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Reasons not to expose:
1. dont want him to be angry
2. dont want his family to think that I am trying to make him look bad
What I want for our marriage:
1. I want our marriage to be as good or better than it was four years ago
2. to do things as a family again...we used to have Sunday family days..he doesnt want to do anything..just wants to stay home..says it is his favorite place to be
What is intolerable in my world:
1. I dont want to share my husband w/ OW and have her know all of his deepest thoughts, fears, intimate details, sharing things about day to day life that I am not keyed in on
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Joined: Oct 2000
Posts: 35,996
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1. dont want him to be angry
You'd rather he be an adulteror? Noooooo.... angry is not terminal ... he'll live through his anger, and so will you. Adultery will kill your marriage, his anger will be temporary.
2. dont want his family to think that I am trying to make him look bad
What other's think should never stop you from making a morally correct decision.
What I want for our marriage:
1. I want our marriage to be as good or better than it was four years ago
amen to that !
2. to do things as a family again
absolutely .... but only as a family without the thorn of infidelity in it's side
What is intolerable in my world:
1. I dont want to share my husband w/ OW and have her know all of his deepest thoughts, fears, intimate details, sharing things about day to day life that I am not keyed in on
Change "I don't want" ---> to "I will not tolerate" ... and say it out loud .... are you going to tolerate another woman as a threesome in your life? I think NOT.
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Joined: Apr 2001
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Reasons not to expose:
1. dont want him to be angry
2. dont want his family to think that I am trying to make him look bad
What I want for our marriage:
1. I want our marriage to be as good or better than it was four years ago
2. to do things as a family again...we used to have Sunday family days..he doesnt want to do anything..just wants to stay home..says it is his favorite place to be
What is intolerable in my world:
1. I dont want to share my husband w/ OW and have her know all of his deepest thoughts, fears, intimate details, sharing things about day to day life that I am not keyed in on \ jh, you have no right to any of those benefits because you have chosen to do whatever it takes to a) avoid your H's anger and b) avoid the possible negative reaction of his family. You have forfeited your marriage and your children's family on your little altar of FEAR. You are sacrificing your children's family because you would rather indulge your FEARS.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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