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Seriously ?

Well, my baby is now a definitely 100% FORMER WW.

And There's a song I'd like to dedicate to her.

It by Neil Young. Called Harvest Moon.

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Come a little bit closer
Hear what I have to say
Just like children sleepin'
We could dream this night away.

But there's a full moon risin'
Let's go dancin' in the light
We know where the music's playin'
Let's go out and feel the night.

Because I'm still in love with you
I want to see you dance again
Because I'm still in love with you
On this harvest moon.

When we were strangers
I watched you from afar
When we were lovers
I loved you with all my heart.

But now it's gettin' late
And the moon is climbin' high
I want to celebrate
See it shinin' in your eye.

Because I'm still in love with you
I want to see you dance again
Because I'm still in love with you
On this harvest moon.

I love her, y'see. Very much indeed.


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Bob.... that's beautiful!


Back when I was just starting to move on I played this one over and over... it's upbeat and I loved to sing it at the top of my lungs!

It's Jo Dee Messina's 'Bye, bye'

Boy, you sure look good there, standin' in the doorway in the sunset light
Maybe I read you wrong, thinkin' you could be my Mister Right
I was puttin' my heart and soul on the line said you needed some time, just a little more
Time to make up your mind, well, it's been long enough, the time is up

Chorus:
Bye, bye, Love, I'll catch you later
Got a lead foot down on my accellerator
And the rear-view mirror torn off
I ain't never lookin' back, (and that's a fact/and that's a fact/you can count on that)
I've tried all I can imagine
I've begged and pleaded in true lover's fashion
I've got pride, I'm takin' it for a ride
Bye, bye, bye, bye my Baby, bye, bye (-/bye/bye)

Well, don't think all those tears are gonna hold me here like they've done before
You can find what's left of us in a cloud of dust on Highway 4
Baby, what did you expect me to do? Just sit around and wait on you? Well, I'm through
Watchin' you just skate around the truth, and I know it sounds trite, but I've seen the light

(Repeat Chorus)
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During the whole crappy situation, I heard this one by Kenny Chesney and it always brought me to tears. I wished he would have stopped and thought about this (especially the part with the kids):

You know some times me and my lady have these crazy fights and when we do it makes me wonder
Are we're ever gonna get it right

When I think about leaving I think about me
What my life would be like if I were back to being free
Go where I wanna go, do what I wanna do, wouldn't have a soul I had to answer to
When I think about leaving I think about me

You know I got a friend him and his wife just couldn't see eye to eye he had all he could
Stand one day and just packed up and said good-bye

When I think about leaving I think about him
That little apartment cross town he's living in
Got an old corvette, got a new girlfriend, but only sees his kids every other weekend
When I think about leaving oh I think about him

I never will forget her face or the day she told me about her dad, how he walked out on her
And her mom when she was just a kid

When I think about leaving oh I think about her
Only five years old and her heart filled up with hurt
With her little arms wrapped around his neck saying daddy where you going, are you coming
Back
When I think about leaving I think about her

You know the truth is, most of the time things were really great and I know we got something
Special
When I think about leaving I think about us
How we build this love we share on faith and trust, honest way we talk, tender way we touch,
All those nights we spent making love,
When I think about leaving oh I think about us

When I think about leaving I think again
Even though that thought crosses my mind every now and then
In my heart I know I would never leave, there's nowhere else on earth I would rather be
When I think about leaving I think again

When I think about leaving
When I think about leaving
When I think about leaving:I think again
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NOW.... this is my song.... I think about all those days and nights I prayed to God to fix my marriage and restore my family. I wrote a lot about that here.

I remember something that I used to say about a totally different situation. "You never know the packaging that God may deliver your miracle in. Never question it."

I have my miracle. And I thank God for it now. He didn't give me my marriage... he gifted me and my children with the miracle of a new life.

