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Hmmmn, hadn't considered. Does it make a difference which way you play? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I have a question for thinking through folks. What does the quote "Lighten up Frances" mean to you? If someone said it to you, what would you think?

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Hmmmm...that line was used in the movie Stripes...strange...I don't know where it came from originally though.


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Yeah, OK, so no takers. I was just curious. Wondering if you would say it to someone - what would your reaction be if someone said it to you?

I'm drinking the house red tonight: Dog House label, Checker's Cabernet. Good, cheap wine. Who says wine has to come in a box? Yeccchhhh.

So here's another question - second part. What is your favorite drink to have with hot, buttered popcorn? The real kind, with real butter, not the fake yellow typical cinema kind...

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ooo - I am eating the REAL popcorn right now - with lotsa butter - hot air popped in my popper - I have to say - when I have popcorn I have to have a can of Coca-Cola - nothing else goes with it.

Hmm - but red wine sounds great - I am a fan of the australian shiraz's personally - got some Yellow Label Wolf Blass sitting here needing to be dranken........


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I'm not coming to any party where my caftan is inappropriate. I'd show up with a thong, but if I did, people would immediately demand that I thing a different verthe. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

You and your stupid dog test. I turned out to be a Doberman! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> In a thong. Self-realization can be an ugly thing! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

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I agree with Dorry about Coke. Or a good frosty root beer.

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Define "plandemonium." Is it a variety of chiton? Or what happens when your chiton, um, slips?

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Hey there t&l,

You know, after reading your very silly statement about your caftan not being considered appropriate I thought you might be off to re-think and come back with a muu-muu instead! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> But who said your caftan wasn't appropriate in the first place. Not I! Nope. Na Naah.

Oh, it's a happy, sad little day here. Trying not to think about OW with my baby. I could go crazy with details but it's all blah blah blah in the end. Bottom line: the more time and energy she sucks out of him the better. Let them see what the other is really like 24hrs a day!

Hmmmn. A definition of plandemonium, well, let's see...

plandemonium - plan·de·mo·ni·um (n.)

1. Fantastically brilliant course of action to get life and lost love BACK.
2. A very thoughtful place: “The house was a perfect plandemonium, and the bathrooms were spotless”.

[From Plandæmonium, Cottage of **** in Paradise Tossed, an epic pun by Sally Athelny : Derived from late English plandominion, plan- (from Latin planum "level or flat surface," n. use of adj. planus "level, flat" (see plain (adj.)). The notion is of a drawing on a flat surface. Meaning "scheme of action, design") plan- + Latin dominium, property, from dominus or daemonium, demon (from Greek daimon, An attendant spirit; a genius.).]

Yeah.
Meanwhile I'm cleaning toilets!

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Sal, I will bring a pitcher of fresh squeezed lemonmade to go with the popcorn. yuuuummm...

sorry you are down. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />


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I'm not so very down. Honest. I'm healing myself in the best way I know how - lots of solitude and sun and self indulgence.

Today's Sally sm*I*le list:
I got up very late.
I ate an ice cream sandwich for breakfast.
I bought new perfume (changed the lock last week).
I threw away Phil's old running shoes.
I sent e-mail to everyone I know.
I sent my Granny real mail.
I loaded a couple hrs worth of My Funny Valentine renditions to hear as I clean.
I put on FULL makeup - so I look pretty while I clean.
I ate food that had waaaay too much garlic for lunch.
I ignored my nosy neighbor - twice.
I took a break from cleaning.
I drove around with no particular place to go (after I finished my errands).
I have my feet on poor passed out Perp as I type...

All in all, a really good day so far.

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Too many NCWaffles makes a girl too Kate Winslet-y!

Hmmm, I like Kate Winslet....but then I like Kate Moss too

OK, here goes...I have my thong...line 'em up and let's dance!!!!!

Alright I'll dance....

Hey! Where'd everybody go?


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This was not an encouraging opening for a conversation.

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You know, after reading your very silly statement about your caftan not being considered appropriate I thought you might be off to re-think and come back with a muu-muu instead! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> But who said your caftan wasn't appropriate in the first place. Not I! Nope. Na Naah.

See, it's like this. If everybody else is wearing thongs, a person in a caftan (or even a moo-moo) would be seriously overdressed, and perhaps uncomfortably out-of-place--like a confused woman who came to a formal wedding in a tank top and Daisy Dukes. On the other hand, if one's thong takes the same amount of material that would go into a caftan--I'm sorry, the person who wears a thong of that size has got NO business out in public in that particular "outfit"!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

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Hmmmn. A definition of plandemonium, well, let's see...

Very clever definition, and one into which you put WAY more thought than I was intending! I was thinking more along the lines of "After Jabba the Hutt showed up at the Sally's party in a caftan-sized thong, complete plandemonium broke out." <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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OK, here goes...I have my thong...line 'em up and let's dance!!!!! Alright I'll dance....Hey! Where'd everybody go?

RBM, I've been wondering what happened to you and your insouciant spirit! Should've known that talk of thongs would bring you out of hiding. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> We're all here for your dance...over in the corner with bags over our heads. Go for it! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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Shake it baby! WhooEEEEEE!

Hey Reb, just in case you think you want to catch up - you can read all about what happened, how and when and why, here: The condensed story with a little MB angst to boot. You just gotta read. And then keep reading.

t&l, wear your caftan with pride and comfort <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> thong optional. I'm not wearing anything under my chiton! Oh! I guess the secret's out now... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> But was that really a secret? Seems more like a psssst. Sally goes commando in her chiton - pass it on!

Oh me gawrsh! Reb back to you. OK, in an unusually judgmental fit that I regret, Froz and I were, well how did this come up? I don't even remember. Anyway, now I am sorry I ever said I thought Kate Winslet could sometimes look a trifle heavy. I can be a snot. Yep. It happens. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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OK, in an unusually judgmental fit that I regret...


Didn't mean to make you feel bad, Sally. I was just funnin' ya with our little inside joke.

Party on...

I might even dance a little bit today if you play some groovy music and light a fire. Play something mesmerizing for me...

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I'm not wearing anything under my chiton! Oh! I guess the secret's out now... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I want to see a picture of a chiton. From straight on, of course, not ground-up...at least not one of YOURS! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> I keep visualizing pink mollusks...

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If the dress code is thongs then I am wearing mine on my feet! Along with my jeans and t-shirt!


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Presumably the jeans and t-shirt are not on your feet?

Thongs don't look quite the same on me as they did a couple of months ago.


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EVERYBODY! Hi and there is no dresscode! What is wrong with you people?!?!? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Do you NEED rules? Do you want someone to tell you what to wear to the Sally Party?

Wear what you like. Like what you wear. Go bare. Bring a bear. Take a dare. Over there. Or somewhere. I don't care! It's a PARTY!!!!!

Kick back, have some food and drink and enjoy. Which reminds me - I think I'm hungry! I want some of those teeny tiny tomatoes stuffed with boursin cheese. For some reason I am craving garlic lately!

Today I counseled SexySadie to forgo plan A... I can hardly believe myself. But there it was.

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If the jeans and t-shirt are, indeed, on your feet, perhaps you have succumbed to the recent mollusk fad? Will you post pictures?


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