feeling guilty so that you will STOP interfering with his affair! You are feeling INAPPROPRIATE GUILT. Guilt should be reserved for actions that are WRONG. And who should feel guilty here, Kim? The one who is lying and committing adultery or the one who is exposing them?

Whose side is God on, Kim? The infidels who are committing adultery and risking the breakup of two families or the person who is trying to stop them?

Hi MelodyLane -

I know God is on my side. Just had to share my feelings so you would put me back on track. I am doing nothing wrong. Infidelity is evil. Standing up for what I believe in takes strength and courage and I have that. I will not back down.

I pray again that God gives me strength to stand firm and strong.

When I look in WH's eyes I want him to see my love and concern for him. But I am also going to make sure he is seeing a woman that is strong and who is not going to back down.

Kim

Good job, Kim! I would also keep in mind that is not your husband who is in there right now, but a crazy alien who has taken his place. Liken him to a drunk who is under the influence of alcohol, because that is exactly what he is right now. That is why you can't take anything he says seriously and you CANNOT REASON with a drunk, so don't even try.

Keep exposing, Kim, it is your only hope in busting up this affair and keeping it busted up. He must understand that you will not back down. The OWH needs another call today to inform him that the OW has been talking to your H AGAIN. And call your H's boss and the OW's boss and tell them they are still in contact.

Orchid: ....and you know this because you heard it from ______? U trust this source of info? I think he is bluffing.


Orchid: I mean for you to go find out what it takes to file an RO. You need to know the rules so you can be prepared in case you need to file. You go find out your rights. Don't tell the WS you went to find out your rights, let him know you know how to file and if he is that scared about the OW's H, then maybe he ought to go and take the RO walk. Then you will see how much he is bluffing.

Also warn OWH that RO charges c/b filed so he will be prepared to defend himself with the truth.

Right now you are both the main enemy of the A/OW and WS. Don't expect help from them expect when they get carried away with their babbling and hang themselves on their own words.

Also don't fall for their threats. WS and OPs like to threaten. Make sure you know your rights.

One time the OW called to tell me that she was going to call the police on me. I thanked her for the idea. LOL!!! Then I made 2 calls, one to my city's police station and one to the one in her town. Now both were on record of my call. Very small thing t/d but both stations said that if she did call, my call w/b registered 1st. Of course they understood the circumstances. I took this preventative step and lo'nbehold, guess who never called the police! LOL!! Yes, Mz threatening OW herself. She was tooo chicken. LOL!!!

So don't let them threaten you, instead turn their own babble against them.

A second example was when the WS told me that the OW said she thought I had hired a PI to follow her. I laughed....then I told him thanks for the idea. Now the WS and OP felt real stupid. Of course, I already had a PI on the case, they were just tooo dumb to know better. The PI had been on and off the case months earlier. Stupid aliens. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> I had my info. Again, their attempts to threaten me were foiled. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />


Orchid: I understand. Part of this roller coaster ride. Keep posting here. Remember to pray for that clear mind and calm heart. Lots of patience is needed also. Oh yea and sprinkle it with a bit of reverse babble. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Hugz,
L.

Orchid -

Thanks for sharing your story. I will go and find out how to file a RO. Unfortunately, I already brought the idea up to WH tonight in our terrible conversation that I have already posted about. WH said that he wasn't concerned about himself.(Which contradicts what he said the other night, that now he felt like he was in danger)..... Geez, he can't seem to keep his story straight.

Yeah, I'd love for OW to come visit me. I told WH that tonight. I said, that would make a lot of sense. OW, who has been circling around my marriage wants to come and see me and tell me how I am messing with her life.

WH said, You are. You are dealing with someone getting killed here.

I am so tired of this story.

Kim