Unanswered Prayers
Garth Brooks

Just the other night a hometown football game
My wife nd I ran into my old high school flame
And as I introduced them the past came back to me
And I couldn't help but think of the way things used to be

She was the one that I'd wanted for all times
And each night I'd spend prayin' that God would make her mine
And if he'd only grant me this wish I wished back then
I'd never ask for anything again

Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers
Remember when you're talkin' to the man upstairs
That just because he doesn't answer doesn't mean he don't care
Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers

She wasn't quite the angel that I remembered in my dreams
And I could tell that time had changed me
Inn her eyes too it seemed
We tried to talk about the old days
There wasn't much we could recall
I guess the Lord knows what he's doin' after all

And as she walked away and I looked at my wife
And then and there I thankedd the good Lord
For the gifts in my life

Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers
Remember when you're talkin' to the man upstairs
That just because he may not answer doesn't mean he don't care
Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers

Some of God's greatest gifts are all too often unanswered...
Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers

FIM


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This is the song that really says it for me to my FWH:

You Were Always On My Mind
Willie Nelson

Maybe I didn't love you
Quite as often as I could have
And maybe I didn't treat you
Quite as good as I should have
If I made you feel second best
.. I'm sorry I was blind
You were always on my mind ...

And maybe I didn't hold you
All those lonely lonely times
And I guess I never told you
I'm so happy that you're mine
Little things
I should of said and done
I just never took the time
You were always on my mind ...


Tell me tell me
That your sweet love hasn't died
Give me give me one more chance
To keep you satisfied
If I made you feel second best
... I'm sorry I was blind
You were always on my mind ...


I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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"Maybe You'll Be There

Each time I see a crowd of people
Just like a fool
I stop and stare
It's really not
The proper thing to do
But maybe you'll be there

I go out walking after midnight
Long and lonely thoroughfare
It's really not the time or place
To look for you
But maybe you'll be there

You said your arms would always
hold me
You said your lips were mine alone
To kiss
Now after all those things you told me
How could it end
like this?

Someday if all my prayers
Are answered
I'll hear a footstep
On the stair
With anxious heart
I'll hurry to the door
And maybe you'll be there.


Jazz Standard

Most recently recorded by Diana Krall.

Try her Live in Paris CD. VERRRRY GOOD.

Love in Christ,
Miss M


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H: FWS
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Tammy Wynette hit the nail on the head with this song that she wrote when George first left her..when I first heard this song it was right after my WH walked out on me and the kids.
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"Till I Can Make It On My Own" :

I'll need time;
to get you off my mind,
And I may sometimes bother you,
Try to be in touch with you,
even ask too much of you,
From time to time,.
Now and then,
Lord, you Know I'll need a friend,
'till I get used to losing you,
'til I can make it on my own.

I'll get by,
But no matter How I try,
There'll be times you know I'll call,
Chances are my tears Will fall,
And I'll have no pride at all,
From time to time.

But They say,
Oh there'll be a brighter day,
But 'til then I'll lean on you,
That's all I mean to do,
'til I can make it on my own.

Surely someday I'll look up,
And see the morning sun,
Without another lonely night behind me,
Then I'll know I'm over you,
And all my crying's done,
no more hurting memories can find me.

But 'til then,
Lord, you know I'm gonna need a friend,
'Till I get used to losing you,
Let me keep on using you,
'Till I can make on my own.
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Take care,

~Jamie~


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Me (40)
WH (39)
Married May 4,1991
4 kids S(18)D(17)D(13)S(11)
He left March 14,2005
Informed about MOW (co-worker) March 23,2005
I filed for D in June 2005
Divorce final - Sept.28,2005
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Peace is not the absence of conflict: It's that state we can deal with conflict effectively, efficiently and respectfully.
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I heard a song the other day and it sounded like what my H might have said to be a while ago. It is by a girl name "Aslyn" ... very obscure. It is called "Here"

I know that you want me to dream
And I don't mind dreaming
But if it's all a waste
If you're heart won't breathe
I'll choose to stay awake
And make a mess
Here's my blank confession
The sun in my will die if you bottom out
So while smiles don't stink around

I'll be here
If you want me
I'll be here
If you need me
I'll be hanging on a cloud of open invitation
Holding on to that keeping you here

Sounds like a roof came down on you
Left windows nagging
And you were wedged between getting away
And feeling slapped and blue
Here's a song that will never be too far
My love protest of how I care
So while you feel that you're caught there

I'll be here
If you want me
I'll be here
If you need me
I'll be hanging on a cloud of open invitation
Holding on to that keeping you here

I'll be here
I know that you want me to dream
And I don't mind dreaming
But if it's all a waste
If you heart won't breathe
I'll choose to stay awake
I'll be here
If you want me
I'll be here
If you need me
I'll be here
I'll be with you
Come to me
May grace be with you
Gently keep you here


Me, the WS, 25
My H, the BS, 25
Married Sept 2003
Served with D papers Aug 2005, but still hoping to make it work

History, despite its wrenching pain, cannot be unlived, but if faced with courage, need not be lived again.
--Maya Angelou

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Well, this is easy for me-- My theme song has been
"My Give a Damn's Busted" by Jo Dee Messina for nearly a year now. Right when it came out is when the crap started happening......He hates this song.


