So are you thru with texting him yet?

It's an awfully cold mode of communication, doncha think?

- Kimmy

Ok bringing pizza's and beer. Hope I can join. I am a FBS - I hope. Seeing signs that may mean contact has restarted. Praying no.

Sexysadie -listen I have to tell you this. My C told me to tell my WH that his problems were his and not to blame them on me. To be a man and stand up and do something about them. It is now something I remind him of when he shifts blame. It is Ok for you to tell him this. We had alot of issues mine blamed on me. It is because they do not want to be wrong. So they blame others. You were handy.

Sadie- don't let him pin this on you, he will find any excuse to justify his actions, also don't take the bait, he is baiting you into an arguement.

I know he has tried to bait me since day one and that is why I have remained silent the entire time. I've never given him any opportunity and it actually made him madder at me. He was trying to push my buttons every which way possible. But nothing worked. No emotions from me. We never have discussed anything.

M: Just thinking about you. Call a truce?
WS: Are you going to fix everything that you messed up.

M: You left me for another woman. You moved out. The business is between you and XX. I didn't do anything.

WS: You helped her.
M. Please talk to XX about the business.

WS: You told me to move out.
M: People in love and hurt say things they don't mean. Like you threatening to kill me. I know you didn't' mean it. (in reality, I asked him to stay the night at a friend's house to cool off)

SILENCE...I guess that was enough interaction for him for one day!

Yes text messaging is a cold form of communication. But actually I prefer it because he can't really get me flustered and I have as much time as I wish to respond back to him, so it actually works in my favor. Had we talked on the phone who knows how he would have been. Now he has something to think about for a bit. I just wish I could get the jest of reverse babble.

I don't think of it as cold, but it does remove the emotional aspect that happens while on the phone. I feel he is confusing the 2 issues and trying to deflect blame from him.
I am far from perfect I had major LB last evening, but I try to maintain.
Hang in there

Yes. I know he is refusing to accept any blame...that's the reason I think he stopped text messaging me. One, I highly doubt he even remembers threatening to kill me that night at the bar. OW didn't even remember it (LOL!!!) when confronted by WS father about it. She adamantly denied it. But his dad knew better.

He is definitely confusing the two issues. The business has NOTHING to do with me. He ran it into the ground. The icing on the cake was taking OW to Houston. His business partner hit the roof. I do accept responsibility for giving her the copy of the books, receipts, invoices...etc. Also I continue to do her billing for her and design work when she needs it done. But that's it. He asked her to let him do it again and she said NO! He has to come back to this planet before she'll work with him again. Not to say she won't but he needs to earn her trust. Again, it was her decision, not mine. It was her business to start off with so I HAD to give her the stuff she wanted.

I'm hanging...I do feel a ton better though. I feel like I got to say things I had been keeping inside. I wish I could have finished the conversation though. But it was a start and one that left him thinking about stuff.

Lisa,

glad your feeling better now. You just needed to vent and get it all out.....

Yes, I honestly do feel tons better...the ball is in his court. He's now got a partial of what I had to say for all these weeks. What he chooses to do with that is up to him. But it's obvious I did hit a nerve because he stopped messaging me.

So going back to the dark...I am taking the first steps to regaining my self-dignity and respect here. I've been letting him walk all over me the past few weeks...taking all that he has given and not said boo about anything. He's used to that from me. But now he saw a different side of me. It's obviously caught him off guard and speechless.

Off to bed, because again quoting Scarlett O'Hara, "Tomorrow is another day."

Hugs to you all!!!

Sadie-Lisa,

GOOOOD Party! (and the toilet was immaculate!)

I'm a HUGE fan of the Scarlett O'Hara method of dealing. I'm going to go to bed too! Sweet dreams chica. Tomorrow's a brand new day to throw darts at! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Sally

Lil Miss Scarlett is awake and feeling great this am!! Ready to take on the world...watch out...amazing what 24hours will do!! Plus the love and support of everyone here.

Bring on the day!! Fresh squeezed oj anyone?