[color:"red"] Well you filled up my head
With so many lies,
Twisted my heart
'Til something snapped inside
I'd like to give it one more try
But my give a damn's busted

You can crawl back home
Say you were wrong
Stand out in the yard
And cry all night long
Go ahead and water the lawn
My give a damn's busted


(chorus)
I really wanna care
I wanna feel somethin'
Let me dig a little deeper
No, sorry...nothing


You can say you've got issues
You can say you're a victim
It's all your parents fault,I mean
After all, you didn't pick 'em
Maybe somebody else has got time to listen
My give a damn's busted

Well you're therapist says
It was all a mistake
A product of the Prozac
And your codependent ways
So, who's your enabler these days
My give a damn's busted


(chorus)
I really wanna care
I wanna feel something
Let me dig a little deeper
No, still nothing


It's a desperate situation
No tellin' what you'll do
If I don't forgive you
You say your life is through
C'mon, give me something I can use
My give a damn's busted
Well...

(chorus)
I really wanna care
I wanna feel something
Let me dig a little deeper
No, man...sorry

Just nothing.......no

You've really done it this time..ha ha

My give a damn's busted [/color]

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BW 42 WH 41 M 14 yrs ds12,dd7 PA ?? mo/yrs. Day 12/6/04, 3/20/05 and 9/2/05 "Fool me once, fool me twice, and he fooled me a third time?" I never really found out for sure...
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Well, my theme song all through my life has been the Rolling Stones - "You Can't Always Get What You Want" but I wouldnt' dedicate that to my WH. That one I save just for me.

This is what I'd dedicate to my WH right now:

Artist: Trapt
Song: Waiting
Album: Someone In Control


i wanna meet up with you
and show you what i'm thinking
i'll take you anywhere
that you wanna go
i'm sitting here bored and lonely and
you know that anytime you're free
to show me how you feel
i'll take it anywhere that you want to go
anywhere that you wanna go

and i'd make it right if you wanted it
i want it back well did you know
i crossed the line if you wanted it
i want you back

and i'm waiting for you
to get that feeling once again
reunited in the end
and i've been waiting for you
to capture my imagintaion
cuz i've been fooled by the illusions in my head
in my head

now i realize i never had it to so good
you took me anywhere i wanted to go
now i'm sitting here dreaming of the days we led
anytime i wanted i could show you how i feel
i can't go anywhere that i want to go
anywhere that i want to go

and i'd make it right if you wanted it
i want it back well did you know
i crossed the line if you wanted it
i want you back

and i'm waiting for you
to get that feeling once again
reunited in the end
and i've been waiting for you
to capture my imagintaion
cuz i've been fooled by the illusions in my head
in my head

i'll take it anywhere
i'll take it anywhere
i'll take it anywhere
i'll take you anywhere you wanna go

and i'd make it right if you wanted it
i want it back well did you know
i crossed the line if you wanted it
i want you back

i'm waiting for you
to get that feeling once again
reunited in the end
i've been waiting for you
to capture my imagintaion
cuz i've been fooled by the illusions in my head

and i've been fooled by the illusions in my head
and i've been fooled by the illusions in my head


BS: 37 (me)
WH: 35
D-Day: 6/10/05
Plan A'd from a distance - WH moved out
Plan B started: 10/04/05
Plan B fell apart: 10/14/05
Back on the Plan B pony 10/23/05
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From one of the greatest "love songs" ever:

"Ever since the day you left me
I've been so miserable, my dear . . .
I feel almost as bad as I did
When you were still here."

from "Since You've Been Gone," by "Weird Al" Yankovic
Mulan


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WH cheated in corporate workplace for many years. He moved out and filed in summer 2008.
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